Tips on how to be a hot guy physically, mentally and emotionally
Google the definition of "hot guy" and you'll get tons of so many different answers. The phrase, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is totally true in this case. For some women, a hot guy is the next door neighbor who's totally weird and has an air of mystery. For other women, is that cute barista guy in their favorite coffee shop that doesn't even know he's hot, he's just doing his job. And of course, there are women who go for the extremely gorgeous and charming, like Chris Hemsworth (girls, we all agree on this one).
So guys, if you're wondering what can you do to be a hot guy so all women desire you, you may already be there and you don't even know it (maybe you need to pay more attention to what goes on around you); or you may be an attractive guy but you lack that something that will make you really appealing to women.
If you're striking again and again in trying to find ways to be a hot guy it may be because you're asking advice from the wrong source: other guys. Remember, Men are from Mars, Women from Venus, so what the guys think is cool or hot is very different from what women think it is. You need to ask the ones that are going to judge if you're hot or not: women.
You may be wondering, what is that totally hot girl doing with that guy? He's a geek...Well, it turns out that he's a geek to other guys but not to the woman he's dating. For her, he's really hot because he stands out, he thinks outside the box, and that makes him very attractive. Do you get what we're saying?
There are a lot of things you can work on to be a hot guy, looks are important and you should take care there, but you also need to cultivate your mind and let your emotions out once in a while. All three levels combined, are going to help you become irresistible to women.
There are certain physical, mental and emotional characteristics that can make you hotter in the eyes of women. We'd like to give you some tips to accomplish this goal, follow them so you can get that hot girl too.
Let's start with the things we see, physically there are some things you can change or add to your appearance that could get you the "hot" status you're looking for (some are even backed by science).
1. Put away your razor... grow a beard
According to a study at the University of South Wales in 2013, growing yourself a beard is one of the best things you could do to become a hot guy. It turns out that having some facial hair in the form of stubble (about 10 days of growth) is very attractive to women. Different lengths of beard send different signals.
The authors of the study (Barnaby J. Dixson and Robert C. Brooks) wrote that "An intermediate level of beardedness is most attractive, while full-bearded men may be perceived as better fathers who could protect and invest in offspring." Guys, your beard's thickness, quality, and fullness has some kind of magnetic power capable of attracting the ladies.
2. Get yourselves toned, not beefy
Being fit is a must for a hot appeal. If you didn't know, we check you out just the same as you check us out and there's nothing sexier than looking at a man that takes care of his body by working out. This characteristic is also backed by science, according to some research done at UCLA, women find men who are built or brawny very attractive. The researchers compared the results with the Goldilocks principle: some muscle is hot, too much is not, toned is just the right amount.
Like we talk before, to become a hot guy or be one, you have to think beyond the looks. There are some intangibles, like character traits that can make a woman week in the knees. Take notice of these next tips, they can definitely make a difference in the hot-o-meter.
3. Strength from within
Being strong on the outside is totally welcome, in fact, we appreciate it. Nevertheless, having an internal fortitude is equally important. It speaks of the level of confidence you possess, it says "this is who I am", you don't need to follow a crowd. You stand out because you embrace all that you are (the good and the bad). You are just yourself.
Guys, women find men that can stand their ground and are in control of their life totally sexy. A man with an internal fortitude telegraphs confidence without flaunting it, he has nothing to prove. Show confidence but don't be cocky about it.
4. Having integrity
Being a narcissist and using lies and tricks for your personal gain is the antithesis of hot, those are the traits of womanizers and scoundrels, not what we're looking for. Don't pretend to be someone you're not, it will show sooner or later, that's not hot at all.
We look for and need men with integrity, men who are the real deal, men with depth in their feelings, men who are respectful of women. Add a little chivalry to that combo and your hot-o-meter will definitely go up.
To complete the checklist of how to be a hot guy that we can get on board with, you need to cultivate and show us your emotional side. We know you have a heart, but we also need you to show it. Here are a couple more tips on how to show your emotional side.
5. Show us your sensitive side
We want you to be basically a good guy. While talking to a woman beware that she's paying attention to how you speak to her, but also how you speak and interact with other people. Showing compassion and empathy to other people are traits that factored in when judging if you're a hot guy or not. Be kind to the ones around you, not because you have to but because you want to.
Also, learn that there's a balance between talking and listening. Women find guys who know when to listen and when to talk very hot. There's nothing hotter than showing a girl that you're interested in her, that you really want to know her, not just talk about you.
6. Be vulnerable
A strong man has to be vulnerable too. One goes hand in hand with the other. It requires a high level of internal fortitude to show your more vulnerable side. This means that you're not afraid to show your real feelings, you tell us when you're afraid when you're happy or sad. You tell us how we make you feel. You share with us the things you had to overcome or the things that bring you to your knees. Transparency when it comes to emotions and feelings is part of being a hot guy.
How to make yourself look hot and attractive on Instagram
Instagram is a great way to get yourself out there and show your hotness, but you'll have to go the extra mile if you really want to stand out and get some likes. What can you do to take selfies where you look hot and attractive? The competition is fierce and there are a lot of pros posting pictures that are a delight to women all over the world. So here are a few pointers on what you can do to accomplish your goal.
Source: Zachary Levi/Instagram
Authenticity goes a long way if you want to make yourself hot and attractive. You don't need to take like 200 shots of a picture you want to post. Find the right balance between, stage shot and Wow! "and I didn't mean to take this shot". It may take a while to get there, but keep trying until you get it right.
Show your best smile
Source: Eduardo Verástegui/Instagram
No everybody can master the "smolder look" so don't try it. You may think you look manly and tough, and you may pull it off once in a while, but you'll do much better if you give the camera a smile. A guy with a sincere smile is very hot, So practice your best smile and capture it, you'll see the difference.
No one is born being hot, it's something you work on, that something we (men and women) have in common. The first impression may be visual, and we're going to be attracted to a toned body with great hair and a killer smile, but in the end, the total package is what makes a guy hot or not.
Become a hot guy by taking care of yourself but also by having our backs and making us feel special; by showing us that you can be vulnerable and that you have a couple of strong shoulders that we can lean on.