Boring Boyfriend? 20 Ways To Spice Up Your Relationship

Is your boyfriend boring? How long have you and your boyfriend been together? Three months? Six months? A couple of years? Are there any signs of problems? Has there been any change in your relationship with your boyfriend from when you first started dating? He still treats you the same? Still have the same spark? If you answered, “No”, to any of these questions, then this article is for you.

Is your boyfriend cheating? “No”. Are you sure? Maybe the spark is missing because he's found a light in someone else. Are you certain that the reason is because he's gotten comfortable and not because he's seeing or wishing he was seeing someone else? He's not going out without you? He isn't sneaking off to spend hours on his phone? He hasn't changed his passwords to keep you out of his social media accounts? He hasn't started dressing differently when he goes to work? He hasn't come up with a bunch of lame excuses to go out with the boys? Okay, you're right. He's just content. Are you still in love? “Yes”. Good. Is he boring? “Yes”. What are the signs that he is boring?

When you first started dating, your boyfriend took you out for dinner and dancing. Now, his idea of a fun Saturday night is playing Halo and Quick Trip egg rolls. Girl, I feel your pain! Although if he’s bringing you home veggie rolls, you really shouldn’t complain! Those things are to die for, but only on a cheat day. Hello? Now, that’s boring. Watching a guy play video games and ignore you is definitely a deal breaker; unless you're busy on social media. We’re going to discover 20 ways you can turn your boyfriend from boring to exciting. I hope you're excited about the upcoming challenge of turning your boring boyfriend into the exciting, fun-loving guy he used to be when you first started dating. You might even ignite a spark in the two of you that wasn't even there during your infatuation stage. If you’ve decided that your boyfriend is a keeper, read on.

1. Dinner: Your boyfriend considers take out, through the drive-thru, as an appropriate option for date night. You consider the drive-thru a tad on the boring side. 2. Dancing: The only dancing your boyfriend participates in is watching and laughing at YouTube videos of diapered Babies busting a move to “Girl, look at that body”. Boring? Yes! 3. Working Out: Speaking of “look at that body”, your boyfriend stopped taking care of his when he started leaving his toothbrush at your apartment. 4. Midnight Stroll: Only to hit Taco Bell. They are open late! Definitely one of the signs that he's getting boring. 5. Romance: Watching your boring boyfriend sitting on the sofa scratching himself was not what you had in mind when you said you wanted to spend all day with him and wake up with him by your side. You wanted snuggling on the sofa, reciting poetry, feeding each other chocolate dipped strawberries, while watching romantic comedies on television. What you got was Al Bundy. Not what you were thinking! 6. Conversation: You used to spend hours at night under the stars talking about your hopes and dreams. Now the only time your boyfriend looks at the sky with you is to decide how long until it rains. A little more boring, than romantic.

1. You: The first thing you need to address is you. Are you contributing to the lack of spice in your life? Are you boring? Do you wear sweats, no make-up, and haven’t ran a brush through your hair since he moved in? Yikes! You might be a little on the boring side yourself. He’s only following suit. There is nothing wrong with getting comfortable. It tends to be a positive sign of a safe and content relationship. However, it can eventually lead to dissatisfaction if allowed to go on too long or too an extreme. A couple days a week, grab your grubby gear and get comfy. The rest of time, dress nice. Take care of yourself physically and emotionally. 2. Complement: Your boring boyfriend, if he’s like most men, thrives on complements. It doesn’t matter how small the action is, if you like or appreciate it, tell him. Bragging about him to your family and friends; especially if he is in earshot, will have his chest puffed up in no time. When his male friends are around, toss a complement his way in front of them. Try not to make it look staged or over the top. It could come off as signs of being sarcastic and snarky. Find that happy medium. Be consistent with the complements. 3. Conversation: When your boring boyfriend is not busy and you have a few moments, have a conversation with him about some of your favorite memories of the two of you together. Thing she bought you, places you went, romantic trips, sexual encounters, dreams you wished for together, or hopes you still want. Throw out little nuggets. Don’t turn the conversation into nagging about what he doesn’t do anymore. Keep it to praising what you have done together. At first don’t make the conversations long and drawn out. It could go something like, “The other day, I saw a moon necklace on Amazon. You remember that night we stayed up till 4 a.m. watching the stars. That was a great night. What do you want for breakfast?” 4. Innocent Touch: Touch is one of the most important parts of an intimate relationship. If you’ve been stuck in a boring relationship, it might have been a while since you touched your boyfriend for no reason. Sex does not count. We’re going to talk about that later. This strategy is about innocent touching. Endearing. Caressing. When you walk by your boyfriend, place a hand on his back, his arm, or his shoulder. Massage his neck and shoulders when he’s tense. Offer to scrub his back in the shower. Or when he’s drying off give him a smack on the naked booty and keep on going. 5. Surprise Your Boring Boyfriend: I was going to say cater to your boyfriend’s needs, but didn’t want to give the impression that you should be subservient to him. That’s not the point I’m trying to make. However, to care about someone is to pay attention to their needs and wants and to provide for them. So instead of being subservient or feeling that showing extra care for someone is somehow a negative on your character, do this as little or as much as you see fit. Make your boyfriend’s favorite meal, buy something that he always gets for himself in a little gift bag, if he’s low on his go to snack, purchase them before he does. These actions are signs of how much you care about him and that you notice him.

