9 Easy Way to Talk Dirty to Your Man When He is Your First

For first-timers, talking dirty to your man sounds like a difficult task. Me, talk dirty? No way. If these are the thoughts running through your head, then all the more you should try to talk dirty to him. Talking dirty doesn’t only involve uttering erotic phrases and words in bed. Acting sexy and being more sensual also works. All of these things help to spice things up in bed. 

Talking dirty to your man strengthens the sexual bond you have with your partner. If you’ve been feeling worn out and missing that spark you used to have in the bedroom, talking dirty helps rekindle that flame. You put yourself in a vulnerable situation that makes you feel embarrassed at first but leads to a deeper connection with your partner. Talking dirty is an excellent method to use to spice up your sex life. 

Another benefit of talking dirty to your man is the heightened sexual experience. When you talk dirty to someone, you’re building them up to the sexual encounter. If you’re good at it, the sexual tension can increase tenfold, and you’ll have sex unlike you’ve ever had before. The anticipation and build-up help increase the stimulation; you can call it foreplay even before any touching is involved. 

Keep in mind that talking dirty to your man doesn’t mean you have to say extreme phrases you hear in the movies, a simple moan, and saying that the sex feels nice can be enough for some. Talking dirty doesn’t have to be dirty words and profanities. When you do talk dirty, you reassure your partner that they are enjoying the sex. Talking dirty helps before, during, and even after the deed. 

Talking dirty is not a walk in a park for most people. An easy way to start is by first getting comfortable with the idea. Don’t think that it’s a bad thing or that it’s “dirty” to talk to him in those tones and use phrases you’re not used to hearing yourself say. The more you do it, the more comfortable you’ll be. Get comfortable and start with simple phrases like, “That feels so good,” “I want you so bad,” or “I’m going to come.” 
For some, these phrases come naturally, but even just these words can be difficult to utter for others. Practice saying them in front of the mirror and see how it makes you feel. Start small, and work your way to the harder parts. 

A good and easy way to talk dirty to your man is through playful teasing. You don’t have to be physically in the room with them to tease them; you can do it through text and the like. Playfully tease them and say phrases that will get them to want you in bed. Give subtle hints that you want some loving. 

You can tease them by telling them that you’re not wearing any underwear or grab or grope them in public and whisper in their ears that you can’t wait to get home. All of these things will increase the sexual build-up between you both and make the sex even better. 

You might be chicken to talk dirty to someone face-to-face and a veteran in text. When you talk dirty through text, you don't have to worry about seeing your partner's first-hand reaction. If it's your first time talking dirty, start through text. In mid-conversation, send a couple of hinting and teasing messages to get them excited about seeing you again. Dirty talking through text is great, especially for long-distance couples who count the days until their next meeting. 

If you don’t know how to start talking dirty to someone, try sending some provocative photos to kick start the conversation. Put on that sexy black lingerie you have in the bottom drawer, dab that red lipstick, get your phone out, and pose as you’ve never done before. Get out of your comfort zone and bring out your inner model. Send the masterpieces to your partner and wait for their response. If you want to practice talking dirty and don’t know how to, a nude photo is a perfect way to start. 

Telling someone you had a dream about them gets their imagination kicking. "Was it a sexual dream?" "Did we have sex in the dream?" "What did we do?" All of these questions will start to form in their minds, especially if you say you had a dream about them in a playful tone or send a winky face if it's through text. Once you have the conversation rolling with their "Ohhh, tell me more about it," you can start dirty talking and pave the way for your next meeting. If you're not sure how to explain your dream or too shy to say it, you can always tell them that you can show it to them the next time you meet. You're already dirty talking right there, and you didn't even realize. 

Not everyone has the same fantasies when it comes to sex. Others have extreme out of this world fantasies while others have very vanilla ones; whatever the case may be for you, talking about them with your partner is a great way to talk dirty. Especially if they are your first and you don’t know where to start. Talk about what you want to happen in the bedroom. Talk about what you want to be done to you. Talk about what you want to do to them. All of these are forms of talking dirty that don’t seem so at first look. 

Even if you don’t want to talk dirty, you should always make an effort to say what you liked about sex. Say what you like to be done to you before, say what you liked about the sex during, and say what you want to happen in the future after. Being more vocal about what you like about sex helps strengthen your relationship with your partner and enables you to be more confident in talking dirty. If you’re not comfortable going all out and being vocal while having sex, you can always start small with moans and erotic sounds. 

Describing what you liked about sex is an excellent way to talk dirty. You can say how it made you feel and how it made you feel loved and special. Complimenting your partner is also an excellent way to talk dirty. Tell them how good they made you think, tell them how great they were in bed, tell them what you liked the most about the experience. All of these things help to make you more open and comfortable to talk dirty. Once you are comfortable doing this, you can move on to more challenging tasks involving talking dirty. 

If you don’t know how to spice things up in the bedroom and don’t know how to talk dirty to your partner, why not role play and play a character? You can do master and servant, or teacher and student, maybe even master and pet. In each role-play, think about the relationship between the two and add some dirty talk in there. If your partner is into this kink, they will love you for the rest of their lives. 

Shedding away your angelic persona is more about getting over yourself and accepting that you are a dirty girl. Just kidding. If you’ve always been labeled the goody two shoes of the group or the angel and most innocent one, suddenly uttering words like, “Harder, daddy” will be an atrocity. The people around you who are used to only seeing your angelic side will be shocked, but that shock factor fades away in time. 

The best way to shed your angelic persona is to prepare your mind and heart for the change coming your way. Accept that you too have emotions and desires you want satisfied and that you’re no longer that same girl your friends saw you as. This is not a bad thing. Never see this as a negative change, for if you do, you’ll end up feeling bad about being more open. This is not a negative change but a positive one. Don’t forget to tell me that to yourself. 

At the end of the day, do you. Do what makes you feel most comfortable. Say what you want to say. Don’t say what you don’t want to say. Never feel pressured into talking dirty when you don’t want to do it. The first step to being the ultimate dirty talker is knowing what you want to be said to you. Know yourself so that you can get your partner turned on.