30 Friends With Benefits Rules You'll Want To Remember

Taking a relationship from friends to friends with benefits requires a few steps before making the decision. If you do not put thought and preparations into this relationship, then you are liable to end up with hard feelings towards each other.

If you are going to do a friends with benefits relationship, then it is important to choose the right candidate. Your best friend from your childhood who you share everything with might not be the best choice. A mutual friend who you see on occasion is going to be a better choice. Remember the goal is to remain friends after the relationship. Choosing a close friend or coworker can get messy after the relationship ends.

Not everyone can handle a no strings attached relationship. Some people cannot help themselves from becoming attached. Make sure you know which category you belong to. If you cannot help but get attached to people, then a friends with benefits relationship may not be right for you. Be honest and open with yourself.

Picking the right candidate is an important tip when changing the dynamic of a friendship to a friends with benefits. However, you must put thought into the process prior to making a decision to help prevent hard feelings later.

This one is an important rule. Only choose one friend from a friend group for this relationship. Jealousy can ruin friends and groups. Don't be the cause of a rift in your friend groups. Once you have a friends with benefits relationship with one member of the group, then chose a friend from a different group next time.

Think about how the relationship will change if you develop feelings, but he does not. Think about what will happen if you develop feelings and so does he. How will it change your friendship? How will it change your friends group? Think about how things will be if the relationship goes bad.

There is also the possibility of him developing feelings for you. You may not feel the same way. You need to think about how you will handle this situation. Think about how this will change your friendship and your friends group.

Once you know your candidate, then you will need to take stock of your possible arrangement. Make sure the candidate will be right for the relationship.

All friends with benefits relationship have a shelf life. Discuss this with the candidate. There are no set rules about how long the relationship can last, but each of you must know that it is expected to end. Here's a tip: set up parameters for ending the relationship before you start the relationship.

Before either of you start the relationship, both of you must be honest with each other and set ground rules for the relationship. Each of you needs to bring forth ground rules and agree on them. This will give each of you expectations for the relationship.

When you start a friends with benefits relationship, some tips should be followed to have a successful relationship. Here are the do's for a successful friends with benefits relationship.

Friends with benefits are not supposed to include the benefit of unwanted pregnancies or STDs. You are not exclusive and therefore should protect yourself every time. Make sure to use condoms, birth control, or any other type of contraceptive that you choose every time.

You are not in a serious relationship. You are not dating and should not act as so. You should keep up your appearance for your friends with benefits partner. This includes shaving and trimming, make-up, and hair. You are not expected to impress your friends with benefits partner, but you should still work on looking nice.

This advice only applies to those who chose a close friend. If you did decide to make a true friend one of your friends with benefits, then you should keep doing friend things. Make sure to hang with other friends and enjoy the things you did before the change in the relationship.

One of the best pieces of advice you can receive for a friends with benefits relationship is to be honest and completely upfront. Be honest if feelings develop or fizzle out.

The best part of being in a friends with benefits relationship is the opportunity to explore your sexual side. There are no rules in this relationship that hinder exploring your sexual preferences so have fun and explore.

Another piece of advice is to voice your preferences in bed. The whole point of friends with benefits is to enjoy some fun in the bedroom. No point in having casual sex if you are not going to enjoy it.

Another tip that will be important is that each person must be satisfied in bed. This is not a relationship that should be one-sided. You are here to enjoy sex and therefore each of you should.

Your friends with benefits partner is not there to be your new significant other. You must keep dating and keep looking for the one. Your friends with benefits relationship has a shelf life and will eventually end. Do not wait for it to turn into more.

Another rule that must be followed is to make sure that you keep the frequency casual. Try not to have meetups multiple days a week. This tip helps prevent feelings developing or the relationship from fizzling out.

Now that you know what you should do during your relations, you will also need to know what not to do in the relationship.

You must adhere to this rule to keep the friends with benefits relationship from ending badly. This person is not your significant other. Do not go on dates, do not snuggle, do not expect them to buy you gifts. This is a casual relationship. Remember this rule.

Another important rule to follow is not to make them your plus one. They are not in a significant relationship with you; therefore, they should not be doing tasks like being the plus one. This rule applies to both personal and professional engagements.

This piece of advice follows the same logic as the two above points. You are not in a significant relationship. Do not make the relationship messy by doing things like cuddling in bed and sleeping over. If for some reason you must stay over, then do not do brunch in the morning. Just leave as soon as possible.

Another rule is not to be clingy. You are not in a serious relationship with this person. Don't expect them to drop everything to hook up with you. Don't expect them to answer a call or text immediately. Remember to keep it casual. If they answer, great, but if not, move on.

Just like the other tips. You are not in a serious relationship. Don't meet the parents or any other relative. Don't go to family meetings, birthdays, BBQs, or any other family event, and don't bring them to yours.

Vacations together are unacceptable in this type of casual relationship. This is for occasional meetups focused on bedroom play and nothing more. Don't jeopardize your relationship for a vacation.

Don't post on Facebook or Twitter. Don't make vague references about your nights together. Don't talk about it with all your girl friends. Keep the relationship under wraps unless mutually agreed upon.

Don't make plans more than 72 hours in advance. Unless you live in separate towns, don't make plans more than 72 hours in advance. You are not dating and therefore don't need plans. As a casual relationship, it is best to keep things last minute.

Don't contact each other for at least 24 hours after a hookup. This tip is to help prevent feelings that can develop in a sexual relationship. You don't want to accidentally say something during the afterglow that you truly do not feel.

Deep personal and emotional conversations are off the table during the friends with benefits relationship. This is true even if you were actually friends before the relationship changed to sexual. Opening up to each other can allow you to start to develop feelings which can ruin the friendship.

Ending your relationship with your friends with benefits partner requires some rules as well. These tips will help prevent the relationship ending on bad terms.

Do not give fake lines like it's me, not you, or other fake lines like I don't know how to feel about this relationship. Just be honest about your reason for ending the relationship.

There is a difference between being honest and being brutal. There is no reason to pick apart the other person completely. Especially if your complaints are not something the person can change such as wanting to date someone taller.

No matter how you feel about the relationship ending or the other person, respond with kindness. It takes guts to end a relationship. Don't start cussing and screaming or making a scene.

If you hooked up once every month or so when you came to town, then it's not appropriate to meet up in person to end things. A simple text will work. However, if you were friends before the hook-up, then be a friend and do it in person. Break up with the person in a way that is befitting to your friendship level prior to the sexual relationship. Now that you know how to pick a candidate and you know the do's and don'ts of a friends with benefits relationship, its time for you to sit down and take stock. Think about if this type of relationship will work for you. Then pick your partner and have fun.