5 Essential Steps To Letting Go Of Someone Who Doesn't Want You Back

Heartbreak is such a drag. You're in love and all happy go lucky one second and then Boom! Out of nowhere, you're sad and lonely, crying on your floor at night wishing you could turn back the time. Sadly, you can't, which sucks. Somehow the things we want the most don't turn out to be the best fit or option for us after all. That's okay. Nobody said heartbreak and having to let go of someone you truly want was going to be easy. So get out of bed and rise and shine. Look on the bright side of this disaster. Take a stride towards the positive perspective and outlook of your breakup. Use it as energy to your soul to be a better you. Who said breakups have to be so melodramatic? No one! So make what you want of it!

The hardest part and moment of having to let go of someone or something is... sometimes you don't always want to let them go and you're not always prepared. You definitely weren't prepared for this. So why would you want to let go at all? I know. It's very unfair and not pleasant. I'm sure you're not the only one having a hard time. During a breakup, it affects both parties. It's just up to the particular party on how they want to deal with having to let go. Even if they don't want to. This goes to those of you who are the party who doesn't want to let go. Don't become obsessive about it to the point where you lose yourself. Yes, that person was once a part of you, but before your relationship, there was a time that you had no idea that this person even existed. So don't limit yourself when it comes to this breakup. Everyone has history with someone but don't let that history define you.

Breakups can be messy and you are almost never prepared to have your heart broken so you most likely don't know where to start when needing to cope with the loss of a relationship. Your mind is probably frazzled and your heart is aching. You are most likely crying and you probably can't think straight. This means that right now is not the time to do anything rash. So put important decision making and life choices to the side or in the back of your mind for the moment. I would hate for you to do something you regret because you decided on it when you were too mad or sad. You want to be mature when it comes to heartbreak. Make sure to keep this in mind when you are dealing with these certain situations. Again, I know it's hard, but I know you know it's not worth all the drama. So with that being said, let me help you out a bit with your relationship troubles. Let me point you in the right direction when dealing with letting go. Here are 5 essential steps to letting go of someone who doesn't want you back:

This is a really big step in letting go of the person you want. When you truly love yourself you never have to second guess whether you should move on. You should automatically know that this relationship has come to end and although it hurts you shouldn't blame yourself or someone else. You will know and become at peace with the thought that all good things must come to an end and nothing is forever. So if you lack the love for yourself, learn to let go. Learn to forgive even if there is no apology from that person. Sometimes we need to love ourselves enough to not look back and sometimes not looking back is the best thing you can do for yourself. Change those negative thoughts you keep thinking and the negative words you spread when you speak. Filter and purify your internal thought process when it comes to this person. Learn to talk to and to love yourself in the same way you did with your ex or the friend or person you're trying to let go of or the one you want to let go.

Take time to be by yourself. That doesn't mean to stop caring about your friend(s), family, or other loved ones. It just means to make sure to take time out of your busy days to appreciate yourself. Of course, you can always try to be caring towards others, but sometimes you need to put yourself first and be more caring towards yourself. Believe me. It is something you'll want more often if you don't already. A good example of using your time for yourself is learning to meditate. Meditation comes in all forms. Laughing, breathing, resting your eyes, one minute of silence or anything that deals with the ease of the mind or the quieting of the mind is meditating. So take the time and be by yourself. You'll be surprised by how this benefits you.

One sure way that you can always take your mind off your ex and let go is to stop sulking and keep busy. This is something you're going to have to want to do in order to see if it works in helping you let go of your ex. Most importantly, it's going to help you stop caring as much for your ex. When you stop giving your sadness and unhappiness so much attention and focus on other things like going out to new places and traveling, watching a movie, meeting new people, picking up other hobbies etc. Keep yourself busy and you'll probably never notice when you even stopped thinking about your ex. One good way to keep yourself busy is to pick up new hobbies, learn about new things, read new books, or learn a new life skill. These are just a few good options to keep yourself busy when you're too focused on being sad or depressed.

Remember everything changes. Life doesn't stand still and sometimes we have to let go of the things we love and hold dearest to us. It's painful sometimes, and it'll probably feel like it will never get easier, but it will. If you have the mindset of "This too shall pass" then you'll flow along easier with life when things get tough. Everything is life is constantly changing. Change is inevitable. So come to peace with the idea that all good things must come to an end. Be present and carry on happily with the rest of your life.

Everyone has family and a good friend or two. So when life gets tough and you're not sure how you're going to let go of your ex and move on... what's better to cure that loneliness than surrounding yourself with the people who love and care for you the most... your family and friends! Family and friends can do a great deal for you during trying times like these. Sometimes they have the best advice on how to let go of someone special to you and sometimes they don't... but their advice sure does make you laugh. Therefore they made you happy and forget about why you were so sad for a second. Friends and family want to help. Most importantly they want to know how you feel and what you want them to do to help you feel better.

Closure...ahhh closure... Lots of people agree to disagree on this particular subject because it has its pros and cons. Though in my personal opinion I believe one particular thing, anyone who spent more than a year or more in a relationship and is broken up with needs closure. This goes is for both parties. Because the breakup involves and includes both parties that means that both individuals will be affected in some way or another and will carry negative thoughts and opinions on the previous relationship and partner and will dwell on grudges and eventually will need closure to be healthy again. You think you can let go of someone and not want to ever look back but little do you know in order to healthily move on you need to receive appropriate closure. Otherwise, you'll never want to love or involve yourself with love again.

To let go is to love yourself. Pretty simple right? If you want to let go of this person who's making you so sad, you have to understand that you need to love yourself. This is the absolute number one rule in practically everything in life. LOVE YOURSELF! There's no greater power, strength, courage than self-love. It is incredibly significant to know and do. A very healthy person is one who can truly say they love themselves wholly. Once you do this you can do anything. Especially getting over and letting go of someone you truly loved. Be true to yourself and learn to love yourself again. I swear it'll be worth it.

Last but not least, I want you lovely people to remember to keep smiling! Don't ever let anyone take your smile. Your smile is your way of letting the world know nothing is going to bring you down, not even yourself. I know it might be hard because life can be unfair, mean, and cruel to your heart sometimes, but that doesn't mean you have to stop smiling that bright, jubilant smile of yours. Does a flower stop smelling as sweet and looking as bright when it's a cloudy, rainy day? No, of course not! It may be a little worn and roughed up but it maintains a beautiful color and elegant smell regardless of the weather. So be a flower and continue to show the world your natural, radiant beauty!