Stop Texting Him For Attention
You want to get a guy's attention so you text him all the time hoping that's enough. Just texting a guy isn't going to get his attention. He'll get annoyed by the chase and eventually he'll just ignore you instead of turning your friendship into a relationship. Stop texting him to get his attention and try these eight things instead that are sure to get you a relationship with the guy you like!
1. Stop Texting Him Constantly
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If you text a guy all the time, his attention is going to turn elsewhere. He'll ignore you because you're overwhelming him with texts all the time. You'll chase him away if you text him too much. It's tempting to text him every hour of the day so that you're on his mind, but it takes more than that to really earn his attention. Stop texting him constantly if you want to get his attention. Instead, text him every once in a while. This will actually make sure he's on your mind more because he won't ignore you if you only text him sometimes. Instead of texting him multiple times a day, only text him a few times a week. This will make your texts a surprise and it'll give you a better chance of having a relationship. He'll start to chase you if you stop chasing him. You should also try to wait until he texts you first to respond. It's of course fine to text him first sometimes, but if you give him a break from all the constant texts, he'll actually want to talk to you more so he'll be the one who sends you a text. Stop texting him all the time and you're sure to get his attention!
2. Ignore Him For A Bit
If you want a relationship, you should ignore your crush for a bit. Stop talking to him and spending time around him, but just for a little while. Don't text him, don't sit with him at lunch, and don't show up at places you know he's going to be. Show him that you're not super clingy and obnoxious by giving him distance. Your guy will appreciate that you've backed off a little and that'll make him want to chase you. Don't ignore him for a long time or you might lose your chance with him. Stick with a week or two of no communication, and then ease back in. The time away will make him miss you and realize just how much he wants to be in a relationship with you. You'll definitely have his attention if you try ignore him for a bit and then stop and start texting, and spending time with him again. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, so some time away will make him want to give you all his attention.
3. Play Hard To Get
Playing hard to get is a great way to get the attention you want from the guy you like. He'll give you attention and you have to ignore it at first. Stop responding to his texts right away and send him vague responses when he asks what you're doing. If he asks you out on a date, say no the first time. Not an outright no, but tell him you're busy or that you can't make it that night. Make him work for you, and he'll definitely want to chase you. Guys love giving attention to girls who aren't clingy or constantly texting them. By playing hard to get, you're showing him that he has to chase you to get your attention. You'll stop playing hard to get once he shows you he's worth your time. Once you've gotten him interested and giving you all of his attention, you can drop the hard to get facade and start up a relationship with the guy. Don't do a total turnaround and text him all the time or anything, but you can accept date invites right away and hang out with him. Playing hard to get is a guaranteed way to get his attention!
4. Let Him Take The Lead
It's totally fine for girls to be in the lead when they're in a relationship or trying to ask a guy out. However, if you want his attention, try letting him take the lead on things. Stop initiating conversations all the time, stop showing up wherever he is, and definitely don't text him first. Let the guy be in control, at least for a little while. Guys like to feel in control of their relationships, so taking a step back and letting him be in the lead will get you his attention quicker. Respond positively to the things he does. If he asks you to hang out, say yes, but don't be the one to ask him. If he texts you, respond, but don't text him first. By letting him take the lead, you're also making him work for your attention, which will make him want to give you his attention. It's a great way to get a guy interested!
5. Run Hot And Cold
Being hot and cold is different than playing hard to get. When you play hard to get, you're being consistent. You're blowing him off and you stop answering his texts the second you get them. When you're running hot and cold, you're mixing up your behavior to get him interested and keep his attention. You can answer his texts right away sometimes. Other times, ignore him until he's sent a few messages and then only respond to the most recent one. Tell him you can't go out a few times, and then say you can a few times, only to go back to saying you can't make it. You don't want to overdo the hot and cold behavior, but mixing it up will ensure he never gets bored. It's like keeping the chase going even when he's already caught you, and guys love that. Being a little hot and cold with a guy will definitely stop his attention from straying away from you.
6. Spend Time With Him
Obviously if you want his attention, you have to be on his radar. In order for this to happen, you have to spend time with him. If you're looking for a more direct approach to getting a guy's attention, stop with the games and just be around him. It'll get him to notice you, and he won't want to stop being around you once he realizes how awesome you are. There are a few ways to spend time with the guy you like. The first is to make it a group thing. This is probably your best bet when you're just starting out because hanging out as a group is way more comfortable than trying to be one on one right away. Introduce your friends to his friends and mix your group together so that you're all wanting to spend time together. Then suggest some fun outings that you can all do, even if it just means hitting up your favorite restaurant or going to an arcade. This gives you a no pressure way to hang out with the guy you're into so that he will pay attention to you. The other way is to ask him to hang out just the two of you. Only do this when you're comfortable enough that it won't be super awkward. You should have a few group outings under your belt before you try a one on one meeting. Going to dinner and a movie, even as friends, is a good place to start. Work your way up to hangouts that require constant conversation. Once you're there, you'll be in his sights and he'll never want to let you go. Spending time with him is a sure way to get his attention!
7. Don't Change Yourself For Him
Stop trying to change who you are to impress the guy you like. You shouldn't have to become someone new to get his attention, and you definitely don't have to! If he isn't interested in the person you are, you shouldn't want him at all. No guy is worth losing yourself over, and you'll regret ever changing who you are if you guys break up. Even if you stay together forever, you'll resent him for not liking who you used to be. Guys like girls who are confident, too. Stop thinking that guys will only like you if you fit into a specific mold. Your crush will respect that you know who you are and you're willing to stick with it. You're actually more likely to get his attention if you stay true to yourself. If you want his attention, don't change yourself for him! If he's worth dating, he'll like who you are, and he'll prefer that you not give yourself a makeover on his behalf.
8. Flirt With Other Guys
Another indirect way to get a guy's attention is to flirt with other guys. Don't go around leading everyone on if you're not interested, but being a flirt is totally fine and it'll get you the attention you want from the guy you like. You should flirt with other guys when your crush is around so that he can see what you're doing. He'll realize that he doesn't have you if he doesn't give you the attention you deserve, so it'll make him make a move. If he hasn't realized how awesome you are already, seeing you with another guy will prove to him that he wants you. Either way, flirting with other guys in front of your crush will definitely get you his attention. You should also be flirty in front of his friends, even when your crush isn't around. His friends are going to report back to him what they saw, especially if your crush is already interested in you. Hearing it from other people will definitely show him that he needs to give you attention before someone else picks you up!
Now Get His Attention
Stop hiding behind the phone and texting him all the time. You won't get his attention by being a rampant texter. Use these other tips to get the attention of the guy you really like!