13 Signs that You are Dating a Dangerous Psychopath

Feeling something wrong? Find out if you in love but in danger.

By Fred S.
13 Signs that You are Dating a Dangerous Psychopath

Psychopath and How Easily they Blend into Our Society

Being a psychopath can easily be likened to having a syndrome that inflicts with a set of personality traits that are mentally, emotionally and physically dangerous for those around. Studies conducted over the past few decades have identified at least 1 out of 100 people to possess psychopathic tendencies and surprisingly, most psychopaths are not identified as such till they are caught red-handed being involved in the crimes that stem from their altered emotions and brain-functioning.

The biggest weapon that this cohort of people has is a personality that masks their inner vile. They come off to be the most charming people. The way they talk, their gait, their persona, and captivating speeches suffice to cloak their egoistic, narcissistic and even murderous personality. They use these means to get into the head of their victims. No aspect of their appearance ever gives away their true intentions.

Recently, 15 to 20 percent of the prisoners have been identified as psychopaths. To our astonishment, most of these people have also spent some part of their life in a psychiatric ward due to their unusual apathy, recurrent abnormal behavior, and criminal tendencies. Their facades have successfully allowed them to fool even doctors and therapists. Outwardly, they do not only come off as sane but also as highly intellectual people.

All of these gimmicks have let psychopaths go socially unacknowledged. Their very own families would not believe it because of how normal, smug and sane they act around them. In the world of online dating and globalization, recognizing a psychopath has become crucial to save ourselves from being the next victims of people like Ted Bundy. There is nothing to be scared of or to become paranoid about. This article is going to highlight for you the most blatant traits of a psychopath.

Stories of Dating a Psychopath

“One day, while he and I were in the shower, he pulled at my hair in the fiercest way possible. Staring right into my eyes, he pressed me against the wall while still tugging at my hair. “God forbid if someone were to smash your head and fracture your beautiful skull”, he said. It gave me chills. We dated for 8 months more before I found the perfect way out. During the last 8 months, he only grew louder about his macabre fantasies. I am glad it is done with.”

“My ex-girlfriend hated my co-workers and female friends. I woke up to all of these people deleted from my Facebook and some even being sent threats to stay away from me. That was it.”

“He always doubted my loyalty. Every day and night, no matter how much I tried, he would call me unfaithful. We were having sex the other day when he tied to me to the bed and duct-taped my mouth. After a long while, he brought in two unknown women in the room and had sex with them in front of me. He even paid one of them to sexually abuse me. That night, he left and never came back. I have never been more relieved.”

13 Signs You are Dating a Dangerous Psychopath

1. They speak lies to you every chance they get

The most consistent trait found in most psychopaths is that they are proven pathological liars. Whenever things are not going their way, they would concoct a story up right then and there to try to take the steering wheel. Most of their lies are plausible, but the same excuses over and over again indicate that they are keeping something away from you. Even when you try to point this out, they will make a scene out of it and allege you of accusing them of unfaithfulness. There is no ending point to it.

2. They do not talk about their family

It has been a long while since you have been dating and they apparently are very much into you. You two say the L-word to one another often, you have even introduced them to your immediate family, but the moment you bring up anything about their own, they get aggressive. The simple mention of their parents or any other family member might make them lash out at you before they repeatedly apologize to you. You might have noticed that they never receive any calls from them and there are no incidences when you have seen him call any of his family.

3. Childhood is a no-go topic of discussion

When you are in a relationship, the first rule is full disclosure. Our childhoods are the basis of our personality and by delving into them we can comprehend most aspects of our behaviors.

Your school, favorite play-area and the first sip of beer are memories you love to tell them about. But, there is nothing you ever hear from them. It might feel like they have nothing to tell or as if they did not even have a childhood. Even when you try to ask them something specific from that era, they would dismiss it immediately or start talking about something else. Most psychopaths have a childhood history of abuse or have experienced something painful that seeps out every ounce of empathy from inside of them. They spend their whole life running away from their childhood.

4. They sometimes zone out and their eyes take on a new color

During your love-making sessions or even on a dine-out, you might catch them staring at you very intently. Now, we all know how lovers like to look at us all the time because they admire us. Psychopaths, however, have a very eerie gaze. Their facial expression becomes crooked, their lips break into a sardonic unilateral grim and the whites of their eyes exhibit dangerous greed. At that moment, it might look like they are engrossed in a deep fantasy within their head to the point that they lose track of space.

Nothing external brings them back from whatever rotten reverie they have about you in their head. You have to jolt them back to the moment. While mainstream notion about psychopaths going as far as torturing someone is not entirely typical of them, but they do have abnormally bizarre sexual, physical and emotional pictures of their lovers in their head.

