9 Discreet Ways To Catch A Cheating Husband On Whatsapp

Ways to find out why he has been messaging fervently on Whatsapp

By Caren M
9 Discreet Ways To Catch A Cheating Husband On Whatsapp

Signs of a Cheating Husband

Men are creatures of habit and when they deviate from what is normal, they change their behavior patterns as well. When a man begins having an affair, he changes his behavioral patterns, so you may notice that something’s off. Here are some of the most common signs a man exhibits when he’s being unfaithful.

Acts out of Character

Being together with your partner and living together for so long allows you to learn each other’s behavior patterns and character traits. To this effect, you’ll notice it if your man starts changing his habits. At first, it may seem harmless but if it persists, and it starts nagging you at the back of your mind, then perhaps there’s cause for concern. You may notice that his typical and predictable behaviors, actions, and routines start to switch. He may prefer to go out for a drink with friends where before he was a stay-at-home guy and watch the game.

Changes phone security

Almost immediately after starting an affair, your husband will almost always change his phone’s security code. He’s communicating with another woman and he wants to keep you out of his phone. He may try to be a little clever, keeping his passcode the same but basically making his messaging apps like WhatsApp and Messenger impenetrable using passcodes or vaulting apps.

Cares more about his appearance

He may decide to change his haircut to suit a certain style or he’ll begin hopping for a different kind of wardrobe. Maybe he’ll start wearing cologne and even hitting the gym once or twice a week. While he may want to do all these things to just take better care of himself, he may also just be trying to impress a woman that’s probably not you.

Accuses you of cheating

People tend to accuse others of what they themselves are deep in. a cheater will start to project his actions onto you, accusing you of cheating on him when all you do is have a chat with Ted your neighbor. Part of it may be a strategy to have you so focused on his accusation, you barely have time to process what’s right in front of you or he may really just be paranoid that you’re doing exactly the same thing he’s doing.

Benefits of Catching a Cheating Husband Discreetly

Ladies, this is important: Never ever accuse your man of cheating if you’re going on just a hunch or a suspicion. Your emotions will likely not survive the rollercoaster he’s about to put you through because we may be blessed with the sixth sense but they’re more cunning. Gather evidence because you’re gonna need it and gather it discretely. 

Your own peace of mind

There’s nothing worse than having the constant suspicion that your husband may be playing you a fool. It’s heartbreaking and devastating and the worst part is if you decide to go to him directly about your suspicions, he may dismiss you as being crazy. Gathering evidence is for your own peace, knowing for sure if he’s cheating or not.

The evidence will be in his face

Men are cunning and if you accuse him of cheating with no evidence I a rooky mistake you never want to make. Collecting discretely will make him more forthcoming with the truth when you confront him. He can’t deny what’s right in his face.

9 Discreet Ways to Catch A Cheating Husband on Whatsapp

Catching him requires some exceptional skills in espionage, but if you’re ready to catch him texting that other woman, here are some ways to do exactly that.

1. frequent chats on WhatsApp

WhatsApp has some inbuilt features to help you get to the truth of whether your man is cheating or not. This method will require that you have him distracted from his phone for long enough for you to be able to play little spy.

Open WhatsApp and open settings then click on ‘Data and Storage usage’. When you click on storage usage, a list of all his chats will appear on the screen with the most frequent appearing at the very top.

This method will mainly get you names and numbers that may look suspicious to you so you may need to gather some more intel.

2. WhatsApp web

WhatsApp Web will allow you to interact with your husband’s WhatsApp chats in real-time. You’ll be able to get the messages that he’s sending and receiving as they happen. You just need to get his phone for a few minutes.

On the web browser on your computer, open the WhatsApp web. You’ll need to scan a QR code using your partner’s phone. Open WhatsApp on his phone and click on more (the three vertical dots) then click on WhatsApp web. A box screen for scanning will appear. Focus the box screen on the QR code provided on your computer until a connection is made.

