8 Tips On How To Make Love And Pleasing Your Partner in Bed

Tips on how to make love and getting into the groove of it

By Evelyn
8 Tips On How To Make Love And Pleasing Your Partner in Bed

The meaning of making love

There is a difference between having sex and making love, that's no big secret right? If you are not aware of the differences then, maybe, you haven't experienced it for yourself or you're just not sure. They're very different acts. Sex is instinctive, biomechanical, everybody knows how to do it. Love making could be considered (and should) an art; it's not goal oriented, it's slow, sensual and most important you have to have a connection with your partner. It involves emotions and romance.

So, what does it mean to make love? The act of lovemaking has a different motivation than just having sex. The primary motivation for making love is to connect at an emotional level with your partner. It's a complex expression of love. It's not just about satisfying or exploring the body. Love making gives sex depth, it encourages both partners to use minds, souls, and body to get to each other's heart.

Lovemaking allows couples a different kind of communication (dirty talking still happens), it gives them the ability to be more open with each other, it involves loving words that come from the heart. Also, vulnerability during and after making love is at the highest point. Making love means that both you and your partner are fully present that whole time, there's no room for wandering.

Love making begins much before intercourse and ends much after. It's not just about taking your clothes off and romping on the sheets, it involves emotions and feelings.

8 Tips on How to make love

Since the art of making love involves more than just sex, you need to do it right. Maybe you or he needs some direction to really show each other how you feel through sex, we'd like to help you. Here are 8 tips that are going to help you make the experience memorable for both of you. 

1. Foreplay is important

Remember that love making starts before the sex part, so don't discount the foreplay phase. Women, especially find this more pleasurable. Foreplay is the best way to get your partner ready for what comes later and it's an awesome way to build anticipation. Foreplay give your partner's body time to prepare to have more pleasurable and less painful intercourse.

So don't skip this part of lovemaking and take your time to enjoy it.

2. Set the right tone

Before anything happens, you need to feel comfortable (not just on the place is going to happen), you need to be sure (especially if this is your first time) that what's about to happen is what you want. That being said, the ambiance should be appropriate or conducive to lovemaking.

Guys, jokes, and silliness may not be what your woman needs, she'll need a romantic atmosphere where she can feel special and cherished and safe. Romantic details are welcome too and can set the right mood, like some slow and sexy music, dim lights (maybe some candles) and girls... get yoursevels some sexy lingerie.

3. Pick the right location

It's not necessary to go and book a room in a hotel, although... Guys, if you want to really impress her, it could be a good idea. It could be a better idea to create a romantic space in your home, it's more personal, don't you think? Now, inside your home, you get to be creative in deciding which place is the most romantic to make love.

If it's your bedroom, then go ahead and set the mood there. If you have a house with a fireplace and you're in the middle of winter, you can throw a blanket in front of it, get some wine and you'll have the perfect setting for a romantic and hot evening.

Or maybe you both prefer the outside, you can pick a starry night and throw a blanket and some pillows on the backyard and have a very special night enjoying each other.

4. Pick positions so intimacy can be achieved

Making love requires that you two learn to connect with each other. You should connect on as many levels as possible, emotionally, spiritually and of course, physically. To achieve intimacy your bodies need to be in contact as much as possible and it's better if you're face-to-face.

For example, missionary and spooning positions allow your bodies full contact, therefore, they are the two best positions recommended for making love. Take it one step further and besides laying on top of each other or beside each other, holds hands interlocking your fingers and hug each other. that's how you achieve intimacy.

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5. Always kiss each other

Kissing is a big part of making love, it's a great way to communicate with each other. There' are all kinds of kissing, and you can use them all while lovemaking. You can kiss with intensity and passion but also with tenderness. that's the perfect combination.

While kissing, hold hands or embrace each other, bury your head in each other's neck, always stay in contact while kissing, that speaks of how much care.

6. Don't be selfish

Making love is about connecting and feelings, it's about trying to please your partner and in doing that you achieve pleasure too. Don't be selfish and give all you have so your partner feels special and pampered and loved. That should be your priority the whole time, we assure you that by not being selfish, you're going to be reciprocated and the experience is going to be memorable for both of you.

7. Have fun

Making love should be emotional and profound and lovely, but it should be fun too, especially when you get to the sex part). That's also part of the intimacy, you should be able to enjoy it and have some laughs together.

8. Tell each other how you feel and cuddle afterward

It could prove challenging, (especially for the guys), to tell you how you make him feel during sex, but it can make a big difference if he says something like "You make me so happy" while he's rocking your world. You should express to him too, how he's making you feel, what you like. This communication will help you connect more deeply.

And don't forget to cuddle after, remember that lovemaking begins before sex and ends much much later. Cuddling after is a way of extending the intimacy.

Top 5 favorable positions for most couples

There's a sex position for every mood. What are you in the mood for? There are some very inventive ones that can spice things up for you and are great for a change once in a while. But if you're in the mood for some slow and sexy lovemaking that will get you closer to your partner, not just physically but emotionally, you'll find that keeping it simple is the best way to go.

There are some classic sex positions that will get you closer to your partner, you can definitely up the pleasure and have a memorable night of lovemaking with them. Will give you the top five to start.

1. C.A.T Coital Alignment Technique

This is a position very similar to missionary but one you'll enjoy better. Starts the same as the missionary position but then your partner has to pull his hip a bit higher than yours so that there's grinding, not just an in-and-out motion. This is a very intimate position and favorable to intensifying closeness both physical and emotional. And there's a big plus, with this technique you up your chances of getting an orgasm. 

2. Lotus

A yoga-style sex position that requires your partner to sit cross-legged, then you have to lower yourself in his lap (facing him) and wrap yourself around him with arms and legs so you can start a rocking motion. This position is totally recommended to get you both closer, you are wrapped around each other while rocking and no single care in the world. It's just the two of you.

3. Spooning

This is another very favorable sex position for getting closer. You both have to face the same direction while lying or your sides, he has to penetrate you from there. It needs a little adjusting just to make sure everything is in place before beginning. In this position, you're having sex and cuddling, total closeness. 

4. The Proposal

We're sure this is a very favorable position with couples in love, just look at the name. Both of you are on your knees (you'll need a pillow or a blanket under your knees). While you're there,  he gets on one knee and penetrates you from that position. This may need a little adjustment too (it will depend on your heights).

Because of the need for adjustments, this gets you closer because you need to communicate to get things right and have a wonderful experience with this position. Plus here your eyes are locked.

5. The Crab

This sex position requires a lot of communication to get things right and you're going to have a couple of laughs during. It may seem difficult in theory but it's relatively easy in the practice. Get yourselves in a crab position while facing each other, lower yourselves and then put your legs on his shoulders. 

Songs to make love to

Magic happens when you mix music and sex. If you're moved by songs and melodies then having some background music while making love could prove to be a fantastic experience. Music can get your rhythm going. So what songs can put you in the mood and get you to the end? We've compiled a little playlist that you can assembled and play in your next encounter.

Oldies are always a good choice, we suggest you include these songs:

  • When I Fall in Love by Nat King Cole
  • Smoke Gets in Your Eyes by The Platters
  • The Very Thought of You by Billie Holiday

You have to include some jazz too. Jazz music is totally sexy and full of emotion. 
  • Cheek to cheek by Ella Fitzgerald and Louis Armstrong
  • The Way You Look Tonight by Frank Sinatra
  • Unforgettable by Nat King Cole


Making love is an experience that you get to have if you let your emotions and feelings in. It's more than just a romp on the sheets, it's an act that gets you closer with your partner, not just physically but emotionally. We hope you have experienced the difference.

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