20 Clear Signs You've Fallen Out Of Love With Your Husband

There is a point in your marriage that you feel like you do not love your husband anymore. Here are some of the signs to tell that you have fallen out of love.

By Dagmar Thomson
20 Clear Signs You've Fallen Out Of Love With Your Husband

20 Clear Signs you have fallen Out Of Love with Your Husband

Every marriage goes through different chapters in life. There is the courtship stage, the newlywed stage, starting a family stage, and the old stage. Each of these stages has its own ups and downs. You may not feel the same about your husband after you have passed some of these stages. The love you once shared diminished with time and the cuddling stopped long ago. You may not have realized that you have drifted apart with years and fallen out of love with your husband. Some warning signs are clear but some come in a subtle way. If you doubt yourself, here is a checklist of clear signs that you have fallen out of love with your husband.

1. No More Cuddling

Cuddling among couples who are in love is natural. Couples cuddle to feel close and safe with each other. It becomes a problem when you do not feel the affection. You become moody and you try to push your husband away whenever he tries to cuddle you. This is a sign that the affection you once felt for your husband is fading and you are falling out of love. It is a major concern when your husband attempts to make a physical connection with you while you brush him away more often. Your spouse will start thinking whether there could be an issue.

2. You Have a New Hobby

You once spent time with your husband trying to make each other happy. Now you have changed, and you hardly have time for him. You spend most of the time concentrating on your new hobby. It is normal to engage in a new activity that makes you happy, but you might be doing this to avoid your husband. When you become passionate about your new hobby, it will become an obsession therefore, you will ignore your husband. This is a sign that you are falling out of love.

3. You Do Not Care About Your Physical Appearance

You once spent a lot of time in front of the mirror getting ready to please your husband. Now, you do not care how you look. You have added extra pounds and you have lost interest in your fashion sense. It is likely that you have lost interest in your husband. You do not care if he finds you attractive or not. Lack of interest in your appearance may be a great way to keep your husband away from you. You might not realize it, but you are falling out of love with your spouse. Lack of interest in your appearance can be the fact that you are depressed about the issue of falling out of love. Seek advice before it gets out of hand.

4. You Avoid Communicating With Your Husband

You no longer talk with your husband the way you used to. Your husband is left puzzled as to why you no longer seem interested in communicating. You brush him off every time he tries to engage you with a topic. You always become vague and you seem irritated when he talks to you. Lack of communication will make you lose connection with your husband. If that happens constantly, you will drift apart and your marriage will end. Lack of communication is among the major signs that you are falling out of love with your husband.

5. You Avoid Looking into Your Husband’s Eyes When Talking

You used to stare into each other’s eyes when you were in love. Now, you hardly look at your husband when you two talk. You are uncomfortable when he maintains eye contact with you while talking. Your husband will wonder if you are hiding something from him. Avoiding eye contact with your husband is a way of letting him know you have fallen out of love and the marriage is ending.

6. You No Longer Share Common Interests with Your Husband

Married couples have common goals that they work towards achieving. They enjoy sharing the same goals despite their different interests. However, it becomes a problem if you do not have the same goals. If you do not share a common ground, then there is nothing connecting the two of you. Falling out of love with your husband can make you have different interests in a marriage.

7. You See Your Husband as Your Friend and Not Your Lover

Most couples want their spouses to be their closest friends. In order for it to work, you have to be physically attracted to him. The chemistry between you two should be undeniable. When you fall out of love with your husband, you might place him in the friend zone. This is among the signs that things are changing in your marriage. Seeing your husband as a platonic friend means you no longer have feelings for him. You should seek advice before your marriage crumbles.

8. You Avoid “The Future Talk” With Your Husband

Most couples constantly plan their future together. You have achieved some of the plans together while others are underway. If you are no longer interested in talking about the future with your spouse, you may not want anything to do with him anymore. Your marriage is doomed if there is no further communication about the future. This is a perfect way to communicate to your husband that you have fallen out of love with him.

