20 ways to identify if he or she has a crush on you

Lately, have you been asking if someone has a crush on you? Maybe you've noticed a subtle change in your group of friends or at the office or at the gym, It isn't always easy to tell if that friend of yours is only being friendly or he has a crush on you. You don't want to be wrong if you decide to do something about it.

How can you be sure? Can you tell just by observing? Apart from that gut feeling did you notice a change in your interactions? Does the conversation between you two have become more personal? So many uncertainties! If you want to make sure about your suspicions and have no doubt that you're the receiving end of a crush, keep reading. We'll give you some clues or signs so all your burning questions could be answered. 

Nowadays is so hard to know for sure if someone really likes you or if he's just being friendly. Wouldn't it be great if you can read minds?! That'll make things so much easier. But since you don't have psychic powers and asking him directly seems a bit too aggressive (and it could be embarrassing too), you'll have to find another way to be sure if that someone has a crush on you.

There's some good news here, no one is able to hide their feelings forever, at some point they'll do something that's going to show their feelings and intentions. Picture this, you know this guy that has been your friend for years and you were clueless as to his real feelings, but one day you started noticing some things (very subtle ones) so you start to question his real feelings for you.

Guys, does this seem familiar to you too? Are you wondering if that girl next door or that coworker has a crush on you? Are you going to just sit there full of confusion because you can't tell with absolute certainty if that person has a crush on you?

These signs may be able to shed some light to your confusion.

Things like a new hairdo or a new pair of pants are things that may not be noticed by a lot of people That won't be the case with them. They'll notice the new hairdo and will make a subtle comment (that could almost go unnoticed). They'll say something like "cool hairdo", or "nice pant, new?".
 

When the joy of seeing someone is genuine, smiling is involuntary. So next time that friend or that coworker smiles at you pay attention. If the smile reaches their whole face and their eyes just light up, that could be a true sign of a big crush.

Take notice next time you're among other friends hanging out. if you feel like someone's watching you, look up, you'll catch them with their eyes already on you. Busted!  They like looking at you. especially when you're unaware. And unless you were doing something weird, all that looking is also a sure sign of a crush.

if you notice a lot of nervous fidgeting, like hair touching or not being able to stay still, it could mean that they have a crush on you. They're not even aware that they're fidgeting, it's totally unconscious.

Between friends, a pat on the back or putting your arm around your shoulders or giving hugs is totally normal. But when the touches are a constant like they're always putting their hand on your back or leaning toward you with regularity or find many excuses to hug you, that should tip you about their crush.

Pay attention, they are overly interested in your life, in your hobbies, in your friends, in what's important to you. They ask a lot of questions regarding this, it's their way of getting close to you, of getting to know you better and helps them start conversations.

They can't help it, your opinion is very important to them, so they're always asking your opinion on a new shirt or a new hairdo or about this new project they're getting involved in. They always want to know what you think about things and events happening in their lives. They even consult you before they have to make an important decision.

Go back to when you met this person, we bet their behavior (towards you) was very different than what it is now. You may find that the change has been somewhat dramatic so you can't deny that something has changed. This change in the way they act towards you is because they've realized that there was an attraction that now has evolved into a crush.

Your average friend is going to ask you general questions about your family like "How they're doing?" or if they know someone is sick or injured, they'll be concerned and check up on that. But a crush will want to know more about your relationship with your family, they'll ask deeper questions. They have an interest in the people that's important to you.

Your crush craves those interactions with you. They are always finding reasons to contact you or to seek you up to chat. They'll text you or call you to ask something irrelevant or just to wish you a good day or good luck on your work presentation. Any excuse is good to talk to you.

Your secret crush will remember everything that you've said. They pay attention when you speak. They store all that information, no matter how insignificant or irrelevant it may seem, they'll know every detail. 

That's kind of obvious, asking about how things are going with that person you're dating may be too painful for them so they skip it. And if you start talking about it, they'll change the subject. They really don't want to know.

You start running into them in places where you've never seen them before, places you are partial to. They know details about your life so they know the places you visit frequently and they make a point of going there at the same time you do. They're always checking your social media to know where you are or they pump your other friends for that kind of information.

That falls into the friend category. A friend is someone you can count on at all times. But they let you know they're always available, you have a problem or are having a crisis at 2 am, they come running with a smile on their faces. They're happy to offer you a shoulder to cry on or a sympathetic ear. 

Most friends aren't going to ask deep questions about your life, they'll listen if you talk about them but usually, they don't ask. A crush is going to be interested to know about your biggest aspirations, and dreams and desires. They'll be avid listeneres.

They're the ones always wanting to hang out. So they're always suggesting you go grab a cup of coffee, or go see a movie, or go for a run, or just hang out. They want to see you as much as possible, so they come up with all kinds of ideas.

Suddenly they start changing their plans just so their schedules coincide with yours. The point here is to spend as much time as possible with you. Maybe you haven't noticed, but check your calendar and you'll see that they have worked their way into most of your days and evenings. Not on a creepy way though. 

Pay attention next time you're in a group of friends, notice how their demeanor and attitude changes when your attention is centered on them. they just light up.

When we say future, we don't mean what you're doing the next weekend or next month. They like to discuss your plans for the next five years, where you'll be. That's because they're trying to gauge if their goals aligned with yours or not. They're trying to determined if you two have a future together.

You'll end up knowing their deepest secrets, things not even their best friends know. They are giving you their trust and confiding in you, that's a sign they have a crush on you.

With all the tips we have given you, you now know who your secret admirer is. Turns out it's someone you hardly talk to. If you haven't notice that person before, now he or she has your attention. What should you do? How you could approach the situation?

If after analyzing the situation, you decide not to do anything and let him or her disenchant from you by not making it a big deal, then leave things as they are. Pay no special attention to them but don't be rude or unkind.

If you decide you want to seek out this secret admirer to find out if their feelings could be reciprocated then start paying them more attention. Find out things you have in common and strike a conversation. Since this person has a crush on you, he or she'll be thrill with your attention. Make plans with them and go from there. You know what they say... "If it's meant to be, it'll be." 

What can you do if you find out someone has a crush on you? If this person is someone close to you (a friend or a coworker), you should proceed with caution because if you don't things could get awkward or ugly. There are some strategies you can take to deal with this situation. 

Finding out someone has a crush on you may come as a shock if you didn't have a clue. But it may be a pleasant surprise too because it turns out you like this person too. So if upon finding out, your gut tells you to pursue the feeling, go for it! Make sure they know their feelings are reciprocated.
 

If you had your suspicions (but weren't sure until you saw and analyzed all the signs), but are worried because you like this person, just not that way, you need to let them down easy. To avoid future drama, find a way to talk to them and be honest.

If it did come as a total surprise and you're unsure of what your feelings are toward this person, then take your time to process the news. For now that's your best bet.

Finding out someone has a crush on you could be thrilling, it's always nice to know someone likes you. There are no set rules on how to proceed when you find out (and are sure), so trust your gut. Be honest but kind if you don't feel the same. If you do (feel the same) find a way to let them know.