Top 25 Legitimate Reasons To Break Up With Someone You Love

Here are 25 legitimate reasons when and why you should break up your relationship, even if you are still in love with your partner.

By Vera Aries
Top 25 Legitimate  Reasons To Break Up With Someone You Love

Why You Should Break Up With Someone You Love?

In the beginning, every love story seems simple and beautiful. We understand and easily express our feelings, we are careful and full of understanding with the wishes of our partner. Later, when love relationships are strengthened or when we decide on a shared life, the difficulties are born. The first thing is to talk honestly with your partner. It's even better to recognize and avoid mistaken behavior in time before it destroys the love relationship. There are good and bad days in every relationship. But if over time differences between you and your partner become too big, it’s best for everyone to end the relationship. Here are 25 legitimate reasons when you should break up your relationship, even if you are still in love with your partner:

1. Things From The Past.

Restoring topics from a conversation from the past can also lead to a loss of closeness. Any subsequent dispute will begin to remind you of the memories of that previous argument/disagreement. If you have been together for a long time and things from the past are still an obstacle, you should seriously consider if you should stay in this relationship or break up.

2. Lack Of Attention.

When your partner does not give you the proper attention, and you get the impression that he is not that into you anymore, he doesn’t love you the same and has cooled; it is time to break up with him and find someone that will dedicate his life to make you feel important.

3. Imposing Rules.

If your partner is constantly trying to impose on you how to behave, where to go, what to dress, when to return after hanging out with friends, are signs of control and can mean danger for the relationship. Do not be fooled that this is love and that he takes care of you in this way. These signs are not love, but a way to impose rules on you and a very legitimate reason to break up your relationship.

4. You Are Always Guilty Of Anything That Happens.

One of the worst feelings is the feeling of guilt, and you know that you are not guilty. Whether the partner had a bad day, whether he was late at work, whether he stayed a little longer in the office, whether he bought the wrong mastics etc. In every way he makes you feel guilty because you exist.

5. The Partner Has No Respect And Love For You.

It works as a kind of sadomasochism. The partner is a sadist who always tells you that you are nothing, that you are the bottom creature, full of complexes and low self-esteem. Here you are in the role of the masochist. You begin to accept all these insults, to face it and to become your reality. But you know very well that it's not like you and that you are a million times better than that. You shouldn’t live with this. It's you, darling until you become aware and begin to see the world with your own eyes. You know that this is not love; so leave everything behind, break up with him and start building yourself again.

6. Long-Distance Relationship Often Leads To Break Up.

It does not have to mean that a long-distance relationship can’t work, but be prepared that your partner will not always be here to comfort you, help you when shopping or hugging you when you are cold. Like any relationship, the long-distance relationship has good and bad moments, but be realistic and correctly see the advantages and disadvantages of that relationship. As with any relationship - long-distance requires a different kind of commitment and dedication. In the long-distance connection, the most important thing is where you see yourself with your partner in the future. If either of you is ready to make a compromise, leave their comfort zone and change their place of residence and leave everything they built in order to start a new life for the long-distance; one most really consider all the aspects of this kind of relationship. If both of you answer these questions negatively, then it's time to break up. Your long-distance relationship does not have a future.

7. Less Contact.

At the beginning of the connection, you were constantly sending messages, talking on the phone, on Facebook, and you could not spend hours without contacting your partner. But now your partner is not ready to write emails, it's acting bored to hear from you, and avoids contact with you, a sign that something is not the same in the relationship.

8. No More Talks About The Future.

It is normal when you are with someone to plan the future together. By this, you confirm that you are a couple who will always fall in love and will grow old together. If such conversations stop and you simply see that your partner does not imagine his future with you, it leads to conflict and discontinuation of the relationship. And what are you looking for in a guy that does not see you as a part of his future?

9. Different Religion.

Relationships are all about companionship, and that requires compromise. However, a healthy relationship will never require that you compromise on who you ARE at your core. Religion is one of core parts of who we are. If you are a non-religious or different religion from him, then that's that, and whoever wants to date you has to accept this about you. If he constantly tries to change you about your religious views, put pressure on you to change your religion, then you should break up, move on and find someone that will accept you as you are.

10. Fierce Quarrels.

If your quarrels were petty, stupid and childish, and now are big, you need to rethink where your relationship goes. The more you get along, the better you know each other and know each other's mutual weaknesses; however, when/if your boyfriend uses those weaknesses to hurt you or insult you more, there is another reason to leave him. Because true love never hurts.

11. He Is Just Nervous.

He is jumping for the smallest and tiniest mistakes and starting an argument with you; this means that things can really get bad if he continues this behavior. If he can’t change, put an end, break up and go to the side. You wouldn’t want to live with a guy that’s constantly nervous.

