Understanding Men: Simple Truths Men Secretly Wish You Knew

Are you finding it difficult to understand your man? And is it because you can’t figure him out? Men don’t express themselves as well as women do. There are things they don’t say but expect their woman to get right anyway. But you aren’t a mind reader. Ohh yes you are, or you can be almost. Men function with a simple standard line: they are limited, simple and straightforward. It keeps the expectation of women low for every man. But, masculinity is a complicated business and this is the single biggest thing about men that women don’t understand. It is designed more to conceal than reveal. And hence, it generates a lot of mental pressure. Like for example, it is easier and more masculine for a man to talk about the great sex that he had rather than describing the great conversation that followed afterward. However, his feeling is equal for both of them. So, women end up knowing the male script but not the man himself. But no more. Here we have lined up a few simple truths men secretly wished women knew and understood. This will help you to understand your man a little more, reduce the mental pressure and increase the ease of understanding of feelings.

The story goes that a real man doesn’t need compliments or praise, especially for girly things. Like for instance, they don’t need praise about the jeans that show off their assets. However, the truth is exactly the opposite. Every man likes a little well-intentioned objectification. A lingering stare, a bicep squeeze: these things remind them why you were attracted to him in the first place. And yes, the praise doesn’t have to be physical all the time. Let them know if they are a good cook, or they are a good father, a helpful husband, and a caring son. Let him know if he has been a good man and he has done something that has pleased you. Understand that a man like being praised as much as a woman and watch the magic happen in your relationship. It boosts his mental strength and the feeling of being praised makes him do more.

Every man knows the importance of couple time. They even know that love that is asserted each day in the best relationships extends and deepens. However, they consider one belief lost in the theories of the relationship which says enriching oneself enriches partnerships in return. So, don’t nag if he seeks his time with his friends. Friends are as important to him as you are. His man time will ease his mental stress. In easy words, having the guy time and going hiking with the boy gang doesn’t diminish the bond a man shares with his woman. Instead, it strengthens it. Her place remains the same in his heart, only stronger. Like every girl needs the affirmation and companionship of their girlfriends, a man needs the companionship of other men. The solo time makes them feel refreshed and they come back with more to offer.

Some women think men like meek and submissive women in their bed who take what is given to them and give what’s been asked to be given. But it is not really so. A man is always intrigued by a woman who loves taking the lead in the bedroom, has a strong mental presence and lets her imagination run wild. A man wants you to remember and understand two words in the bedroom-unleash yourself. A man wants you to use every inch of your body along with your imagination. Show them who is the boss and give them good direction. The directions will heighten their intuition and your pleasure. So, go ahead, tell them what pleases you, demand from them your pleasure, guide them in doing what you want them to do.

The actual physical differences in the brain and socialization have made men weak at processing and identifying emotions as women do. A man generally has a harder time in identifying and empathising with the emotions of others. So, don’t expect your man to recognise, address and understand the way you are feeling and why you are feeling that way. Just because you might immediately recognize what is going on in a situation, doesn’t mean your man will see the same thing. Sometimes when a man is going through a difficult time, the best choice is to give him space to work through it himself. Since he is not used to discussing his problems and emotions with someone else, understand that your man might find it difficult and prefer to figure it out on his own. So, don’t expect him to read your mind and don’t push him to open up to you when he is not ready.

For your man, less is always more when it comes to makeup. He loves to see what you truly look like, especially in the morning. The fact is, today, men find excessive makeup a sign of vanity, high-maintenance and insecurity. The irony is, your man would love to see you in your running shoes and track pants, with beads of sweat on your forehead after your workout. In fact, men find women in running shoes and workout outfit hotter and its when you think you look the least put together. Moreover, a man cares about physical beauty but he cares most about the inner beauty. So, if you are ugly inside, no amount of makeup or how beautiful you look on the outside can distract him. The outer superficial beauty can catch the eye of a man but can’t keep it, only a natural and beautiful inside can.

It is always in your man's best intentions when he puts in the effort to make you happy. Sometimes he will succeed, and sometimes he will fail. Give your man the benefit of doubt. If you want something from him or you want him to do something for you, either give him a hint or tell him outright. He isn’t a mind reader: and men are usually not good at reading signs. So, expecting him to figure it out on his own will end up with your expectations failing. Drop him hints, and this will encourage him, and eventually, he will understand what you want and what he needs to do. It could mean gifts, surprises, bedroom activity or even communicating day to day.

Like women, men also crave touch, but it doesn’t always have to lead to sex. Your man needs your proximity to feel connected to you. Although it is said that the mental track of almost every man makes him thinks of sex every nine seconds, they would still like to hold your hand and hug you. However, if it leads to sex, your man won’t complain at all. Men often do think about sex, sport, video games, food, and more sex but there are more ways they think about a woman that doesn't include the bedroom. While men are notorious for giving high priority to their libido, there is more to them, and they want more, just like women.

