What It Means When You Can't Stop Thinking About Someone

We've all had at least one experience where we can't stop thinking about that special someone. Here we will discover what that means.

By Foevos Monemvasitis
What It Means When You Can't Stop Thinking About Someone

What It Means When You Can't Stop Thinking About Someone

At times, we find someone who means so much to us that we can't stop thinking about them when we are not with them. When we are with them, it is as if nothing else matters. You only have eyes for them, ears for when they talk, and almost 100% of your undivided attention goes to them. This feeling is amazing, but it makes when you're not with them even worse than it would have been if you didn't have such strong feelings for them. For all intents and purposes, you are most likely in love with the person that you are constantly thinking about. Sometimes it may be mere infatuation, but for the most part, you are head over heels in love with them.

Finding That Someone

The fact that the significance of this is so vast makes it all the more difficult to actually find someone like this. For some people, this is an ordinary phenomenon. They bounce from one person to another, simply transferring those emotions to the next person they find that seems to float their boat, if you will. For others, this is a rare occurrence that almost never happens, so when it does, they don't quite know how to handle it. Mistakes are often made when dealing with people that we care so much about. Once you realize that you care so much about this person, you find yourself acting differently so that you do not ruin it. Ironically, just the fact that you begin to act differently is what could be the reason for this relationship's demise. The key after you find someone like this is to act as you did in the beginning. If you were being yourself, by all means, just be yourself. If you were slowly showing who you really are, continue to slowly show who you are. Relationships can be simple and complicated, all at the same time. But if you choose to communicate certain things in a certain manner, then you should continue in that manner. You set the tone of the relationship in the beginning. If it's easy-going in the beginning, don't make it dramatic and serious later on. The beginning is the fun part, so it's understandable if things get messy in the process, but remember how it all started, and never stop communicating. That is key to any relationship, really.

Does That Someone Think About You?

This is one of the hardest things to encounter. It is often that in a relationship, one person is more invested than the other. So, while you may be thinking about your significant other all the time, they may have their mind elsewhere, which creates an odd interpretation of the relationship. If you don't know how they feel about you, you may want to bring it up in a manner that matches your communication style. Don't be different when you have this conversation, because you may come off as needy, self-conscious, and insecure. All of these characteristics can be major turn-offs for both sexes, so it doesn't really matter whether you are a man or a woman. In this case, be yourself, and try to be as confident as possible. Even if they don't think of you as much as you think of them, it's not the end of the world. It just means that they have other things on their mind. Perhaps they are not as comfortable in other aspects of their lives, like work, family situation, or anything else really. You may be more comfortable, which is why you have time to think about your relationship with your significant other. It is always good to communicate these emotions so that there are no misunderstandings. I'm not saying that you have to put everything out on the table, a little mystery is good at times. But in terms of emotions and how you think about each other, the healthiest thing to do is to share. If you already do know that it's not their style to think of their relationship when they are not with their significant other, then this changes things. You already know what you are getting into. If you find that this is a problem, do things that take your mind off of them. This isn't so that you forget them, this is merely so that you do not obsess over them. Interest and emotions combined together could easily go overboard and cause something that resembles obsession. It's not a nice word, hence the "resemble" prior to using the term "obsession". But it's true. When you are more invested in someone and you feel that they are not as invested as you are, you could easily become obsessed and possessive of them, which are definite turn-offs for 90% of the human race. Most people don't like to feel as if they are possessions of someone else. Keep in mind that communicating how you feel when you're with the person you love or even someone else can really help clear your mind of all the clutter. It makes you understand what is and isn't important. This will help you maintain a good relationship with the person you love.

Can't Stop Thinking About What He/She Is Doing?

Find a hobby, please! Everybody needs to do what makes them happy, individually speaking. I'm sure that being with your significant other brings you more joy than any activity you would do alone, but you must remember that you were a functional human being far before you met this person. Also, consider that this person met you as that functional human being and clearly learned to care for you. So, by you becoming a needy person that always wants them around, you have subsequently changed into something or someone else. Find your roots again, and do things that made you happy before. Sometimes it's good to change and adapt over time, but we must not lose the aspects of ourselves that made us lovable to the man or woman that we love. This is often the case with couples. They forget about who they were before they met the person that they are with, so they have substituted the emotions they had doing other things with the person that they are with. This creates confusion in the brain when our significant other is not around to do those things. Essentially, we find ourselves not knowing what to do with ourselves, which is very unhealthy. Above all, we are individuals before we are couples. In order for a couple to be healthy, the individuals involved must be healthy. This may sound simple, but in the process of becoming a couple, everyone loses a part of themselves. This even includes those that always make claims of needing their space and time alone. It's easy to get caught up in a relationship, especially in the beginning, when everything is sweet, new, and fun.

What If You Can't Stop Thinking About Someone?