One disadvantage of this is that a notification will pop up on your husband’s phone for the connection so you’ll need to get rid of it. Also, this only works when the two connected devices are in close proximity to each other and provided the phone is not logged out.

3. WhatsApp search button

This is a creative way to get the truth by trying out some keywords he would use to text another woman. Simply open WhatsApp and on type out some keywords like endearing terms like babe or baby or even try the word love. All the places/chats the words or phrases you typed have been used will appear ad you can then judge for yourself.

4. WhatsApp gallery share

Another creative way of catching a cheating husband is gallery share. WhatsApp keeps a log of all media shared and especially if you head on over to the gallery section. They keep a very organized log of what pictures were sent to whom or received by whom.

You know the drill; get his phone then open WhatsApp: open any chat, you can even open yours and click on the attachment pin on the message box screen. Once there, click on gallery, and on there, you’ll get a log of who he’s been sharing photos and vids with- even comes with the names.

5. Trick message

If you have a name and are pretty sure about it, here’s what you do next. Take his phone and switch the contact under the name of his side piece with one of yours- you need to make sure the original can’t contact him- and plan seduce him into a meeting. This is a little hard to pull off and only make sure you have no doubt she’s the other woman before you take things to the extreme.

Espionage apps

Before installing any espionage apps on your phone, check with the governing laws in your state to make sure that you're not doing anything too illegal.

6. Kidsguard for WhatsApp

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Kidsguard for WhatsApp was created to spy on your kid's phone but we love it because it has precisely developed remote monitoring app that can let you view WhatsApp user's chats, status, calls, and other media files to gather evidence.

Its benefits include: Being able to read his messages, even deleted ones accompanied by the name and contact of the person he's chatting with. You can also listen in on his calls, view his status, access his media files, and even get screenshots of his live screen sent to your account. 

7. Myspy

MySpy is an excellent and advanced cell phone tracking app to use for monitoring WhatsApp for cheaters. This spy app can allow you to see all the activities on your partner’s WhatsApp. Some of its features include:

●  Monitoring all the text messages and calls going in and out of your partner’s phone.

●  Monitoring other social media apps, including Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, etc.

●  View all the multimedia files saved on the phone.

●  Get the GPS location of your partner at all times.

8. Flexispy

Yet another great spying app is Flexispy. it boasts of features such as:

  • More monitoring features than any other product
  • No Hassle Remote Installation Service
  • FREE Mobile Viewer App for Android and iPhone
  • Used for Parental Control and Employee Monitoring
Of course this a service you're going to have to pay for but the packages are affordable and the app is easy to install on your device.

9. Hoverwatch

Hoverwatch is a free-service tracking app that you can use to spy on your partner's activities. It has features such as; Cell Phone Tracker, records SMS, calls history and audio, camera, locations, WhatsApp, Facebook, Snapchat, Skype, Telegram, Instagram, internet activity, calendar, contacts. For a free signup app, this is a pretty sweet deal.

What To Do If He Really Cheated?

Discovering that your hunch was more than that and your husband is a sad affair and we sincerely feel your pain. Different people deal in different ways when faced with this reality and so we can’t tell you how to act because only you know what you’re feeling. We do suggest finding healthy ways to deal with this rather than taking a pair of scissors through his good shirts.

Confront him

Confronting him will give you the chance to get into his mind and know his reasons for cheating. It may be ugly and tear your heart to shreds but learning the truth is the best thing you can do for yourself to help you pick yourself up eventually when you’ll be ready.

What To Do If He Did Not Cheat

One of the upsides of gathering data discretely is that if you find out that he’s not been cheating and it’s some other reason making him act weird, then you can let the whole thing go without anyone being any the wiser.  And your mind will be settled so you’ll be able to help him support him through whatever is going on with him without dark thoughts constantly plaguing your mind. Win-win!

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If you suspect that your man’s cheating, then you need to gather any and all evidence before you confront him. Take care not to spook him though and make sure that before you confirm that you aren’t doing anything illegal in your country before you begin your data collecting process.