12. Arguments.

Not only does he argues, but he does it publicly and does not care if someone will see or hear the argument. This means that your relationship is out of control and he has lost any respect for you. Perhaps the street corner seems like a good place to end a relationship? Better do it in a peaceful place where you can talk (and not quarrel).

13. Doesn’t Want To Spend Time With You.

He used to want to spend every second with you, together in the shower, lunch break, after work, and now everything he wants is to go out with his friends and have fun. He does not even mind staying at work longer just to not be with you. It’s a big sign that he doesn’t love you and wants the relationship to come to an end.

14. He Has Secrets.

The basis of each relationship is sincerity. This means a relationship without lies, secrets, and traces of the past. If this disappears then why continue the relationship? If you do not trust your partner for anything, and you have caught your partner multiple times that he is hiding things from you, then you can’t build a common future.

15. Changed Perception.

Remember how your partner loved every little thing about you? And your weird laugh cheered him up? And now the same things irritate him, and every physical defect falls in his eyes. If he can’t accept the physical faults and looks of you, then stop the connection and break up with him. You will find someone that will love you as you are!

16. Less Sex.

We all know how passionate sex is at the beginning of the relationship. Simply he can’t get enough of you, and then his desire for sex decreases and you barely do it a few times a month. This often indicates a decrease in sexual attraction among partners, which means that the relationship is in a severe crisis.

17. He Is Jealous And Controls Every Step Of You.

Every telephone conversation is suspicious, and when you are out, he is overwhelmed with fear and worry. What if a meeting is an excuse to meet another guy? It is absurd to try to explain painful jealousy with reasonable arguments. Controlling and monitoring are not proof of true love, but are expressions of a painful connection and are symptoms of a strong sense of lower value. It’s better to break up this relationship than to live with a partner that wants to control every aspect of your life.

18. He Makes All The Decisions.

It is decisive and strict. He has his own opinion and always knows what he wants. He does not tolerate the imposition, takes on all organizational tasks, takes care of your budget and dominates the relationship. This is yet another way he controls you.

19. He Always Asks For An Account.

Many men are obsessed with the desire to know everything about their girlfriends, spying on her, asking questions. Insistent you always gives a "bill" for every little thing. If your partner wants to know and controls every step you make, do not fool yourself that that is love, but break up with him as soon as possible, because you are dating a control freak.

20. Already For A Long Period He Does Not Think Of Tenderness.

She would want him to be gentle, kind, unmistakable in all trifles and to satisfy her desires, and he does not think too much of it. It is better to immediately rebel and express the desire for attention, because suppressed tension can suddenly explode. If you feel bad, it's a good reason to talk about it without accusation.

21. To Other Women Behaves Like A ’’Don Juan’’.

In the street, he turns on every girl and he tries to attract her attention. In short, his behavior is indecent. You need to find out the reasons why he does it. Does he like other women? Sees them as a challenge? If you have talked about this a lot of times with him and his behavior is not changing, then it’s best for you to break up.

22. Psychological Violence Must Leave To Break Up..

When you are a victim of a psychological violence you won’t get anything, apart from frustration, a sense of less value, sadness and half-defeated ambitions. That's because he envied you, he doesn’t love you, he does not want you to be happy, he doesn’t want you to be successful, nor does he want you to accomplish your desires and ambitions. This is one of the biggest reason to leave that boy, break up with him, repair your heart and go on your path, accomplishing everything you wanted.

23. Infidelity.

Not everyone is created for a relationship with just one partner, but the partner should know this. If both of you have agreed on a relationship that is not monogamous, then it's okay, but it's not right to make a fool out of a partner who does not know what's going on behind their back. If you have committed to a monogamous relationship with your partner and he has cheated on you, then you definitely have the reasons to break up the love relationship.

24. Abusive Behavior.

STOP the violence! In this situation there is no room for questions, gather all the memories in a suitcase, and break up with that guy. You shouldn’t live with someone that is abusive with you. You know why? – Because the person that truly loves you will never raise a hand to you, and a real man cares and protects his woman.

25. Does Not Love You.

If he openly tells you that he does not love you anymore, but he also remains with you (maybe from habit or the need to be in a relationship), then it is best that you pull the strings and break up the relationship, even if you are still in love. Love is a two-way street, and in this case, you have nothing to look for in that relationship. You shouldn’t live with someone that doesn’t love you anymore. Thank him for the sincerity and move on.

If you have recognized yourself in some of these things or these things happen to you in the love relationship you are now, you need to know that your partner has already finished with you, even if he didn’t say so. The only thing left for you is to break up the relationship and start a new life even if you are still in love with him. Remember, you love him, but you love yourself more! Get the job in your hands, break up with him, because no one deserves this treatment.

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