15 Reasons You've Never Had A Girlfriend

Many guys who've never had girlfriends don't understand why it is so. If this applies to you, here are 15 reasons that might be holding you back from dating.

By Auntrone89
15 Reasons You've Never Had A Girlfriend

Why you’ve never had a girlfriend?

There are plenty of guys out there who’ve never had a girlfriend in their entire lives. Only a handful will do this by choice while the rest don’t understand why it came to be that way. Truth be told, there are plenty of reasons why you’ve never had a girlfriend. And if you have no idea why then the best thing for you to do would be carrying out in-depth soul-searching that will enable you to find the reasons behind your singlehood. You also have to be willing to do things that you are uncomfortable with in order to get a girlfriend. You see, life is all about getting your hands dirty and taking risks especially if all you want is happiness. Come to terms with the fact that girls will reject you and learn never to take it personally. As a guy who is single and searching, you’ll also need to understand the importance of cleanliness and personal grooming. Thankfully, there are plenty of videos on YouTube that can help you step up your grooming game. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t really have to wear expensive outfits in order to attract the girl of your dreams. Just paying a little attention to detail will go a long way in making you look hella hot. Also, remember to take things one step at a time so that you achieve gradual improvement. And again, you’ll need to understand why you haven’t been successful getting a girlfriend before making any drastic changes.

1. You’ve never had a girlfriend since you’re too picky

I know a number of guys who are depressed for not having a girlfriend despite trying their level best to find one. But the funny thing is there’s a long line of girls who’d do just about anything to date them and they know it. So, what seems to be the problem with such guys getting girlfriends? Well, you’ve guessed it right – they are way too picky! The media has altered the aspect of dating in that everyone is consistently chasing for the 9’s and 10’s. And if anything, the more attention they give the hotties, the more arrogant they become, and the further away they get out of their reach. The problem here is that you aren’t looking for the right signs and reasons for dating. If you are the kind of guy who wants to date the hottest girls so that you can boost your public perception, then that there might be the reason for your singlehood. Having a beautiful girl is a good thing, but looks should never be used as a criterion for dating. There is so much more you’ll need to learn about finding the appropriate girlfriend for you. And once you stop prioritizing looks, you’ll not find the girl of your dreams but also end up the happiest, most content person in the world. All you need to do is lowering your standards in the looks department and you’ll do just fine I promise!

2. You’ve never had a girlfriend because you are a loner

Another reason why you’ve never had a girlfriend might be because you prefer your own company. Personally, I understand the importance of keeping to yourself from time to time. I also understand how difficult it will be for you to meet girls when all you do is stay in the house. You need to understand that the girl of your dreams won’t magically appear to your doorstep and ask to be your girlfriend. You’ll just have to go out there and look for her. And even if you’ll find her on social media, you’ll need to go out there and meet with her in order to take things to the next level. A guy can be a loner for a ton of reasons. One of the reasons for keeping to oneself might be because they’re depressed. Another might prefer his own company because he feels way lonelier in a crown than when he is by himself. But no matter of your reasons, you’ll always be required to go out there and learn how to approach and talk to girls. It might be difficult at first, but you’ll get better with time especially if you are willing to put in the work. You can also check out amazing videos online on how introverts can get a girlfriend. There are also plenty of articles about the same. Again, practice makes perfect. But if you aren’t keen on taking risks, I can assure you that no amount of watching YouTube videos or reading self-improvement articles will help quell your situation.

3. You are fake

Girls have an inbuilt fakeness detector that will effectively pick up even the slightest signs of fakeness in any guy. Unfortunately, a lot of guys nowadays make careers out of pretense and you, either knowingly or unknowingly, might be one of them. I can mention a couple of guys who on Instagram look like they just won the lottery but owe me money in real life. In as much as any girl can easily be impressed on Instagram, it wouldn’t take much for her to realize that you’ve been faking especially when she finally meets you in real life. Guys can also fake confidence until they get to a point where they can’t do it any longer. And that’s where the awkwardness creeps in. What I am saying is, another possible reason you’ve never had a girlfriend might be simply because you pretend to be something you aren’t. So, how do you overcome such a situation? Well, it’s pretty simple. First and foremost, you’ll need to put a stop to the pretense. Life will become easier when you accept your current position in life and start working towards achieving more. You’ll also need to understand that there are a ton of girls who would love you for who you are. But the reason they aren’t really feeling your vibe is that you are too busy pretending to be someone or something else. That said, you’ll need to stop pretending, be kind to yourself and see just how good life will be to you. Heck, you’ll even start noticing girls noticing you because you aren’t too busy pretending.

