20 questions you can ask a girl to know her better

Questions to deepen your relationship to see if she likes you

By Aey
20 questions you can ask a girl to know her better

Questions and active listening to understand your girl

One of the most important things in a relationship is communication. We know that a lot of relationships end as a result of minor misunderstandings due to lack of communication. One important aspect of communication is active listening. Sometimes all you need to do to fix a problem is to listen to your girl and try understanding her point of view. If she is upset over something, ask her what is wrong and how can you help her. Reassure it to her that you are always there for her. Some of the most effective listening skills include dedication and attention. Pay full attention to your girl and be responsive. Now what’s missing? If you just keep on listening to the things she is saying but you still cannot get the answers you’re looking for… you need to ask the right questions. Here are 20 different questions for multiples stages that all relationships go through.  

20 questions for different stage of relationship

Flirty questions to get to know her

Flirting is a verbal or sometimes even a written form of communication to show someone that you are interested in them or attracted to them. One of the easiest ways to show a girl that she is important to you is flirt with her in a subtle way without making her feel uncomfortable. Here are the following flirty questions to get to know her better:

Q1. Have you noticed me noticing you yet?

This is a cute yet flirty question to ask the girl you are interested in. It will give her a hint that you are interested in her and want to know her better. If she smiles and answers saying a yes, it means she is giving a green signal. If she just changes the conversation, it means maybe she isn't too sure about it right now.

Q2. Do you have flaws? I am trying to find one but I still can't

This is another flirty question that you can ask her to get to know her better. Her reaction will tell you a lot. The cheekiness will definitely break the ice and make her laugh! And you know what they say about the effect of making a girl laugh. *wink wink*

Q3. Are you always this much fun?

This question is basically a compliment which shows that you like talking to her and you think she is fun. This is also a subtle way to ask her about the other side of her where she is sober or serious. You can then ask her about her likes and dislikes and hence get to know her better.

Q4. You make me smile. Can I return the favor?

This is also more of a compliment. She will definitely smile after hearing this question but also if she says yes, you can ask her about the things that make her smile or laugh. You can also show her your humorous side and get to know about hers.

Q5. How you doin'?

If you are a friends' fan, you know what this means. This is an easy way to show the girl that you are interested in her considering she is also a friends fan.

Questions to see if she likes you

If a girl likes you, she might not directly say it to you unless you say it first. Girls are usually hesitant in confessing their feelings. You can ask her questions to see if she likes you without making it too evident.

Q6. What type of a guy would you date?

Instead of asking her if she would like to date a guy like you, rephrase your question and generally ask her about the kind of guy she would be interested in. You can find out if she likes you if the traits she describes, matches your personality.

Q7. Ask her if her friends know about you

If a girl tells her friends about you, it means she does think of you somewhere and might even consider you more than just a friend.

Q8. Ask her how much your presence means to her

If a girl likes you, your sudden disappearance and inconsistency in showing up will annoy her. To see if a girl likes you, ask her if she would be okay if you take a break for a few days. She will try to hide her discomfort and probably will say no, but if she’s into you, she won’t be able to hide it that well and you will get your answer.  

Q9. Am I being too clingy?

If you like a girl and are putting in the efforts for her, you don't want her to think of you as desperate or clingy. Ask her if you are being too clingy. If she says no not at all it means she is enjoying the attention you give her.

Q10. If you are stuck in an elevator and you only have to choose one person to accompany you, who would that be?

This is a fun question to ask and should be asked when the relationship is more on the advance side where the girl is comfortable enough to be bold about it. If she takes your name, it is evident that she is interested in you and considers you to be more than just a friend.

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Deep questions for steady relationship

Q11. What is the one thing about me you would like to change?

By asking this question, you are allowing the other person to tell you about your negative trait. This way you can improve yourself in that particular matter.

Q12. What are your thoughts about cheating?

Cheating is something that is often a reason for relationships to end. Before you start dating someone, it is important that you know their stance on cheating and how the key to a successful relationship is trust and communication.

Q13. If you are having a bad day, would you ask me to leave you alone or stay by your side?

Some people need their personal space and want to be left alone when they're in a bad mood while others prefer having someone to rant to. You should know if she prefers staying alone or having you by her side during one of those days.

Q14. If you could ask me anything and have a truthful answer, what would you ask?

This question gives her the chance to ask you anything that could be on her mind. It might be about your past relationships or something about the future. Make sure to answer the question honestly.

Q15. What is the most important thing for you in a relationship?

Before you commit anything to her, ask her this question. Relationship is commitment once should make by taking time to be sure about it. So, ask away what’s important to her because aligned values is one of the core pillars that hold up a relationship.

Dirty questions and how to approach it

Before you begin asking her any dirty questions, you need to be aware of her take on it. Once you get in a relationship, sexual attraction and urges continue to increase along with the emotional attraction. Ask her questions without making her feel uncomfortable. You can ask her questions such as,

Q16. What turns you on the most in a man?

Different girls get turned on by different things in a man. Ask her this question to know what turns her on the most. There are chances that just by having this conversation, you will feel the heat turning up in the room.

Q17. What would you do if I kissed you right now?

This question is perfect for turning on your girl. Stare into her eyes coldly when you do it and don’t let her shyness push you away… if her answer is not in the negative, pull her in and feel her melt away with your kiss.

Q18. Hot showers or bubble baths?

This is a fun dirty question you can ask her to know if she enjoys bubble baths or showers. She will get the hint and if it’s your lucky day she might even play along and test your boundaries.  

Q19. Where do you like being touched the most?

Come close to her and ask this question in a whispery tone… maybe even brush your hand somewhere intimate and see her shake… This question is sure to get her all crazy about you. If she answers the question without resistance in your advances, you know what to do.

Q20. Do you like hickies?

This is a question that isn’t too dirty or too innocent. Just the right amount of dirty to break the ice! So, best of luck!


Most of the times, girls can find it hard to exactly put their feelings into words. Here is when the right question can make or break the situation. If you’re wise enough to know ask the right things, you’ll slip into her good book in no times. So, cram these questions and ask’em at the right time and see the magic unravel.

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