Marriage advice for newlyweds
One of the challenges that a couple assumes when they get engaged is to complete that first project: the wedding. Then, the coexistence comes, which is kind of a bigger challenge. The love that united them at the altar with the pair of wedding rings they wear today in their fingers also needs to be cultivated so that it lasts in this new stage in their lives. It is important too for the monotony of time does not obscure how beautiful their relationship is.
Don't be scared, there is nothing to worry about! The most important thing, to begin with, is that there is love; from then on, making any adjustment or change is simple for both. But, as nobody is born with all the knowledge, as grandmothers always say: "He who listens to advice, gets old". So start taking notes of the following tips to use them as tools to lead a healthy coexistence and enjoy living together for you newlyweds:
1. Communication is key
Communication will be your best friend in your new marriage. Express how you feel and always let the other person finish expressing himself, without interruptions or bad faces. Receive that moment as one more of living as a couple and enjoy it. Each time you two talk, remember that you are talking to the person with whom you share your life. If it is an argument, bring your mind to remembrance when you were on the altar; thus the words will be full of good energy and the other will receive them in a positive way.
2. Give space
In the beginning, it is normal that you will want to be together all the time. However, as you will be together for a long time as husband and wife, each of you has to have personal space where you have time for yourself. Allow yourself to go out with your friends, take a trip with someone different from your husband or wife, or alone. Allow them to miss you, take advantage of the distance to dedicate short love phrases on your cell phone for them to return home with excitement to see you. It will surely make a difference.
"To multiply happiness, you must share it." As you are already sharing many things that used to be only yours before marriage, it is also important to get involved in the activities one of you loves. It goes from simple moments like eating at least one meal per day together to greater things such as starting a challenge or accomplishing an achievement together.
Dreams or goals are also important to share. This will motivate you to work together for that goal and strengthen your long-term relationship. After all, sharing is caring.
Something that should always remain in a marriage is the desire to reconquer. I mean, I know he or she is already yours forever, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't make them feel special here and there. If you do not have any ideas on how to do so, the Internet is a great tool and source of inspiration nowadays, so take advantage of it. How about putting music one day when you are at home and suddenly take the initiative to dance or sing together? How about buying him something he wanted as a surprise? Possibilities are endless when it comes to reconquering and keeping the flame on!
5. Try new things
Allow yourself to be curious and risk trying something new as a couple. Doing something new involves leaving the comfort zone, getting away from what is safe or what you are used to doing. Start classes of a new sport or start the business project with which you have fantasized so much with your husband or wife. Change your routine up a bit!
Funny marriage advice for a successful relationship
Marriage is rewarding, but it can also be incredibly difficult. For those times when your partner seems to be deliberately pressing your buttons, or when it seems that the two of you are not speaking the same language, you will find that a good sense of humor will help you. See this couple of fun but truthful tips for times when you think you can not take it anymore. A good laugh will certainly make everything better!
6. Sunday= sports day
This one here is for my girls who are sick of their husband's Sunday sports obsession. Girl, a man needs time for himself. It does not matter how much you hate football, or how much you hate the fact that your house is full of sweaty guys shouting at the TV, discussions about decisions during the matches; just smile and let it happen. This is probably one of the few things your husband keeps from his bachelor days. If he begins to feel that he can not do any of the things he used to enjoy before getting married, he may begin to think that maybe he was better single. I guess you don't want that, do you?
7. Don't shout
I know this can be very hard sometimes, it might almost seem impossible, but try not to shout to each other. Make an agreement of some sort, something like: " we will not shout at each other unless the house is in flames" Funny, right?
8. Bully each other a bit
I am a fervent believer that bullying is one of the great signs of a healthy marriage. Don't get me wrong, you are not going to punch your husband or something like that, so lose the smile! Amorous bullying has intelligence, irony, elegance and a sense of opportunity. It shows interest, attention, and knowledge on how to choose with love/humor the characteristics of the other and get playful with them. Tease them , call them funny names, it will make you have a happy marriage.
9. Sleep with the enemy
As people say: " Marriage is the only war in which you sleep with the enemy". Sex makes a lot of things better, fights and discussions being one of them. Sometimes, when the fight feels too draggy or that it is going nowhere, drop it and get some action going! I swear the problem will be over in a second.
10. Be childish
Marriage can just get so serious and uptight sometimes, am I right? It can get kinda boring, to be honest. If you feel you are at this point, be childish, have fun like in the old days when you weren't married yet. Go to a club, have a picnic, go to a water park. It will defintly make you have so much fun.
Quotes on happy marriages
The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they're right if you love to be with them all the time.
Marriage: Love is the reason. Lifelong friendship is the gift. Kindness is the cause. Til’ death do us part is the length.
A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers
Top 3 books on marriage
1. Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
2. The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
3. Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs
Tips on how to maintain a happy marriage
We all know maintaining a happy marriage is all you want after sealing the deal with your soulmate. Lets make it a little bit easier with these 10 tips:
11. Do things to feel attached
Going out to dinner, calling by phone or sending electronic messages when one of the two is not around, planning adventures together are some of the ways you two can feel attached during your relationship. These habits will become the pillars that sustain the marriage with time. In difficult times, you will both know that these rites will help you to come out afloat.
12. Fix problems
It is true that all couples get angry and argue, but apologizing and seeking to resolve conflicts is the best thing to do. Never get a problem to sit for too long because of pride, it will just amke it 10 times worse.
13. Respect your differences
Everyone is different no matter the relationship one may have with another. Your husband or wife will always have an aspect that you don't like much or an opinion that you don't share, but you got to respect it. You agreed to look past those things when you said: " I do".
14. Please each other
If a special activity, hobby or sport is very important for one, please them and be a part of it. Go to that soccer game you don't even understand, watch that annoying chick flick you hate so much, do things that the other likes, they will thank you for it.
15. Constructive criticism
If you have to criticize, do it with love: if it already is difficult to accept our own faults, imagine for someone else to tell them to us. That is why we must be extremely sensitive and understanding in order to criticize one aspect of our partner, do not forget that it should always be in a constructive way.
16. Past is past
Never bring up past mistakes. Leave those past fights, complaints, arguments, actions where they belong.
17. Give love
Remember to say, at least once a day, something loving to your spouse. These will be the little details that will keep the flame of love alive.
18. Support each other
Support him or her on his new goal, job, activity, hobby even though you might not like it or agree with it much. Swallow the pride and wish them the best outcome for any of it.
19. Be there
Never abandon your spouse. Be there for them in the happiest and in the saddest moments. After all, " for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health". Remember, that is what you vowed to.
Be willing to change those negative things about you that make living together difficult for you two. Hang the towels, put dirty clothes in their place, make the bed... Those little things will make everything easier at home.
We truly wish your marriage results in a happy and lasting one! It will be way easier to make this happen if you do follow all of the advice we have given you in this article, trust us. Do those little things and changes and see how your marriage starts to go the right way forever, or, I mean, till death do you appart!