4. You’ve never had a girlfriend because you’re arrogant

Irrespective of how handsome you are, no girl would want to be your girlfriend if you are considered as someone who is arrogant. Arrogance has known to reduce attraction faster than any other bad attribute. A guy can be arrogant for a number of reasons. For starters, he might be arrogant simply because he’s had his fair share of people betraying him. He might also be arrogant because he is more successful than his peers and therefore sees everyone else as insignificant. Either way, you’ll need to carry out in-depth self-evaluation to see if arrogance is the reason you’ve never had a girlfriend. Most guys are arrogant but never even know it. And once you’ve identified arrogance as your main obstacle to getting a girlfriend, then you’ll have no other choice but to work yourself. You need to understand that no girl will stick around or find reasons to understand your arrogance. Once she notices even the slightest signs of arrogance, she’ll be gone with the wind. Again, you’ll need to take a step back and work on yourself. If you are arrogant because you’ve had a dark past, it would be a good time for you to see a specialist. If you are arrogant because you are simply depressed, then you’ll also need to seek specialized help. Never stop working on yourself so that in the end, you’ll end up a much better person who has no issue attracting the girl of his dreams. You can also find ways to be kind to your fellow human beings and see just how much that’ll make you happy and attractive. The good thing is that arrogance can be unlearned as long as you put your mind to it.

5. Your body language sucks!

Poor body language is among those “under the radar” reasons most guys never able get girlfriends. You need to understand that the first thing a girl notices the moment she sees you is your body language. You’ll, therefore, need to focus on sharpening your body language skills so as to send the right kind of subliminal message. For instance, you can learn how to walk with a straight, upright frame with your head is held up high. This is a sign of strength and confidence as opposed to guys who walk with their heads bowed and their eyes on the ground. Also, make a habit of smiling at girls more often. What makes body language crucial is that a seemingly harmless behavior can deal a deathly blow to your chances of ever having a girlfriend without you ever knowing. Also, you might have never had a girlfriend simply because you can’t look into a girl’s when talking to her. And this may not be because you’re shy but because your body language sucks big time. Therefore, if poor body language is the reason you’ve never had a girlfriend before, then you have to take up classes and learn. Always remember that no one everyone was born an alpha, which means that alpha male traits can be learnt over time. Try watching YouTube videos and picking up a thing or two about how to improve your body language. You can also hit the guy and gain some muscle that will tremendously help improve your body language. Consider going shopping for new outfits to boost your self-confidence if you have to. There are plenty of coaches online who can help you use body language to send the right kind of signals to girls.

6. You’ve never had a girlfriend because you stink

Any guy who ignores his personal hygiene is likely to stay without a girlfriend for the rest of his life. This is because girls are attracted to guys who know how to take good care of themselves, meaning that failure to groom will equal to no girls interested in dating you. And if you think I am lying about this, just take time to look at the poor groomers in your friend list. One thing you’ll realize is that despite some of them having great personalities and tons of money, there aren’t usually that many girls lining up wanting to date them. This also explains why most guys who don’t know how to clean up are highly susceptible to being depressed. Being unkempt is a sign of irresponsibility. And the worst thing about this is that the girls can notice it from a mile away and do their best to keep off. The opposite is usually trying especially if you are the kind of guy who takes his sweet time to look and smell good. Therefore, if you learn how to take a shower after hitting the gym and wearing sweetly scented cologne, you’ll end up doing fine with the girls. You’ll even notice girls approaching you and asking all sorts of questions about your nice, clean outfits and cologne you wear. And needless to say, that’ll be a good way to initiate conversation and pick one of them to be your girlfriend. Thankfully, you can always learn how to clean up now that I have given you enough reasons for doing so.

7. You’ve never had a girlfriend because you’re gay

The reason why you’ve never had a girlfriend might be because you are gay and don’t even know it. Yes, in as much as most gay guys are aware of their sexuality but choose to stay the closet, there are those who are completely clueless about being gay. This is because it usually takes time for the tale-tell gay signs to manifest. But until then, one will have zero interest when it comes to chasing girls. He might even prefer the company of other guys just sitting topless on a beach and having a good time. If this happens to be you, then you might be gay. Also, you’ll need to understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Being gay is perfectly natural. First, you’ll need to look for more evidence and not just jump to conclusions. There are plenty of other signs that might point to the fact that you are gay. Look them up! And if you are still finding it difficult knowing which side of the team you’re playing for, then a behavioral specialist’s office should be your next stop. And once you realize that the reason you can’t have a girlfriend is that you are gay, then your next step should be accepting yourself and being happy.