Sometimes when your man is sitting all by himself at the end of the day, he is not waiting patiently for you to join him: he just needs a little space. Sometimes, just let him be. He might be upset over something or thinking about something. Don’t push him about telling you: he will when he feels like it. Understand that every man is very possessive about his personal space. He needs at least an hour each day all by himself. It is the time when he frees his mind and relaxes. So, if your man is just staring into space or at the telly, don’t worry, just give him a few minutes to himself.

When your man is watching a game or a movie he likes, understand that he doesn’t like being interrupted. It is a universally known fact that men and women carry different interests. But if a woman is not interested in something, she must not disturb or distract her man from watching or doing something he likes. Understand that your man is not ignoring you while he is watching a game or playing his favorite video game, he is just too involved to keep staring at you while you keep playing with your hair. So, don’t get annoyed or pick the fight at times like this.

Most of the time men behave like they don’t like public displays of affection. However, the fact is that they do. And they feel on cloud nine if the girl initiates by snuggling up to him or clinging to his arm even when he doesn’t reciprocate. It makes him feel like a protector. It is the secret wish of every man that every girl he meets considers him the best man she has ever met and proclaims it out loud every now and then. So, if you haven’t appreciated his skills yet, do it now and preferably in front of others. Pay him all your attention even if he says he doesn’t like it.

Understand that not every man is good at picking gifts and that their gift doesn’t represent their love for you. Sometime’s their gifts might seem thoughtless and boring but that doesn’t mean your man loves you any less or that he didn't try hard enough. Just understand that a man thinks differently than a woman and hence they pick for you what they think will be more useful for you. Women are better than men in picking gifts and this is a universally known fact. So, unless you are sure that your man has picked the last minute gift for you or has asked someone else to do that for him, be nice to him and appreciate his gifts and the efforts he has put in for that.

If you are in a relationship, do brag about your man. And remember never brag about some other man, especially in front of your man. This is something you need to understand and keep in mind always. Men hate it absolutely when their girlfriend brags about how good the other guy is. It makes the man feel small in comparison, annoying him to no end. So, understand that your friend might be better than your man in some fields but he doesn’t like hearing about it. Always compliment your man and brag about him especially in front of a known crowd and your friends.

The way to the heart of your man is truly through his stomach. Adage it is; old and overrated, maybe, but true to this day. Your man might not care much for your expertise in the kitchen, but if you can prepare a tasty meal for him, he will fall in love with you all over again before the meal ends. So, don’t forget to cook him something mouthwatering every now and then. Also, it’s not just the cooking skills. When you are out with your man at lunch or a dinner date, don’t "pretend" order. Know that your man might not like that at all. Like, don’t order a salad if you are aiming to eat all the fries off his plate. It will take just seconds to piss him off, even if he doesn't show it. So, order fries if you really do want to eat fries and not salad.

Even though your man might behave like a lazy walrus and seem to care less about what will happen the next day, he actually does think about the future. Just understand and remember that and let him dream in private. Don’t pick a fight about him not being worried about the future. Also, don’t keep commenting and taunting him about his carelessness about the future of your relationship and family. Your man may not share his plans for the future with you. This could be because he is too afraid to promise you something he couldn’t deliver. Understand that you man is afraid to fail and going through a crisis in life by just trying to turn all those promises into reality. Men prefer to pretend like they don’t really care about future instead of promising and failing.

Guys enjoy watching porn every now and then. A man is fascinated by a girl’s assets so much so that even if they have seen a thousand of them on the computer screen, they can’t help but watch more when they get time. So, unless it is affecting your sex life or your man is getting addicted to it, let him be. And, you couldn’t stop him even if you wanted to. However, that doesn’t mean he loves you any less just because he watches porn, understand this. In fact, join him when he watches porn, watch with him. It will not only boost your sexual intimacy, but both of you will be looking forward to watching porn together.

It is common for guys to pretend that they don’t care or they may even walk away from conversations instead of having them, but that doesn’t mean your man doesn’t hurt inside. A broken heart hurts a guy more than you think. The worst part is no one else gets to know that he is hurting inside. Almost all men love a good Adam Sandler movie as well or a movie like "The Notebook," just like women. Your man may whine and moan while you take him to such movies, but he also sniffs his tears back during a touchy scene. Guys cry but they will never admit it. They hate losing control of their emotions. Understand that you can’t ask your man to admit that he does that. And if, by chance you catch him wiping his tears, don’t laugh at him. He will hate you for it.

So, these are just a few things that every man secretly wished women knew. It would be a lot less stressful and annoying for both of you. Keeping in mind these things will make the relationship healthy. You will realize, after going through the post, that men aren’t the mystical beings they pretend to be. Underneath their complex exterior lies a few simple rules that guide a man’s life. Understand these few rules and you will understand them easily. Hope this helps.