Pros and Cons of Dating a Single Mother in Real Life

Dating a single mother is kind of a potential and mature relationship but it comes with a lot of complications too. Every single mother always places her children above you and they will always be her first priority. Along with children, there may also be possibilities that she is co-parenting and her ex plays an important role in her life, so you need to make yourself comfortable with all these things before pursuing into a relationship.

But for men who are mature and responsible enough to handle the baggage that she is going to bring, should consider a relationship with a single mother. A single mother has more probability of being mature as compared to another woman and as she has a lot of responsibilities on her, so she can't be careless in life. So dating a single mother has a lot of pros and cons that we are going to discuss with you. One should consider these pros and cons before moving into a relationship with a single mother.

There are many advantages of dating a single mother such as
•    A single mother is very mature.
•    A single mother is of less maintenance
•    She is not dependent on anyone.
•    Most of the single mothers are looking for serious relationships
•    Generally, single mothers are less demanding of time

But dating a single mother comes with many disadvantages too such as 
•    She may have trust issues due to the failure of past relationships
•    Any single mom will prioritize her children first
•    You have to maintain a good relationship with her children too
•    Scheduling a date night with a single mother could be difficult
•    Dealing with her ex being around children

I will be expanding more on each pros and cons of dating a single mother later.

A single mother is the one who is unmarried, divorced or widow and has a dependent child or children.

There are eleven million families in the USA led by single mothers. With about half of all marriages in the USA becoming divorced, there has been an unbelievable increase in the trend of single motherhood in the last fifty years in the USA. In the USA, among single parents 81% are women in which 50% are unmarried, 29% are divorced and remaining are widowed in the year 2017.

Here are some pros and cons that you should know before dating a single mother.

A single mother has too many responsibilities, she needs to take care of herself and her children as well. She has to care for her children health, education, games, career, and many more things.  For one person, all these tasks are very difficult and require so many sacrifices and hard decisions.

All these situations bring a good level of maturity among single mother and make her responsible and well-disciplined in life.

A single mother is forced by life to care for everything by herself. She is in habit of earning herself, doing all the household work, raising her kids, educating them and all. If you are dating a single mother, you need to know that she doesn’t need you for help, she only wants you as a partner.

A single mother never wants any man to control her life and take away her freedom, she never wanted to live under a man and is not dependent on you.

A single mother has no time for a temporary relationship, neither does she wants any games in a relationship. She is looking for a serious and long-lasting relationship. She wants to make sure that you are of her type or not before introducing you with her children. If you are looking for a serious relationship than a single mother is definitely suitable for you.

Single mother doesn’t demand much of your time and attention as she is already involved with her kids for most of the time. Single mother doesn’t look for a full-time commitment because she has a lot of responsibilities and works in their life. A single mom is not selfish and puts her child’s need first. And due to this nature, she is not gonna be selfish or unrealistically demanding in a relationship.

A single mother may have trust issues and she may be emotionally scarred because of non-working of the previous relationship. You need to work a lot in gaining her trust and you also have to be part of her healing process. 

For any single mother, her children will be her first priority in life and she will give 100% commitment to her children. You need to accept and understand the fact that you will never gonna be her first priority.

If you want that your relationship will work with a single mother, you need to understand the bond between a child and her mother. You need to maintain a good relationship with her children and need to create an environment where her kids also like you. You have to treat her children as your own and need to act no less than a father.

A single mother have to give a lot of time to her children, so she will have a busy schedule and can rarely take out her time for a date, especially at nights when her children need her the must. You have to arrange dates keeping her schedule in mind and can go date mostly at day time when kids used to be at school.

It must be hard for you but you need to accept the fact that her ex will meet the children too and if she is co-parenting this could gonna happen more enough. You need to understand the situation and have to act maturely and respect her ex. If you are not comfortable with this situation, you should not date a single mother

There are many grants offered by government and other non- profit organizations to support single mother for rent, medical bills, utility bills, education, childcare, housing etc.
 

The government offers many grants for single mother including

• Federal Pell Grant
• Federal Work-Study
• Child care assistance program
• Public housing program
• Medicaid
• Children’s health insurance program
• Supplement security income
• National school lunch program
• Local food banks
• Lifeline program
• Paid family leave
• Unemployment insurance
• Women, Infants and Children Program etc.

There are many non- profit organizations that provide help and support to single mother including Single Parent Alliance Of America, Single Mother Grants Organisation etc.

If you are dating a single mother, you should also have to take responsibility to provide financial as well as emotional support to her and her children. You should have to her children like yours and have to help them in schooling and many other essential life activities.

Dating a single mother has many advantages and disadvantages. A person should prefer dating a single mother if he wants a serious relationship and is mature & responsible enough to deal with all the difficulties mentioned above.

You shouldn’t be involved in a relationship if you can’t handle the fact that she has kids or that her ex is in touch too. The situation could be more complicated if she is co-parenting. A relationship with a single mother could be difficult as you have to maintain a relationship with her children too. You have to treat them like your own.

However, dating a single mother could be a lot better for you if you are looking for a responsible person. A single mother is often involved in running a household and raising children, and it could bring changes in behavior and make her more disciplined and responsible.

Never push or hurry in a relationship with a single mother, take time and give her time too, to know you a lot better before introducing to the children. If you think it’s not working out for you then stop getting yourself involved with her and her children, and step back from the relationship.