10 Obvious Signs He's Playing Mind Games With You

There is no such thing as an ideal relationship. Ideal equals to boring. But if he plays mind games with you, does your relationship have a future?

By Tashke
10 Obvious Signs He's Playing Mind Games With You

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When we start a relationship with someone, we expect to give that person our all while getting something back as well. What if that doesn't happen? When the initial love phase dies down, women can begin to notice signs that give away the 'player'. Thinking that playing mind games is normal, women often remain in unhealthy relationships and suffer, not wanting to admit that they are really very unhappy. If you ever wondered how to know if he plays you like a game, you're in the right spot. Here are some examples of usual mind games guys like to play.

Mind game 1: He doesn’t want you to meet his friends

Here is a situation: you are going out with your ‘boyfriend’ and suddenly you see a group of people looking at you while your boyfriend waves at them. The mind game here is when they ask him who you are and he refuses to say that you’re actually his girlfriend, so he just says "Oh, she's just a friend". That's weird, isn’t it? Here’s another situation. After a couple months of relationship, you realize you don’t know his friends, not even his best friend. It happens that sometimes he refuses to hang out with your friends, saying it’s not the right time even after dating for over 6 months. Does this look like he's playing some sort of a mind game with you? Do you feel played and ashamed? I bet you do.

Mind game 2: He is playing hard to get

You are texting this guy and it's all fun and great until he stops replying you for days, but you know he's using his phone all the time. Then, he comes back with some kind of excuse, such as ‘my phone died’, ‘I was busy’, ‘family problems’ and so on. During your relationship, his granny died six times and his cat obviously has 99 lives, so he's totally playing a serious mind game with you. Well, girl, let me tell you something. If he likes you, he would have texted you no matter the situation instead of playing a mind game with you. Also, him just cutting you off for good without any sort of an explanation might mean that he was texting another girl or even some girls at the same time, and he is trying to push you far away from him. That is a sign for you to move on. I know you like him, but that boy is obviously playing with you and you don’t deserve that, always keep that in mind. Just go ahead and let him play with his G.I.Joe.

Mind game 3: He 'negs' you and plays with your feelings

‘Negging’ is both a compliment with a negative undertone and a serious mind game. For example, when he tells you that “you will look prettier with a little bit more of makeup” or when he says things like “my girlfriend is good looking, but she is a bit chubby/skinny” and ”you need to work out more and stop eating” in front of his friends. Well, that is not a good compliment, especially if you’re insecure about the way you look. No guy should body shame any girl. By doing this, they feel empowered to insult you and compare you to other girls, which is not nice at all. You are pretty the way you are and you should stay that way, as no guy has the right to play mind games with you. Comments like “oh, you remind me of my mom”, “that color doesn't suit you”, “I think you should wear something else”, etc., are really harsh.

How much times I've texted someone "I'm fine, don't worry" when I was actually crying, wanting to die so bad...

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Mind game 4: He doesn’t go out with you anymore

He never asks you out anymore. Every time you ask him to go out with you, he either makes up dozens of excuses or simply says he doesn’t want to because he has other plans even if you had it planned before. Sometimes, he doesn't even answer your calls or he ignores your texts. Caution, girl, he is playing a mind game with you. Sometimes he changes your plans last minute and runs away without saying a word. To me, that raises a red flag that maybe he’s seeing another girl or he just lost any interest he had in you. In any case, there’s nothing you can do about it, so just let him go, text your friends and have some girl time to cheer you up. Don't let yourself be played by some douche who's using mind games to control you.

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Mind game 5: He likes to play with your feelings

Him: “Do you like/love me?” You: “Yes I do.” When you tell him you love him, you expect to hear “I like/love you too”, but instead he either says “okay, good”, "thank you", which is even worse, or he doesn't even say a word and just gives you a smile. Doesn't it seem weird to you? He insists on you telling him that you love him, but he never says it back, which is a smart move from a player. Sometimes he jokes about leaving you or having another girl just to see you broken and crying so he can feel he has control over you. Get it together, he is obviously playing a huge mind game with you, as these situations show him how much power he exerts over you without getting a reaction from you. It’s sad to hear that people are going through this kind of situation because no one should mess up with your emotions or play with you, and no one should be treated like a toy. You’re not a doll to be played with and he is not your boss. Remember that, girl. Always remember that!