9. You Are Jealous Of Other Couples

If you are jealous of couples who are in love, it might be one of the signs that you are not happy in your marriage. The last thing you dream of seeing is couples who are in love. You may feel that you want to take your relationship to the next level, yet you are not ready for it. This can make you feel depressed since you perceive it as if your husband has expectations that you are not fulfilling.

10. You No Longer Trust Him

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Trust in a marriage is a major pillar. When trust is gone between couples, the marriage becomes loveless. You once trusted your husband but now, you constantly think that your husband is up to no good. You no longer trust him with your personal issues. Accusing your innocent husband all the time will bring conflict. Trust issues can make you feel depressed in a loveless marriage. Do not wait for the depression to take root; seek advice from a marriage counselor or someone you trust.

11. You Have a Wandering Eye

Falling out of love can make you have a wandering eye. You will feel you are attracted to other people and you may even fantasize about them without any remorse. You will not see your husband the same way you used to. This can cause pain to your husband, especially if he is still in love with you. Your husband will be left wondering where he went wrong. You can still save your marriage if you are willing to seek advice from a marriage counselor. Having a wandering eye is among the major signs that you no longer love your husband.

12. You Feel Trapped In a Marriage When You Are Out Of Love

If you feel depressed in your loveless marriage, it can be due to a feeling of entrapment. You are unhappy all the time and you do not see anything good in life. Whenever your husband is around, you feel like you are suffocating. A feeling of entrapment in a relationship is a good sign that you have fallen out of love with your husband.

13. Being Out Of Love Makes You Lose Libido

When couples are newlywed, they hardly get their hands off each other. Their love is pure and they are always happy. Things change when you fall out of love. You lose your libido and your sex life ends. Your passion fades away and you can hardly look at your husband.

14. You Dwell On Negativity When You Fall Out Of Love

When you fall out of love, you keep on recounting the ways your husband has disappointed you. This is all you see whenever you are together. All the good things he did for you in the past are forgotten and you cannot seem to remember any good things about him.

15. Your Husband’s Quirks Irritate You

Everybody has his or her unique quirks. When you no longer love your husband, his habits will annoy you easily. If you consistently complain about his minor quirks, this is a clear indication you do not love your husband. You will not be fine even if he decided to stop the minor annoying habits. You do not feel content being with him.

16. You Constantly Fight When You Fall Out Of Love

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Every relationship has its own problems. At times, couples fight while other times things are fine and they seem to forgive each other. However, when you constantly fight, and it becomes hard to forgive each other afterward, you have probably fallen out of love. Repeatedly intense arguments in a relationship can make the couple drift apart. This is among the major signs that you have fallen out of love with your husband.

17. You Feel Intimacy is Like an Odd Job

It is natural for couples to have boring sex at one time or another. However, if the boring sex continues and you lack intimacy with your husband, this is a sign that things are not fine between you two. Falling out of love can make you feel like you are putting a lot of effort in the bedroom.

18. No Room for Excitement

Couples who are in love are always excited to see each other. However, instead of excitement, you feel bored by the presence of your husband. This is a sign that you no longer feel the same for your spouse. When excitement ends between couples, so does the love for each other.

19. Marriage is no longer Effortless

It is natural for couples to share responsibilities in a relationship. This does not necessarily have to be equal among the couples. When your husband starts giving everything into your marriage, and you are giving nothing in return, this means you have lost interest in keeping the marriage intact. Therefore, you no longer see the importance of staying with your spouse.

20. You Make the Relationship All about You

You always placed your husband’s needs before yours. Now, things have changed and you hardly think of his needs anymore. You barely notice when he lacks something in the house. You have concentrated on your own needs and your husband’s needs matter no more. Nothing kills a marriage faster than relentlessly assessing if the current situation makes you happy. When you focus on your own needs and if they are not met, you will be disappointed in life. Falling in love and out of love is a choice a person makes. You may have forgotten how to love your spouse. However, given a second chance, you can both choose to love each other all over again and forget your problems. This will only work if both of you are willing to commit. Courtship, flirting, and occasional dates with your spouse are the primary pillars to make a marriage last.


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