35 Ways To Keep A Man Interested & Have Him Chase You Forever

How do women keep their men chasing after them? Here are 35 sure-fire ways to keep your man always coming back for more.

By Kat W
35 Ways To Keep A Man Interested & Have Him Chase You Forever

Leave Your Baggage At The Door

So your last boyfriend cheated on you, and the one before that hated your dog. Not all men are the same, and it's important to keep that in mind when you begin a new relationship. Leave all your baggage at the door and don't let bad boyfriends and past flings ruin what could be with this new man.

Learn How To Cook

It is undeniable that a man loves a woman who can make a good home cooked meal. It's no secret that food is the way to a man's heart, but we never said you had to do it alone! Buy some wine, put on some good music, and make a date night out of cooking a meal together. By the end, he'll be impressed with your mad skills and love you forever.

Small Surprises Go A Long Way

So you're grocery shopping and see a box of your man's favorite cookies, buy them for him. Men love knowing you are always thinking about them, so occasionally bringing him small surprises lets him know that he's on your mind and that you remember the little details.

Don't Harp Too Much On His Past

Just like you should leave your baggage at the door, don't try unzipping his. Don't bring attention to girls he dated forever ago or even recent exes; he may volunteer information, listen to what he has to say but don't pry.

Remember To Keep Your Friends Close

When starting a new relationship, it can be easy to forget about your friends for a little while. Remember your friends matter too. They are the ones picking up the pieces whenever a man breaks your heart, buying you gallons of ice cream, and letting you cry on their shoulder. Feel free to vent your frustrations about your man to them, as they can be good at giving an unbiased opinion on the matter. Also, share good things about your man too because your friends should know you're dating a good person. Don't feel bad about leaving your man at home for the night for much-needed girl time. Having equal time with your friends can help keep your relationship healthy.

Why So Serious?

When you're in a serious relationship, serious shouldn't mean boring! Make it a point to keep things fun and lighthearted at times. Buy two nerf guns and have a nerf war, play loud music and dance in your underwear. Whatever you do, show your partner you can still have fun and be a kid at heart.

Know What To Keep To Yourself

You should never feel like you have to lie to your man, but sometimes some details are better left unsaid. If that one night stand isn't directly related to him in any way, leave it in the dark. There is no need for him to know all your dirty secrets.

Be Open And Honest

Does your man care immensely about trust? Then make it a point to always be open and honest with him. If he asks you a question you'd prefer not answer, be honest and let him know you are uncomfortable talking about certain things from your past. Reassure him that one day you may feel comfortable enough to share. Uncovering lies later in your relationship can create a messy argument and cause him to lose respect for you. Even white lies can snowball into an elaborate story, creating an avalanche you can't dig yourself out of.

Don't Compromise Who You Are

It's easy to get caught up in your man and change who you are to be more in line with what you perceive to be his 'ideal' girl. He picked you for a reason, so don't get too caught up in what you can change about yourself. Becoming someone else can set up false expectations, so stay true to who you are, and if he's right for you, he'll stick around.

Be Spontaneous

Every now and then it's fun to mix things up. Plan a creative date night, take last minute trips together, and mix it up in the bedroom.

Be Willing To Come Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Maybe you've never been interested his favorite food, or you haven't done much experimenting in the bedroom. No matter what, you should always be willing to try new and strange things! If you honestly hate it or it makes you uncomfortable, tell him.

Invest In Good Personal Hygiene Products

While we should already be doing this, it's good to show your man you care about his perception of you. Purchase a perfume or two to mix it up and find a gentle body wash that makes your skin silky smooth. Spritz a little perfume or body spray any time you plan to be around him and pay extra attention to those pesky body odors.

Be A Guy's Girl

Impress your man's friends to show him you can hang with the bros too. You know your man finds you attractive, but if his friends think you're snobby or standoff-ish, he may start to form the same opinion. Show his friends how great you are, and he'll enjoy being around you that much more.

Be Interested In His Hobbies

Is your man really into hockey? Suggest going on a date night to watch his favorite team play! Paying attention to his hobbies and interests will show him that you care about what he likes to do for fun too. You may even find yourself picking up a new hobby or two.

Share Your Hobbies With Him

Maybe you love painting, make a date night of drinking wine and painting two pictures he can take home to hang on the wall. Take him hiking and kayaking, read him parts of your favorite book, cook him your favorite meal. Whatever you enjoy, include him.

Don't Be Too Extra

It's entirely okay to stand your ground when you feel disrespected or unappreciated. But don't exaggerate a situation or blow it way out of proportion to prove your point. Men typically enjoy living a drama free life, and they aren't too keen on keeping dramatic people around. Calmly explain your point of view to help him understand why you two aren't clicking on the subject. He will respond much better when you make clear and concise points.