Mind game 6: The guy you like is never there for you

You had a bad day at school or at work and you have the need to share that with someone, but the person you want to share that with doesn’t even care. It hurts to see that the guy you like is not interested in your daily activities, life, habits, interests and so on. Whenever you’re sad, broken and feeling alone, he’s never home or nowhere to be seen and he doesn’t even answer your calls or messages. He likes your attention ​but has no intention to give it back, and when he needs you, you're always there to help him. He's playing a hide-and-seek mind game with you, but relationships don’t work that way.

Mind game 7: Empty promises

If after promising you that he really loves you, that he doesn’t want to lose you and that he’ll do anything to change his behavior because he can't imagine his life without you, he still acts the same way, then you must do something. If he breaks his promise once, he’ll do it twice or thrice because he knows that you are always going to forgive him. That should be worrying you because it is a sign of a mind game. But wait a minute. Do you really want to go back over and over again, and be played with again? Do you want to hear the same stories about him changing over and over again? I don't think so. So, it is best for you to just call it quits and let him be a douche. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. You don't need him, he is not the only guy out there. Let him play mind games with someone else, not with you. But hey, don't give up on love just because of this. I’m sure you will find a guy who deserves you, who won't play with you and who will treat you the way you need to be treated: like a princess.

Mind game 8: He is a player in the game of intimacy

Yes, that is right, I'm talking about ‘making love’. He doesn’t show his emotions or he barely hugs you, gives you compliments or even speaks to you if it is not while you're doing it. He's playing hard to get, yet he can have you anytime he wants, playing his mind game with you. Think about it and ask yourself if it has happened. If the answer is yes, then that is not cool at all, at least not for you because he is using you for his needs and pleasure, and you are not an object to be used for such things. You are a human too, you have feelings and he needs to respect that and stop acting like a little boy playing with his toys. You don't want to be in a relationship where the only way for you to get his attention is on his bed.

Mind game 9: He doesn't want to make memories with you

Let's face it, nowadays it's all about being present and popular on the internet. Whether you want it or not, it's now an integral part of our lives. We share our life and intimacy with 'friends' and both known and unknown people. We are playing a social media game where we show how perfect our lives are, even though they're not. When you are in a relationship, you want to introduce your boyfriend to the world and proudly post it on Facebook, Instagram, etc., to get likes and compliments. However, he avoids any attempt to take a photo with you, he hides when you try to record something, and, on top of everything, it makes him mad. It's a little suspicious, don't you think? When you are with someone and when you're having a great time together, you want to create a mutual memory to remind you of those moments. If he does not want it, it means he is not serious about you and your relationship. Maybe he doesn't want anyone to know about you because he is probably hiding something, so he will usually try to convince you that he is not photogenic or that he's not in the mood. I would say that this is an obvious sign that he's playing with you.

Mind game 10: It's all about him

Healthy, committed relationships are supposed to be a pleasure for both of you, not a game to be played. If you love someone, there's no place for being selfish, as you can't think only about yourself. But, let's face it, many current relationships are a 'one-way street'. As Beyonce said, "me, myself and I, that's all I got". He only talks about himself, his problems and issues and he doesn't even listen to you. Also, he only does what makes him happy, which means he is totally playing with you. In his dictionary, 'we' is not a word while 'you' are defined as irrelevant. Well, honey, you should know that Earth revolves around the Sun, not around him. On the first indication of being with someone so obsessed with himself, you should run away. You really don't have to be in a relationship where both of you love the same person - him.

A message to cheer you up!

Like I said, every girl on this planet should no be played with but treated like a princess. We are not men’s dolls, so they cannot play mind games with us, control us in relationships the way they like to or even try to make us insecure about ourselves. We deserve more and that that 'more' is RESPECT. Only real men will respect us and will not play mind games with us like we’re little kids. If your friends kept telling you that this guy is not right for you, think about it because they might be doing that for you and your own good. I hope this article helps you to see an example of a bad relationship​ and the reasons why you should avoid playing mind games. Stay strong and be who you really are because you are all worth it and no man can tell you different.