Why It's So Hard to Leave an Abusive Relationship

There are a variety of reasons people do not leave their abusive relationships, and you will see the top ten reasons down below. There are a lot of crazy reasons why people stay in an abusive relationship. And when you are on the outside looking in it is easy to criticize people for staying. But if you have a friend or a family member in this type of relationship try to understand their reason for staying and do not tease them about it. There are a lot of signs you should.Just simply talk to them and do your best to be there for them. Here is a list of the biggest reasons people stay in their abusive relationships in stead of just leaving.

If there is one thing about people who abuse others is that they are good at being your dream mate. So, you can run across one of these types of partners it is best that you pay close attention to them your life may depend on it. And you should pay very close to all warning signs. By paying attention to the warning signs you can stand a better chance of getting out before you develop any strong feelings for them. This is your best chance but if you missed them you should find someone you truly trust and talk to them about it.

There are a lot of reasons why people stay in an abusive relationship. And when you are on the outside looking in it is easy to criticize people for staying. But if you have a friend or a family member in this type of relationship try to understand their reason for staying and do not tease them about it. Just simply talk to them and do your best to be there for them. They will definitely need your help in the end so be patient they will eventually leave their abuser.

They stay because they do not know how to support themselves (money). This is a very common excuse, as a matter of fact, it is number one because it is always used the most. However, there are a variety of ways you can make money to support yourself and kids if you have any. So if you are in an abusive relationship, you should leave there are plenty of resources out there waiting for you to get back on your feet. Never stay in a relationship because of lack of money. You can always get on the job training they will gladly show everything you need to know about working with their establishment so once you decide to leave look for jobs that do on the job training. Money should never be a reason to stay in harms way. Money is not everything especially when it comes before your life.

Why would you want your child to watch you get beat up? This is the worst reason in the world to stay in an abusive relationship. Children do what they see their parents doing so if grow up and get a boyfriend or girlfriend they may do the same thing or find someone who is abusive. This is never a good idea, so if you have children involved in this type of situation all it will do is scar your children so do them a favor and leave your kids will love you for it. If you are that afraid you should get restraining order it may not stop him from trying but you will be in control of the situation and you will have every reason in the world to protect yourself and your kid(s) no matter what the situation may be.

They stay because they are too scared to leave. This is another crazy reason of why you will not leave. This is another crazy reason to stay in an abusive relationship. You should never be scared to leave the second things do not feel right you should just leave. You can even confide in your friend or family reach out and ask them to help you. Nine times out of ten he won’t do you anything he is trying his best to control you. While this maybe true you have to do something to protect yourself.

They stay in the relationship because they feel they are the blame for the abuse, This reason makes no sense if someone decides to hit that is not your fault. Abused people always think when they get hit it it is because of themselves, but that is not right at all. When he or she hit you, they made the decision to do, so it is their choice, but on the other hand, you didn’t agree to become their punching bag so it shouldn’t be hard to leave. As a grown person you do not deserve this type of abuse. You need to look deep within yourself and figure out why do you stick around something that is so toxic. Are you child who needs to be disciplined and if you say yes something is wrong with you.

They stay because their family tells them to stay. If you are tired of getting hit leave, it is as easy as that. Your family is not the one feeling those punches you are. Never listen to people when they tell you to do something bad to yourself. If you are tired of getting hit don’t listen to your family this person is trying to harm you, so you are leaving because it is what good for you to ignore your family and tell they can be in a relationship with the person and leave it at that.

They stay because it is against their religion. The Lord does not want you to stay somewhere that causes you pain every single day. I know this for a fact, it is never right to use your religion as an excuse to stay in an abusive relationship. All you have to do is leave people at your church will understand. And most of all the Lord will understand. He is not going to want you stay in a situation that could possibly kill you or cause any kind of harm to yourself or your children if you have any.

They have low self-esteem. Having low self-esteem is not good at all in an abusive relationship because people with low self-esteem tend to believe they can not do any better than what they have now. You should think more of yourself than to stay in a dangerous situation you deserve better than that. Do not let your self- pity keep you in an abusive relationship there are too many fish in the sea for you to settle with a shark. Nobody deserve to be abused at all even if you have low self-esteem.

They stay because they do not want to alone. This is another reason they stay in an abusive relationship. You should never use this reason at all it is too old, and you should be able to survive on your own. This is a very poor excuse, and you should move on before you get your feelings hurt by this person.