8. You’ve never had a girlfriend since you’re depressed

When you are depressed, the stress will not only take a physical but also a mental toll on you. People who are depressed always show signs of zero interest especially in things as exciting as finding a new girlfriend. Girls will also have the superpower of noting your lack of interest in having a relationship. And because you reek of depression, they’ll always mistake you for a disinterested guy and go find someone who is. Girls fear to be with a guy who is depressed because they all want to end up in happy relationships. Sad and depressed people are always unpredictable in a negative way. Negative unpredictability repels girls because they don’t want to be the next person you see when you finally snap as a result of having a nut loose. So, first things first, you’ll have to find all the reasons why you are depressed then take your sweet time fixing yourself. Unfortunately, most guys who are depressed never take time to heal because they are always in denial. They often think admittance is a sign of weakness and so they opt to soldier through the depression, which always ends up badly for them. We ought to know that depression is a mental ailment that needs to be addressed as sooner rather than later. This means the moment you detect any signs that suggest you might be depressed, then it would be a good time for you to take a break. You can only resume your quest of looking for a girlfriend once you’ve successfully healed from depression.

9. You are shy

Another reason why you’ve never had a girlfriend is that you are shy. Girls are automatically attracted to confident guys who aren’t afraid of making their intentions known. Confident guys give girls the opportunity to feel feminine, which makes the seduction process naturally smooth. On the other hand, a shy guy is far much worse than a depressed guy because he won’t know what to do with the woman. At least a depressed guy knows what he wants and goes for it despite his shortcomings. But the shy guy will always fumble and will fail to communicate his intentions across right from the beginning. If anything, the only thing he’ll be successful at making every moment he spends with a potential girlfriend awkward. The shy guy might come off as sweet, generous and a potential boyfriend. But it’s the awkwardness that ensures they almost always end up in the friend zone. Therefore, if you are the shy guy who sucks at getting girls, you might just want to take a break and work on your confidence first. I can guarantee you’ll never get a girlfriend if you keep exhibiting your shy tendencies. Therefore, if you find out that being shy is the reason you’ve never had a girlfriend, then you’ll know what needs to be done. It’s always better to have some trusted female friends to help you overcome shyness. The good news is you can get rid of shyness as long as you’re willing to do the hard work.

10. You’ve never had a girlfriend because you’re weak

Girls are genetically wired to look out for specific signs when seeking out a mate. One of these signs is physical as well as mental strength. Have you ever wondered why girls always preen the moment they see a hot, square-jawed guy walking towards them? Well, it’s because they are automatically attracted to strong guys, period. It’s because of such reasons that a ton of guys hit the gym and observe their diets on a regular basis. Don’t get it twisted; you can still be attractive without turning into the regular gym rat. But you might want to try lifting for a few days a week in your quest to improve your physique and by extension, your chances with women. When you feel physically strong, your confidence levels will automatically be on steroids. Your testosterone will also be at an all-time high which will only make you much more attractive the opposite sex. And if hitting the gym just isn’t your thing, doing some cardio or jogging on a regular basis can end up doing you some good. Therefore, if you have never had a girlfriend because you’re physically weak, then you’ll be required to make a few changes here and there. And if you would want to work out but don’t know how to go about it, then find yourself a good gym to enroll. In these gyms, you’ll find plenty of good gym instructors just waiting to help you out.

11. You are obsessed with sex

No girl would want to be your girlfriend if sex is the only thing you can talk about. Don’t get me wrong; talking about sex is great but only when in a strong, tightly-knit relationship. But when sex is all you obsess about especially during the dating period, you might end up giving the ladies a very wrong impression. A guy who can’t shut up about sex comes off as weak and shallow even if that’s not the case. Therefore, if you ever find yourself super obsessed about sex, then you better check yourself immediately. It's either that or ending up without a girlfriend for a very, very long time. The fact that guys always miss out dating incredible girls because of this has left them depressed. And the reason? They don’t know what is wrong with their approach since they assume all girls are thrilled by steamy, sexual topics. But like I said earlier, girls will only enjoy sexual talk when in a stable relationship with a guy, not when she just met. And if you are careful enough, you’ll notice signs of discomfort the moment you bring up steamy topics. Therefore, if you’re the kind of dude who just can’t shut it about sex, then you might want to switch up your seduction game unless you don’t mind the outcome always being rejection. Thankfully, there are no bad behaviors that can’t be unlearned. Just doing your level best and staying committed to the course is all you need to do!