This is a common question among people that find themselves more invested in a relationship than the other person involved. Nobody wants to get hurt, as much as they believe they are self-destructive and experience all of these feelings when thinking about their ex or exes. It's imperative to remember why you are feeling the way you are feeling. Talking about these emotions may indeed help you think about things more clearly. If talking does not seem like an option and isn't really your strong suit, try writing. It often brings out all your inner thoughts and makes you feel better than how you would have felt if you said them. Nobody needs to read it so it doesn't even need to make sense. Just scribble things, draw things, add words, and do whatever makes you feel a little better. Your sanity is key, especially when trying to juggle multiple relationships with family, friends, and the one that you love. This does not have to be negative, but try doing things that don't involve the one that you love. Have some alone time, go shopping, play or watch some sports, go out with your friends, leave your phone away from you. This is for those of you that believe that you spend too much of your time thinking about them while they are not thinking about you. This is dangerous, which is why I advise you to stop it. It's a slippery slope that can very quickly become an obsession. You can excuse yourself and tell your loved one why you are doing this, or you can just do it and explain later. You may feel that you have lost your sense of who you are without them, or that you don't spend much alone time because you think about them more than you would like to. It's always risky when you share, but it's better to have everything out on the table than having thoughts that may or not be wrong.

Can't Stop This Feeling?

Yes, I am well aware that this is a Justin Timberlake song, but it applies here. Just because you can't stop that feeling does not make it a bad thing. It just means that you have these feelings built up, and you do not know how to deal with them. You just have to find a way to deal with them, and you will be alright. It's not bad when a man loves a woman (also a song) or when anybody loves anybody, really. You just need to understand why these feelings exist and how they have increased or decreased over time. The reasoning behind things is always imperative to know, as if something does not make sense, it's hard to cure it once it goes bad. It may cause you a certain amount of discomfort knowing that the one you love does not think about you as much as they do. Understand why you think about them so much, and you will be able to solve the root of the problem. Perhaps you are too lazy to do anything else because you are so comfortable with your love. This is unhealthy because you are no longer content being an individual, you only find happiness when you are as a couple. Never lose sight of your own self. For you to be able to help other people, you first have to help yourself. Much like on a plane, when the oxygen masks come down, you must first apply the oxygen mask to your own face, and then begin to help others. This is a similar case. When you feel broken inside and unloved, everything you do to help someone else will also be broken, or even just a half-act. It's possible that you were doing things that weren't good for you before you met your significant other. Perhaps you were a gambler, a smoker, a gamer, a loser, an alcoholic, etc. This may be why you feel a little lost as well. You remember your life without this person, and you feel as though they have cured you and then left you alone. They may have helped you cure yourself, but you were the one who did it, not them. They may have assisted you, and now that you don't have these bad influences in your life, go find some good influences that don't involve the person you love. Let's face it, sometimes relationships don't end the way we want them to. This is why we must always be prepared for them to end. I'm not saying that everytime you see them, think to yourself that it's going to end. Just be prepared. Learn how to survive on your own, eat by yourself, go shopping, watch movies, go out with friends. If you become so co-dependent that you can't do any of those things alone, you are going to have a lot of trouble if the relationship ends. This is why I feel that people should really take advantage of their alone time, or even go as far as creating more alone time. The happier you and your significant other are when you are alone, the happier you will most likely be when you are together. If, on the other hand, you don't feel happy when you are together, then it's possible that perhaps you shouldn't be together. I'm not saying you must break up because of this, but consider whether or not they are still what you want.

Learn From Your Mistakes

Listening is a major part of relationships. It is very important to listen to your partner so that you can learn what to do more of and what to not do at all. Sometimes we find that we can't stop certain things that come bursting out of us like fireworks. We can't stop reverting back to our old self, but we don't want to because it hurts the one that we love. We need to think before we act and we need to think before we say things because sometimes we can't stop hurting the one that we love. This is where communication is key. The more you communicate the things that bother you, the more possible it is to stop hurting someone that you love.

Love Is A Wonderful Thing

Can't stop thinking about the one you love? Who cares? At least you have someone that you love so much. Think about it like this, would you rather not have that person in your life? Would you rather not love them so much? The power is in your head. The answer is simple. You either love them or you don't. If you can't stop thinking about someone, then you can't stop loving someone. So there is nothing to think about. Enjoy it while it lasts, and if it bothers you that you think about that someone more than that someone thinks about you, then you need to re-evaluate a few things. Re-evaluate your relationship, your priorities, and yourself. Some of these things could be hurting you, and you need to make a change before it crushes you. But if it's not quite as dramatic as I've made it out to be, then just enjoy it, really! Love is beautiful, and just because you can't stop thinking about it doesn't make it bad. It just means that you are invested in someone else more than yourself. Try to balance it out. Invest time and space to yourself, and your relationship will work out as well. Discuss these things with your loved one, after carefully thinking about how you want to share it with them. Communication in a relationship is key, and if you love them, you owe them complete honesty. If they love you, then they will understand and try to help you any way they can. This is why love is beautiful. It can make anything better.


When you can't stop thinking about someone, it usually means that you are infatuated with them in one way or another. It's not the end of the world. This is one of the easier problems to cure because it is not yet a problem. When it becomes an obsession, it is a problem, but I think I've given you enough ways to avoid getting to that stage. Just enjoy this feeling of love that you have for that special someone, and do your best to still be yourself and enjoy your time alone. If you enjoy your time with yourself, it will make your loved one miss spending time with you as well. If you can't be with yourself, what makes you think someone else will want to be with you? Think about these things, put them in perspective, and you will be alright, trust me.