Be There When He Needs You

Guys are awful at showing their emotions, but sometimes they need a shoulder to lean on as well. Maybe he had a bad day at work, or his goldfish died, either way, reassure him that he can confide in you.

Don't Stop Looking Good

We've all been there. We get into a relationship and become way too comfortable with our significant other. While it's okay to dress super casual on a Netflix and chill kind of night, be sure to look good when you’re out together. You may not be looking for a man anymore, but your man is always looking at you. Continue to get your hair done, wearing fashionable outfits, and being your fierce self.

Show Your Man You Are Financially Stable

It is true that some men do love being the provider in the relationship, but it's good to show him you can make your own money and have control over your finances. Show him you have a good head on your shoulders by making smart money decisions, but that doesn't mean you can't splurge on something for yourself occasionally.

Don't Dumb Yourself Down

There is a huge misconception that all men are scared of smart women. While this may be true for those who care more about their ego than the quality of their relationship, a majority of men do enjoy a woman with brains. Have intelligent conversations about important matters and things you both care about. It's okay to show him your big brain is just as beautiful as you.

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Communication Is Key

We know you've heard this a million times before, but that's because it couldn't be truer. Don't bottle things up that bother you because one day you'll explode, causing a bigger scene than necessary. Also, reassure your man that he can share his frustrations with you. Open communication will help improve your relationship and keep it healthy.

Let His Family Fall In Love With You

Guys love their families, and most of all, their mothers. Impressing his mother will inevitably impress him. Prove to her you're a keeper and he will chase you forever.

Public Displays Of Affection

There is such a thing as too much PDA, but don't pretend you're strangers in public. Quick kisses and holding his hand or holding on to his arm are appropriate ways to say "he's mine" without sticking your tongue down his throat.

Don't Be A Compliment Hog

It's hard to believe men are looking for compliments, but the reality is they're just like us. Make him feel good when he accomplishes a goal at work and be sure to notice his achievements. If you're going out for the night, tell him he's looking great! Let him know you're always proud to call him yours.

Be Independent

Superhero movies may always portray the female lead as a damsel in distress, but it's important to show your man you can survive without him. While he may enjoy coming over to help you occasionally, he doesn't like being called over for every little thing. Kill the small spiders, hang your own pictures, take out your own trash, and fix the minor stuff.

Never Let The Chase End

Don't stop doing the things you did to get your man. Continue to do little things that remind him he should still be chasing you, even years after you've been together.

Stay Interesting

Try not to share your whole life story with him in the first five minutes of meeting him. Keep little pieces of yourself to share at relevant moments.

Don't Make Your Man Feel Insecure

You don’t have to stop talking to other men, but make your man’s name is a part of the conversation if he isn’t around. When he is around, include your man in the conversation. Don't give other men too much attention. Eventually, they will get the hint, and your man will feel more secure in your relationship.

Being Clingy Is Too Clingy

When your man goes out with the boys, let him go out. Don’t bombard him with text messages and phone calls every 5 seconds. You should be able to trust your man to allow him his freedom to have a good time with the bros. When you’re in public together, keep the PDA to a minimum. Enough to show you’re together, but not so much others want to turn away.

Don't Be A Pushover

There is a fine line between being a submissive partner and doing nice things for your man. Don’t earn his love and respect by bowing down to him. Be opinionated, show him when he’s wrong, and don’t be afraid to say no.

Don't Accept Or Display Bad Behavior

Ignore childish behavior when he doesn’t get his way. Call him out or scold him for throwing a tantrum, but remember bad behavior can be a two-way street. So what, you didn’t get to eat dinner where you wanted. Relationships are about compromise and doing things you both like.

Never Forget Your Dreams

Any man will tell you they want a girl who is ambitious and has goals in life. Share yours with him and keep him updated on your progress. Men want a woman they can be proud to call their own.

Be Open To His Opinions

We’re all human, right? While we don’t all have the same ideals and morals, it’s important to understand what you stand for before diving into a relationship. Once you are in a relationship, be open-minded to what his ideals and morals are. You may not agree 100%, but it’s important to respect his thoughts and understand that we are all entitled to our own opinions.

Keep It Interesting In The Bedroom

Don’t get complacent with your sex life. Continue to try new things in the bedroom to keep him interested and you satisfied. Otherwise, it will begin to feel more like a chore than something you should enjoy.

Respect And Love Yourself

No matter how hard you try, a man will not respect and love you if you don’t do the same for yourself. Respect yourself by dressing appropriately, eating well, and doing things you love. Love who you are as a person and what you contribute to the world, and he will too.

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