5. They do not have friends

You might have observed this without trying very hard. In this time, it is weird knowing someone who does not have friends, social media accounts or a small circle they can hang out with even when it is only once a month. Their phone never rings, they have little to no social media presence and all of their accounts are very private. You have never heard them going out with someone else or for a road trip. This might come off as eerie to you because they might be too friendly and jolly with your friends to be someone who has none of their own.

6. They are always boasting about themselves

They find no fault in their being. Even for the minutest tasks they may be doing or simply be fulfilling their obligations as your partner, they will make sure that they highlight it for you. Soon, the relationship might start feeling like one of their favors. This flaunting might also at times be in the form of a comparison with you or anyone else around you. Demeaning others to boast about how good they are or how handsome they look might let the cat out of the bag.

7. Their sexual fantasies are borderline violent

We all like to get kinky some times. But, your psychopathic lover might turn it into a violent mess by saying or doing things that are unethical and painful to you. This might be worse if you have shared with them how you feel about it and they might not have done anything to correct their behavior in bed.

8. They have a history of abuse

They may or may not share it with you, but you will eventually find out if they have a criminal record or charges against them pressed by one of their ex-lovers. Many psychopaths have documented restraining orders.

9. They are very anti-social

Except when they are with your friends and family, they seem to be unable to connect with the people in a gathering. They brush everyone off and do not show any consideration when someone tries to talk to them.

10. They hate your friends

Initially, they might try their best to win the trust and respect of your closest friends. Later on in the relationship, they might change their hue. Any chance that they get, they will use it to instigate you against your friends, especially if they are of the opposite gender or someone who they deem as a threat. They will go to the point of asking you to turn down invitations and deleting them from your social media accounts.

11. They try to take control of your life

Your free spirit might suffocate as they try to implement their own set of rules. They will demean you for your choices and make you feel bad for the decisions that you take so that you start leaning on them for advice. Their suggestions will gradually transmute into orders and they will ensure that they make a full show of their displeasure the moment you do something on your own.

12. They seem to be a better person when someone else is around

If you have been noticing a psychopathic pattern in your partner, you might want to share it with your best friend or a parent just to make sure that you are not mistaken. However, your psychopathic lover is adept at the art of charming. His sanity mask, captivating persona, a sudden change in the way they deal with you and their tone of conversation when they are around your people might make everyone dismiss your doubts.

13. They have an exceptional charm

As stated earlier, psychopaths prey cleverly. They build a false personality when they know that they would be judged by the people around to give them the false impression of being nice. Every one of your friends and family loves them because psychopaths are just too good to them. Even though they might come off as a bit stand-offish, everyone will accept this aspect about them just because they are charming otherwise.

Any Distinct Difference with a Psychopath Girl

Psychopath females are different from males in the way they express themselves. Their narcissistic personality is sub-surface and they put on a good show to look modest in front of you even when deep down they are completely sure of being superior.

Compared to males, they are also less violent. They use words to do the damage for them instead. These females will ruin your life by acting like the victim in public, spreading lies about you and by marring your reputation in the society.

Tests on whether you are dating a psychopath

The Hare Psychopathy Checklist

The Hare Psychopathy Checklist: Take a test to find out whether you're a sociopath - Business Insider

This test has revised the list of the world’s biggest psychopaths by giving Donald Trump a higher position than Hitler. It has a set of 20 questions that you need to find the answers to. The end score of 30 or higher confirms a psychopath.

Levenson Self-Report Psychopathy Scale

Levenson Self-Report Psychopathy Scale

It is a quiz that assesses based on primary and secondary psychopathic tendencies; the LSRPS can easily be carried out online. You can ask your partner to take the test or you can answer it yourself on their behalf based on your observations.

Getting Help

It is a quiz that assesses based on primary and secondary psychopathic tendencies; the LSRPS can easily be carried out online. You can ask your partner to take the test or you can answer it yourself on their behalf based on your observations.

It is better that you involve someone from your friends and family who you can trust. Slowly, detach yourself from your psychopathic lover. Involve the authorities and keep it as low-key as you can. Talking to your therapist might also help as they may be able to offer some professional advice or ring the alarm for you so that the police and personnel better able to handle these people are aware.

It is better that you involve someone from your friends and family who you can trust. Slowly, detach yourself from your psychopathic lover. Involve the authorities and keep it as low-key as you can. Talking to your therapist might also help as they may be able to offer some professional advice or ring the alarm for you so that the police and personnel better able to handle these people are aware.

However, if you believe that your partner can get better if they were counseled or therapized, stay with them while they go through the process.

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Summary

Psychopaths are not easy to identify. A little keen observation over time will give you sufficient insight to be able to judge if your partner is one of those people. Remember, no matter how much you love them, there will come a time when they will break your heart. Look for the right moment and start seeking help in a way that benefits you both if your partner is motivated to become better or just stay prepared to give up on them very cautiously if they are a hopeless case.

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