They stay because they are too embarrassed to leave. This is another crazy excuse to stay in an abusive relationship. A person who is abused on a daily basis will make reasons to stay because they are too embarrassed to leave. Their friends and family may laugh at them saying they knew the relationship would not last. So, they stay getting abused just to prove whatever point they want to prove. Another reason they stay is because they have a better chance of staying a live if they were to leave somebody in their family can die as a result of them leaving. They show movies about this all the time and they come from real life situations.

They stay because they do not have another home to go to. Now, this is a good reason of why they stay in an abusive relationship. Not having a home is essential when you are trying to leave your abuser. So instead of being homeless, they have no other choice. Or they think they don’t have any more choices however there is a lot of choices out there, and there’s a lot of help out there. Do some research and check out all the government programs for abused women and men because there is help out there for men to. There is always help out there you just got to look out for it.

They stay because they are in love with their abuser. This is one of their biggest excuses for staying in an abusive relationship. Love does not hurt in no way so if that is the way your boyfriend or girlfriend is treating you then you should move on the second you get a chance. Because it will get worst as time goes by, and you don’t want that to happen. You deserve better than that you deserve someone who shows you the amount of love you show to them. Do not get yourself hurt or killed looking for love.

He or she keep promising they will change. This is the number one promise they make to keep you in their grasp. And when an abuser says this, you need to run not walk. Because they know that if you were to leave they will not have anybody to push around or be mean to and he or she knows they can not control you any more. It takes more than words for a person to change. If they tell you that will change and they never do then it is time for you to leave. Abuser will say and do what ever it takes to keep you in their life.

They are to ashamed to leave. When an abused person brags about their relationship to others and then their relationship start showing some cracks they still stay because they are shame and people will laugh at them. This is a bad reason to stay in an abusive relationship. It may sound like nothing to the outsiders, but to the victim this means everything. So, do not laugh at them they are trying to save their life. Fear of being teased and laughed at is bad but not for the victim it is bad for the outsiders. If you know somebody who is constantly being abused don’t laugh at them do your best to help them. Let them know you are there for them always no matter what.

They maybe sick or have a disability and they depend on their abuser. If a victim has a sickening or if they have a disability they may not have any choice but to stay there. They But they look at their abuser as their care giver and they do not know anybody else. know nobody else will take care of them so they stick with their abuser and that is a shame.

They seen a parent get abused so they expect it. If a child is being raised in a home where one parent is being abused all the time of course that is what they will look for their partner. It is so sad that a parent has their child in that type of environment it is understandable that you may not have any other option, but the kids are the one(s) suffering. Being raised around violence is a bad idea because all you will have are some little abusers and it will be your fault. You should always think about your kids safety. Safety should always be considered when it is concerning your kid(s).

If a male is getting abused he will stay because he is afraid he will be laughed at. This is common for men they are supposed to be the strong one, but instead, they are getting abused they will keep this to their self. This is a good reason because as a man you are the stronger one. Most men were raised to never hit a woman, so you have to take that into consideration.

Further more avoiding a toxic relationship can sometimes make the difference. Another thing about being in a abusive relationship is that it can and will add stress to your body. In the long term this alone can kill you so the best thing you can possibly do is to avoid stress at all cost. Love is not meant to kill you so remember that.

If you ever find yourself in an abusive relationship you should create a safety plan. Your plan should include a list of numbers for immediate help you should include the police number a close relative or your neighbor. You should also have a list of people numbers who is willing to take you in all this is handy because it will end up saving your life or your children.

In some cases, abuse is like an addictive drug and a lot of people love to over dose on drugs and the same can be said in an abusive relationship. So that is another way you can look at this type of relationship and if no body come to their rescue they will continue to get deeper and deeper until there is no way out.

It is very sad when a victim has to stay in a relationship because they are afraid everybody will laugh at them if they were to leave. Most time they would stay for their safety but staying because they know their family members and friends will laugh at them. Abused victims should always have a safety net so when they finally decide to leave they will have help available to them. Their life is not a circus clown to be laughed at you should do your best to be there so they can safely leave their abuser.

When you are around someone who is being abused, you should talk to them and see what is going on with them. You should ask them why are they putting up with someone who is always abusing them? It is so easy to tell them just to leave and move on with their life, but it is easier said than done. So always be there for you friend or family member and if you are able to tell them they can come stay with you and you are always there for them. These reasons maybe real hard for us as I said before but they mean everything to people who are constantly being abused.