Improving ourselves in every aspect of our lives means to also carefully choose the people that we are spending lots of time with, also known as friends. Those people usually care about us, are always there when we need some help or a nice word and are the first ones to aid you in all areas of your busy life, like organizing events, holidays or nights out. However, there are times when we definitely need to evolve and therefore outgrow certain friends, sometimes old ones that even if they have been there from the get-go, they no longer fit our view of a friend. Maybe they have changed, maybe we have changed.
Also, beyond this context, you also need to know that there are some types of friends who do not necessarily wish us all the best but simply stay there for the laughs and gags. These are the people that you should avoid and stop going out with. What’s even worse, times will often teach us that hating some of these people is the only way to get rid of them. Here are some of the top reasons why you can come to hate some friends that come into your life.
I Deserve More: Why Some Types Of Friends Don't Make Sense
Getting to finally say that you deserve more than you get means that you have already been through some tough times with those people and have learned that they are not right for you. It’s a clear evolution to be able to give up on some people, even if it means that you may no longer have such a big group of people around you. Evolution also means understanding that you don’t actually need this big group in order to feel good.
Moreover, you may have already noticed that there are certain types of friends that do not really make sense in the context of your life. For example, those people who only call you when they need something, those who only meet you when you need to go out and have fun, those who are never available whenever you need some help, and those who never reveal any details of their life and do not listen to yours because in their head, you will clearly be out of their life soon. Paying attention to some little details will tell you exactly what you need to know about those people. They have no purpose in your life and you would be better off without them. Give up before you start hating them for whatever reason.
What Are Friends With Benefits?
Speaking of friends who only pose as friends, a popular type of people are friends with benefits. More often than not, this term refers specifically to people who are engaging in intimate relationships but without having any strings attached. They do not see each other in a different context, they are not interested in each other for a deeper relationship, and they both get something from the other.
However, the general term also refers to people who only gain something valuable from the other without being interested in further developing that bond. It can be knowledge, like in school when the popular guy is always stuck to you because you are good at a subject but when the class ends, they no longer know who you are. There can be various favors and advantages involved, like getting introduced to a group of people or getting some money. The reasons why people become friends with benefits are numerous, but this doesn’t mean that it’s a beneficial thing. Up next, you will find out some of the clear reasons why you might start to hate such a friend, in case you have one.
Reasons To Hate Friends With Benefits
1. They are only in for their own gain
This is the main rule of friends with benefits and if you do not want to get hurt, you’d better avoid them. These types of people will only be in for their own personal gain, regardless of this gain’s nature. It can be financial, sexual, social, it doesn’t even matter, to be honest. This is one of the most obvious reasons why you might start hating your friend with benefits. The better solution? Get out of this “relationship” before the hate part begins. It’s not worth it.
2. They do not care about you
Again, a clear trait of a friend with benefits who does not care one bit about your feelings or needs. These people will not help you in any way, they will not be available when you need them, and they will leave you abruptly without even saying goodbye. Which brings us to the next reason why you should hate these friends with benefits and their weird habits.
3. They will leave when you’ll most need help
Let’s say that you really need some help with a pressing issue. You call your “friend” but guess what? They are not available at the moment. Let us tell you a secret: they will never be because they simply don’t care. When you’ll most need help, that’s when they’ll disappear behind a curtain of fog.
4. They will gossip about you with their other friends with benefits
Gossip is yet another reason why you should never stay around a friend with benefits for too long. These types of people don’t only have you, but many other such “friends” and they gossip about the other ones with each of them. Sooner or later, the entire city will know certain things about you and sometimes, those might even be invented just for the sake of gossip. A big no-no!
Reasons To Hate Friends Who Use You
5. Endless gossip
Friends who use you for their own interests are another breed of beings that you should never keep in touch with. They also gossip endlessly and spread bad news about you when they no longer need your services or help. The key here would be to think ahead and avoid telling them personal things. This way, when they leave, they will not have any gossip subject to spread.
6. They are always selfish
Friends who use you are always selfish. They only want to gain certain things, but never to offer, not even to you in return. Their answer to any request? “I’m not good a that, I cannot help you!” This is how they often get away without giving anything in return. Maybe the worst kind of “friends”.
7. They are jealous of your knowledge
These people might stay around you to gain from your knowledge and experience, but in reality, they actually hate you for it and will spread lies with every occasion. The trick? Observe them carefully and don’t offer them too much of what you know. When they will notice that you are no longer useful, they will leave empty-handed.
8. They will give up on you when they’ll no longer need you
If you want to get rid of a fake friend, just stop offering them what they want and they will leave on their own. Sure, it can be difficult to have someone walk out on you when you most need them but then again, this is what those people who use you do. After all, it’s all about experience and getting to know people as they truly are: sometimes vicious, sometimes cruel.
Top 10 Quotes On Fake Friends And Fake People
1. “I didn’t lose a friend, I just realized I never had one.”
2. “Fake friends are around when they think you’re cool. True friends are around even when they think you’re a fool.”
3. “An open enemy is better than a false friend.”
4. “Fake friends are like shadows. They follow you in the sun but leave you in the dark.”
5. “Everybody isn’t your friend. Just because they hang around you and laugh with you doesn’t mean you are your friends. People pretend well. At the end of the day, real situations expose fake people, so pay attention.”
6. “Fake friends: once they stop talking to you, they start talking about you.”
7. “Some people are real. Some people are good. Some people are fake and some people are really good at being fake.”
8. “As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have a ton of friends, and more important to have real ones.”
9. “True friends will always find a way to help you. Fake friends will always find an excuse.”
10. “Sometimes it’s not the people who change, it’s the mask that falls off.”
All in all, it may be the harsh truth, but fake people are everywhere and the best thing that you can do is to learn how to notice them from afar. This way, when they will try to get close to you, you will immediately know not to get close to them. We hope that we have helped you understand the philosophy behind those “friends” better and that you will no longer suffer in silence, but catch them in action and get rid of them.