Top 15 Ways To Make A Relationship Work Successfully

It is one of the best feelings in the world to get into a relationship with the man you are deeply in love with. Admit it; it is like a game that you finally won after competing with potential women you think he would preferably date, right? However, being inside the relationship is not the end of the game yet. It’s a continuous battle to keep it harmonious and to keep it yours for long. You have to be aware that your boyfriend is a human being who can change for the better or worse overtime. There will also be obstacles you have to face together and it will be up to your maturity to make the relationship work successfully. Also, know that there would be possibilities or temptations of cheating, wanting to breakup, and not speaking with each other for days, even weeks. Just reading about them probably tires you already, don’t it? If you are new to dating, you have to know that relationships which work successfully are earned. Just because you finally get yourself a boyfriend doesn’t mean he is bound to last lifetime. As much as being involved in a relationship brings a good and light feeling, it can be somewhat a challenge for both parties involved. Those you see which work successfully probably stood the test of time—it underwent misunderstanding and fights, third parties cheating, on and off romance, etc. Sounds hard work, isn’t it? But do not worry because there are ways you can do to make your relationship work successfully and last for long. And no, it doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg; if your relationship revolves around love, these tips will be a piece of cake.

When you get into a relationship and you want it to work successfully, keep in mind that you are probably in for a lot of adjusting to do. What you are when you were single has a possibility of changing when you already have a boyfriend. If you are the type of woman who always gets what she wants every time, you might have to consider adjusting your attitude if you want the relationship you’re into to work successfully. Your boyfriend is not a robot who’ll just follow everything you want. He’s a free-willed human being who can have conflicts with you if both your actions don’t go along. Being emotionally matured means you are willing to sacrifice things and be selfless so both you and your boyfriend can be happy.

If you and your boyfriend became friends before turning your relationship into something romantic, good news for you, because it means you had the chance to get to know each other well. But not all relationships went through friendship. Would that mean it won’t be successful? Of course not! You can still build a strong friendship inside a romantic relationship. Never disregard the power of communication—talk to your partner whenever you can. Whenever you both have free time, spend it together strolling in a park or a mall. Get to know your boyfriend’s interests and hobbies and try to get yourself into his activities too. The secret to building a strong friendship is always making time for each other no matter how busy you both are.

Do you remember how dedicated you were to him when you were still in the courtship stage? You probably did not care about his imperfections, right? Because all you could think of is how romantic he woos you and how much you love him. However, when you are already in a relationship, it’s unavoidable that these imperfections might annoy you and you suddenly desire to change them. This is a big NO. Accept your boyfriend for who he is. If it happens that he has a weakness that he’s struggling with, instead of downing him more, support him to overcome it. Never change someone’s ways for your contentment. If you really want your relationship to work successfully, truly love your partner even with their flaws.

It is okay to always make sure that both of you will have good futures but if it becomes at the expense of your time you spend for each other, unfortunately, the relationship might end before you even reach your goals. Do not plan too much and do not work too hard. It’s better to focus more on what’s happening in the present and be spontaneous instead of following an outlined routine. Besides, most of the time, plans are usually jinxed. So, bring excitement to your relationship and just go with the flow. Never sacrifice the little moments you can have with your boyfriend just so you can ensure your future.

For a relationship to work successfully, it is important for both you and your boyfriend to grow together and to be one unit. However, some women get too overly attached to their boyfriends that “personal space” doesn’t seem to exist in their vocabulary anymore. When we say growing together, it means supporting each other’s aspirations. It doesn’t literally mean that you have to be with him 24/7. Keep in mind that although you’re now in a relationship, each of you has still their own personal affairs. Help each other when you need to, but never take yourself for granted to focus only on the other.

It’s only natural to have your own goals and aspirations but be aware that some of them might have to change when you get into a romantic relationship. You must know if there are common goals between the two of you so there would be something that you’ll both achieve and share together in the future that would make the relationship last longer.

If you are dreaming of a perfect relationship, forget it because such doesn’t exist. And trying hard to make it one will only lead to breakup. You and your partner are both human beings and there would be instances where you’ll have to disagree with each other. Accept that conflicts in a relationship are very normal. Don’t waste the connection you’re building with him just because of some misunderstanding. However, whenever you find yourself engaged in feuds with him, talk about it like adult, matured humans instead of facing it like children having cat fights.

Relationship is not a game; it’s a natural thing to do something nice for your partner without expecting anything in return. Do not count these gestures to make your boyfriend feel guilty when it’s beneficial for you. Same goes for the mistakes he committed; never bring them up every time you quarrel just so you can make him feel like the loser and feel better about yourself. Such behavior will lead your relationship to breakup.

Over the years, some relationships lose its passion and couples tend to follow only a routine. Though it’s natural, it has actually an unhealthy effect to your relationship. Never forget to be romantic to your partner. Whenever you can, surprise him with gifts and show him how your love for him never changed since the beginning. It may sound corny and cheesy, but you’ll be surprised how your relationship will last longer if you never lose your passion for each other.

We won’t always like our boyfriend’s friends because we tend to think some of them are bad influences or maybe tempting him of cheating on you, right? But know that this is just our own thinking and our insecurities. Never isolate him from his peers and tell him that you’re all he needs. He’s a human being who needs to interact with people too just like you. It’s okay if you don’t like them but at least, try to respect them. It’s natural to sometimes remind him to choose his friends too but you’re not the one who’ll get to decide for that.

If you want your relationship to work successfully, you have to admit to your mistakes if they’re really yours. In love, there should be no loser or no winner. Both of you should learn from each other and should not be pointing fingers to clean your own hands. Apologize to your partner if you’ve done something wrong, and in return, he’ll do the same and be honest with you. Humility is what’s going to make your relationship last longer.

Do not fear if your relationship gets ordinary over the years. Remember that it should not always be exciting—travelling to exotic places, a fancy dinner reservation every week, giving each other extravagant presents every now and then, and the like. You’ll find yourselves both sitting in a couch and doing nothing, or eating TV dinners while watching a late night show and it may get boring. However, you have to accept ordinariness. It’s not the activities that are important; it’s your passion for each other. As long as you are both confident that love revolves around your relationship, it will surely last longer.

When you have something to say to your partner, do not be hesitant to speak your mind. Communication is one of the essentials to make a relationship work successfully. You don’t have to worry about him not liking what you have to say, it’s about being completely honest and not hiding anything from him. If you doubt him of cheating on you, or you are aware of something that he’s not telling you, initiate the conversation instead of playing mind games because you’ll just lose your mind if you do the latter. Don’t worry about sharing to him what troubles you, however, do not be too outspoken and always pester him with silly thoughts you just made up.

One of the strongest ways to make your relationship last longer is to encourage each other. When one is going through a downfall, the other should always be the shoulder and the hand to support. There would be times where your partner might overshadow you, and in some relationships, couples tend to pull each other down to feel better about their own selves. Love doesn’t revolve around such relationships. When you see your partner gaining success, push him more to the top and in return, he’ll do the same to you. When you encourage each other, it’s easier to grow together.

If you want your relationship to last longer, there should be no room for any negativity. It may be difficult to stay optimistic especially when things are not going well, but when you have a loving partner to support you, it may help. Try to practice handling your troubles with a positive attitude. Instead of being problematic alone, share them with your partner and think of solutions instead of exchanging criticisms. Don’t be the nagging girlfriend, who pulls down her boyfriend with her as the relationship would eventually lead to breakup. Smile and always think that impossible is just an opinion.