12. You’ve never had a girlfriend since you give up easily

Another one of the many reasons why you’ve never had a girlfriend is because you give up way too easily. Even when a girl likes you, she’ll want you to chase her for a bit longer. This is because the chase is supposed to be a fun bonding experience for the both of you. But if you are the kind of guy who gives up so easily, you’ll end up missing opportunities for dating a ton of really amazing girls. Therefore, you’ll need to find that one girl that happens to tickle your fancy. Once you have, step up and focus on that girl without any distractions. Keep on chasing her and never give up. Of course, you’ll come across girls who wouldn’t really reject you and be clear about it. If this ever happens to you, it’s always wise to cut your losses and move on to the next interesting girl. But if she’s interested but wants you to keep chasing her, she’ll give you hints that she knows you can’t miss. And once you get the message, keep pressing on until you have her as your girlfriend. If you aren’t that good when it comes to spotting the signs that she’s interested but playing hard to get, then it’s about time you learned all about them. There are tons of dating coaches who will gladly come to your aid when it comes to noticing these hints. And once you commit to practicing what they preach, you might end up with the positive results that you’ve been looking for. But before attaining such an achievement, you’ll need to find out why you’ve never had a girlfriend before. This is important because it will help you find out the right course of action to take.

13. You are too desperate and needy

Any guy who comes off as desperate and needy will never have a girlfriend, period. As mentioned several times before, single girls are always looking for a strong man that they can rely on. Therefore, if you are always needy, she’ll have no other choice but to drop you and look for a stronger, more reliable man. Even worse, she might keep you in the friend zone and get to use you at her convenience. So, how do you know whether you are the needy type or not? Well, it’s pretty easy to tell as long as you have answers to these questions: Are you the type of the guy who thinks about a girl all the time? Do you ever feel depressed whenever a girl you like forgets or ignores replying your text? Do you feel jealous when you see her with other guys when you aren’t even dating? Do you over-text or leave several messages on her voicemail? If your answer to most of the questions above is yes, then my congratulations are in order! You are needy! And the reason no girl has ever fallen for you is that it’s not in their biology to do so. Neediness is a sign of weakness, one that you need to flush out of your system before it wrecks you permanently. That said, the moment you start exhibiting signs of neediness, you’ll need to stop pursuing girls and focus on your self-confidence.

14. You’ve never had a girlfriend since you’re licentious

Another reason why you’ve never had a girlfriend might be because of your well-documented promiscuity. Girls seek exclusivity in a relationship much more than anything else. And if they sense you can’t give them that, then nothing is going to stop them from booting you. As long as you are licentious, it won’t really matter how hard you work towards making yourself a suitable guy to date. There will always be a blowback whenever she finds out about your true nature. And this realization should definitely leave you with a choice to make. If you’ve never had a girlfriend because you are a player, then you’ll need to stop being a player. And if you want to be a player, then you’ll have to kiss the possibility of ever having a girlfriend goodbye. In other words, you can’t be a player and expect girls to fall for your charm. It beats logic. The two can never mix unless you decide on being a player in secret, which is something I’d personally not advise you to do. I’ve never been an advocate for playing with people’s emotions and I won’t start today.

15. You’ve never had a girlfriend because you’re lazy

Any guy who thinks finding a girlfriend is easy almost always find himself single unless he is a celebrity. Truth be told, finding the perfect girlfriend is hard work. Therefore, if you are not ready to put in the hard work, then there is absolutely no reason for you to worry about ever finding a girlfriend – because you won’t. That means if you want to get a girlfriend, you’ll need to get off your bum. You’ll also need to do some thorough grooming i.e. making sure your nails are clipped and filed down and so on. Also, make sure your clothes are clean and well pressed before wearing them. Your shoes are also supposed to be clean and your elocution on point. You’ll also need to find reasons to go to the gym and pack on some muscles. In addition to the grooming, learning the right kind of body language takes a lot of hard work. In other words, you’ll need to do a whole lot of things that you’ve never thought of doing and that’ll make you sweat a little. Even hanging out in places you are likely to bump into girls will need some effort from you. So, if you are a lazy couch potato, you’ll prefer staying put and play some video games instead of going out and meeting with girls. And as I stated earlier, no girl will miraculously show up at your doorstep with a handwritten note asking to be your girlfriend.

A deduction on why you’ve never had a girlfriend

As I have insinuated throughout this article, you are likely the reason why you’ve never had a girlfriend in your life. It is therefore important for you to take time and focus on where you went wrong. It might because of one of the reasons listed above or even worse, a plethora of them. On the bright side, there is absolutely nothing you can’t change with a little shift in your perception. All you need to do is carrying out in-depth soul-searching and making the necessary changes in your life. You shouldn’t shy away from paying a shrink or a behavioral specialist a visit if you have to. This is because you might be suffering from something much more severe than you can handle on your own. But the good news is that you can overcome anything as long as you put your mind and heart to it! Good luck in finding the girl of your dreams!



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