6. Watch TV Together: Ask your boring boyfriend to watch a TV series with you. Pick out a few different ones for him to choose from. It can either be one that you can binge watch together or a few current ones that you can anticipate and discuss together throughout the week. Make the choices from categories that you both like, but try to keep the topics exciting (sex, fighting high energy type shows) or comedies. Having something in common together is vitally important to sustaining a relationship. You need something to have conversations about. Something that you both know about and can share together! If all else fails, let him pick. You still get the point of the strategy. Common ground! Even it is only on the History Channel or sports. 7. Date Night: Start a weekly date night where you leave the house together and sit down somewhere. It doesn’t have to be a fancy restaurant. The requirement is to put on decent clothes and be together. Oh, I almost forgot, put your phones up while you’re eating! This is a time for the two of you to connect and have a conversation. Not read about a boring conversation that someone else is having somewhere that is not at the restaurant you’re at. 8. Adrenaline Rush: If you don’t know what your boyfriend always wanted to do as a child and never got to do or activities that he enjoyed doing when he was younger, find out. Ask questions about what he wanted to be when he grew up. Did he always want to be a baseball player, go skydiving, ride in a helicopter, drive a motorcycle, have a paintball fight, watch horror movies at the theater, ride roller coasters, have a water balloon fight, be a big roller at the casino, find out his dream and make it happen. You’re feeding his inner child. And go with him. Don’t send him off with the boys, go and cheer him on. Even if you hate it, appreciate the joy on his face. Adrenaline is not boring. 9. Have Fun: Do activities together where you can laugh. Enjoy your boyfriend’s sense of humor. Go to a comedy together at the theater. Watch stupid YouTube videos with him. Re-watch movies that you enjoyed when you were first dating or movies that he wanted to see when he was younger, but he wasn’t allowed to. Have a conversation with him about what R-rated movies his mom wouldn’t let him watch and he snuck out to see, or never saw. Watch them now. It will give that sense of the forbidden for him and pump up his adrenaline. Play up to the idea that he is doing something naughty! Naughty is not boring. 10. Get Sweaty: Work out together. Encourage each other to be healthier so that you can have many years to grow old together. The more physical the activity; the more you can have physical contact or cheer each other on. Appreciate the physical aspects of your bodies. Show appreciation for your boyfriend getting toned or losing weight. Seek opportunities to touch his muscles, ogle his tight behind, or whistle at his gleaming abs. Hey, we’re about to start getting physical here! Things are turning from boring to exciting.

11. Notes: When you leave for work, write your boyfriend a cute, sexy, non-boring note and leave it on the mirror in the bathroom or on your pillow. Tell him something that you enjoyed from the night before or what you’re looking forward to. If you boyfriend goes to work before you do, hide a note in his briefcase or lunch for him to find when he gets to work. 12. Texts: Send your boyfriend a text to get him steamed up about the night ahead. Be detailed on what you plan to do with him, where, and how often via text. Especially if you know he’s going to be sitting in a boring training or meeting. This way he has something to fantasize about instead of listening to his boss. Don’t do this if he is presiding over the meeting. He might get distracted and mess up the presentation. That won’t get you any brownie points! 13. Lingerie: Ask your boyfriend what his favorite style is of lingerie. Take him with you and let him pick some out. If he’s too shy, have him look on-line with you and pick out a couple that he finds attractive. Once you purchase some that you both like, set up a runway. Do a little modeling for him. Do some poses and let him take photos to keep. Have fun with it. Is he still boring? 14. Messages: Send your boyfriend some photos of you dressed in your lingerie, when he’s at work or out with the guys. If you’re shy or afraid his boss or friends will catch a sneak peak of something they don’t need to be seeing, send him a photo of your bed, the lingerie, some chocolate body paints, whip topping, a jar of cherries, or whatever is going to get him hot and bothered. 15. Body Paint: Ask what your boyfriend’s favorite flavors are if you don’t already know. Which you should! Go to an adult store and purchase some body paints, and edible panties. Head to the grocery store and purchase some spray whipped cream, chocolate syrup, and fruit for dipping. Get ready to get sticky. Buy whatever else you feel like you need. Maybe some handcuffs or a blindfold! I’m not sure how he could still be boring by this point.

16. Meet Your (Not so Boring) Boyfriend at the Door: When he comes home from a long day, meet him at the door with a long trench coat and his favorite lingerie underneath. Or nothing if he prefers. There’s nothing better to help a guy de-stress than the thought of his girl waiting to meet him for some frisky business. 17. Whisper to Your Non- Boring Boyfriend: If you are out with his friends or at a work function, whisper in his ear what you want to do with him when you get home. Make it explicit. Touch his thigh under the table. Rub your toes under the leg of his pants. Unless he has a thing for stilettos, then leave the shoes on. Catch him in a dark hallway and kiss the socks off him. Then step away like nothing happened before re-joining the crowd. 18. Fantasy: Find out a fantasy that your boyfriend had when he was a high school kid. Where and with whom did he dream of having sex. Get in character and re-create your boyfriend’s fantasy. Not boring! 19. Public: Find a public place that you aren’t likely to get caught or arrested and make out with your exciting boyfriend. If you can pull it off, have sex there. The thrill of getting caught will send his adrenaline into overdrive. 20. Strip-Tease or Games: Do a kinky striptease. Take pole dancing classes and install a stripper pole in your basement or living room. Make sure it is one you can take down when your family comes to visit. They might not understand your newfound non-boring relationship. Finish it off with a lap dance. Find sex games that you can play and try different ones every week. Make a production of picking out a few different ones, write them down on slips of paper, and have him draw the winner out of a hat. Don’t play the game that day. Anticipation is the key!

If you find your relationship worth fighting for and don't want to be stuck in the same boring rut, incorporate a few or all strategies into you and your boring boyfriend’s relationship. It is sure to spice up your days and likely your nights. You will enjoy a closer and more rewarding relationship and conversations.