In this modern day and age, finding the perfect boyfriend has become challenging for most women as long-term relationships are not as valued as they were before. Here are 3 good notes to notes to bear in mind, that can help you find the man of your dreams.
1. Know what you want
Knowing what you are looking for in a relationship is the key to finding the ideal boyfriend. If your values or your future goals do not match with the guy you are dating then it is best not to invest any more precious time.
2. Be open to dating
Many women expect to find the perfect boyfriend without putting any effort towards dating. But honestly, how could that work? Being open to meeting new people and putting yourself out there is necessary if you want to find a good partner.
3. Believe in love
Sometimes finding the perfect boyfriend is not getting all the ticks on your checklist but about the meaningful connection you might have with someone who may or may not be your ideal type. Being open to such encounters is also important in finding the perfect boyfriend.
The commitment of a confident relationship
To build a strong relationship, it is important that both individuals are confident in the relationship. Confident individuals are not only confident about themselves but they are also more committed in a relationship as they value their bond and try to work out issues in a relationship.
A confident woman never analyzes (or overanalyzes) her relationship or try to gauge if her boyfriend likes her or not. She assumes that since he is with her, he definitely likes her. Boundaries are also important in a strong and committed relationship and a confident woman will not shy away from setting boundaries. If her boyfriend cannot respect those boundaries then it’s probably not meant to be.
Most importantly, women who are confident do not compare their relationship to other people’s relationships. They understand that all individuals are uniquely different and similarly all relationships are different. They set their own rules and expectations and mutually decide on what is important to them and their boyfriend in a committed relationship.
8 Tips to think about before wanting to get into a new relationship with a potential boyfriend
Getting into a new relationship can be daunting and scary as you are still getting to know the other person and you are still not sure if he is boyfriend material. Here are 8 great tips which can help you find out if the person you are dating is a potential boyfriend or not:
1. You can be yourself around him
Many women in pursuit of finding the perfect man often hide aspects of their personality that they think the man will not like. In doing so, they often are embarrassed by their uniqueness and try to be someone that they are not. A potential boyfriend will never make you feel uncomfortable in your own skin. He will appreciate your individuality and you will not have to be someone else around him. Whether its quirky habits like reading in the toilet, enjoying the corners of a pillow, or being a comic book fan, he will like you just the way you are.
2. He holds to his words
Women in relationships often complain that men are lazy and often slack in doing things that they said they would do. Whether it’s being on time for a date or getting a reservation a week ahead at an expensive and busy restaurant, a potential boyfriend will always be on top of things and keep his promises to you. If he makes a plan with you he will make sure he is available and on time. This is a great sign because a man who commits to little things is most likely to be committed in a relationship.
3. He is there for you
A potential boyfriend will always be there when you need him. Women are generally more emotionally attuned than men and therefore when they are looking for a boyfriend they are also looking for someone that they can rely on. Whether it’s something that needs to be fixed around the house or whether its emotional support, women will always look for a man who can be there for them. A potential boyfriend will make a woman feel safe and warm and she will be assured to seek his support in success and in failure.
4. He is not insecure or jealous
If you are looking for a relationship then it’s important that the person you choose to be your boyfriend is secure and not jealous of your past relationships. A healthy relationship is one where two people can be honest with each other about their pasts but at the same time, they do not let their past affect their present or the future. A guy is definitely boyfriend material if he can accept your past but at the same time will not freak out if you are close to a male colleague or friend. He is secure and sure of himself and most importantly he trusts you.
5. He lets you have your ‘me-time’
A healthy relationship is one which not only thrives on time spent together but also on time spent apart. Many women lose themselves in a relationship by getting so involved in their boyfriend's life and his interests that they forget about their interests and hobbies. A potential boyfriend will give you the space that is necessary to sustain a good relationship and maintain a certain level of privacy. He will not be checking your phone or emails or social media accounts or reading your personal diary but will respect your privacy and personal space.
6. He will make you feel good about yourself
How a person makes you feel is very important in any relationship. It is important that you access how attracted you are to a potential boyfriend. Do you get tingling sensations and all that butterflies in your stomach when you talk? Does he make you feel pretty and beautiful? Does he compliment you often and get you flowers? Does he listen to you when you talk and make you feel comfortable, warm and safe? These are all things that matter to women and the right man will make her feel confident, beautiful and treat her like a queen.
7. He should be interesting
Women value different qualities in men. Some women like a good sense of humor and appreciate if their boyfriend can make them laugh. Some women like a man who is a good listener and is there to comfort them when they need comforting. Some women like their men sporty. Either way, women appreciate men who are interesting and someone they can have fun with. A potential boyfriend will often have similar interests as you and you will be able to have fun together. Even if his interests are different, he will make an effort to include you and ensure that you have a fun time with him.
8. He is good to your friends and family
For women, friends and family matter and therefore a potential boyfriend should be able to get along with your friends and family. The perfect boyfriend will make an effort with your friends so they may like him and try his best to get along with them. When meeting the family, he will be on his best behavior, look his best and be an absolute charmer. He will be affectionate towards you in front of your friends and family. He will genuinely care for your family and friends to like him and for him to get along with them.
New relationship quotes
Nobody can predict the future. You just have to give your all to the relationship you're in and do your best to take care of your partner, communicate and give them every last drop of love you have. I think one of the most important things in a relationship is caring for your significant other through good times and bad.
I think for any relationship to be successful, there needs to be loving communication, appreciation, and understanding.
Since I met you, I started to understand why all my past relationships ended: so that we could start - Robin Raven
Finding the perfect boyfriend is not as difficult as it may seem. It is all about knowing what you want from a relationship and having your priorities and goals set up straight. Once you have done that, it is important that you are open to meet new people and look for signs in potential partners that make them ideal to be your boyfriend. Whether it is their ability to make you feel special or their sensitivity to your likes and dislikes, finding an ideal man does not have to be hard. It is all about looking for qualities you value in your partner and cherishing that ideal partner when you do find him.