21 Signs that You Will Never Be Married (Might be a Good Thing)

In the past, marriage has been less about unconditional love and more of a social obligation. Individuals who chose to not partake in the institution of marriage were looked down upon. As soon as one would reach a mature age, the pressure to settle down with a partner increased manifold. It feels like a ticking time bomb before you are “too old” to get hitched. But the times are progressing and so is the concept of marriage.

For some people, marriage means security, stability, and support. On the other hand, for some individuals, it can feel like a trap. If you are the type of person to feel restricted and caged by monogamy, likely, you do not desire to get married. Everything is going well and you feel happy until your partner brings up commitment. As soon as they do you feel like you are being chained and to a certain extent losing your freedom.

Everyone has considered the idea of producing offspring but as much of a wholesome experience it is for some, it may be terrifying to you. The sole purpose of getting married is not to have children. Yet if you feel unsure about it or are leaning towards not having kids, it may be a sign that you are not family-oriented.

You’ve never had a strong belief in that classic fairytale kind of eternal love. You think they should make fairytales more realistic because there is no romantic love that is strong enough to last forever. This reasoning leads you to not be a married person. And most of all you do not believe any special someone can change this.

A sign you may never get married is that you prioritize your career and work-life over your love life. Marriage just isn’t for everyone. It is possible to be career-oriented and still want to get married. But you are married to your job. You have big dreams and you just can’t manage to make time for a long-term relationship.

Many people fantasize about the day that they will get married to a very young age. You are not one of those people. Marriage is treated as a significant milestone in one’s life. But for you there are many other fantasies to fulfill and getting hitched is not your primary concern. As a child, you dreamt of traveling, big careers, and other successes.

At this point in your life, you may just not feel ready to settle down. You feel like you have a long way to go before even thinking about marriage. You are not the type to put a ring on it as soon as you are of the marrying age. You are on a path to finding the best and truest version of yourself and a soulmate just isn’t part of your plan.

Through the course of your life, you have been exposed to many unhealthy and toxic relationships. You have seen your friends, coworkers, etc. get hurt by their partners over and over again. Looking at how miserable the people around you have been in relationships has made you feel uninterested in them.

Another reason may be your negative past experiences. Perhaps at an early stage of your life, you were severely hurt and betrayed by a partner. They may have abused, manipulated, lied to, or cheated on you. And this has made you never want to get married. An awful breakup experience may be making you hold back on the concept of lasting monogamy and love.

You have always been a bit rebellious. This may show up in other aspects of your life as well. The whole wedding music, elegant veil, charming groom, and big celebration scenario doesn’t ignite a spark for you. You are not used to following the norm and your love life decisions are not exempted from this rebellious streak.

Various studies have shown that your love life as an adult is immensely affected by your parents’ relationship with each other and you. As a child, you form these ideas about love and how it works mostly by looking at your parents’ marriage. So it is not surprising that you do not wish to participate in the institution of marriage if your mom and dad had a damaged love life.

In your opinion, weddings are not all that they are said to be. Often you find yourself at a wedding and all the festivities just look tacky and unsophisticated to you. Moreover, you do not believe it is practical to spend an extravagant amount of money on a one-day event. You don’t even like being invited to weddings let alone want one of your own.

Maybe you just have very high expectations that no one has been able to meet yet. You do not want to be just another brick in the wall settling down for someone less than the person of their dreams. You refuse to accept anything short of Prince Charming. Your idea of marriage is too idealistic.

You are a bit of a loner but not in a bad way. You like having your personal space to relax and inviting someone into your peaceful solitude just does not feel like it is a good idea. You can enjoy the company of friends and acquaintances but only as guests in your space, not residents.

Whether you are single right now, living with your partner, or just busy with your social life, you feel satisfied with where you are at. You do not feel the need or desire for more than what you have right now. You are utterly fulfilled with the love you receive from other sources. You do not want a spouse.

Perhaps you do believe in a loving, happy marriage but you can never fathom it for yourself. This may be because you are scared to the bone of letting someone in. You cannot seem to open up. Your fear of allowing yourself to be exposed and vulnerable with someone is holding you back.

If you are in a healthy and contented relationship and want to take it to the next level but your partner does not want to get married, you may remain unmarried forever. To keep this person close, you give up on the idea of married life.

It may be scary to admit but change is not easy. If it intimidates you more than normal, this may be a sign that you are not of marriage material. Deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone is a big thing that involves a lot of adjustments to your unmarried lifestyle.  

You have always been someone who wants to only stand on their own feet. As much as this is an admirable quality, accepting support from loved ones should not feel like the end of the world. If you are not willing to share your successes with a partner, marriage is not for you.

Marriage is quite literally built on compromise. Whether that may be in small everyday ways or big changes like moving to a different state because they got their dream job. If you are set in your ways and cannot sometimes let go of your preferences, this is a major indication that you will never get married.

Whenever you are discussing the topic of marriage or it comes up in a conversation, you find yourself taking a pessimistic or critical approach. You do not like the concept of marriage and it does not seem like something you want to indulge in. You start to feel icky whenever someone you know tells you the big news that they said yes.

If you are someone who has a short temper and easily gets irritated by little things, you will not get married. Marriage involves putting up with the other person’s annoying or unsavory parts as well. It is a vow to accept and love the other person even at their worst. A person with a short temper will only make the marriage an abusive and unhappy one.

At the end of the day, no one should make you feel pressured to get married if that is not what you want. I urge you to not give in to societal pressure. Getting married just for the sake of other people’s opinions of you will only lead to an unhappy married life and likely divorce. The decision to stay single or even in a romantic relationship without marriage is a choice for you to make. Conclusively, your love life does not have to include marriage to remain normal, healthy, and thriving.