10 Tips on How to Win Him Back into Your Life

Let me guess; you aren’t a girl who has had many partners, and you find the love of your life, but it all goes to hell. Or perhaps, you have had many boys, but this one was different, you really loved him. Maybe you miss him, his touch, his voice, his presence. No matter what’s your situation, you are here because you all have one thing in common: you want to win your ex back. Wanting is not going to do pretty much anything in your favor, you've got to take actions and make it happen. Here we will present you with the top 10 tips on how to win him back, and this time, as a keeper. 

Yes, I know I just said to get out of your bed and start thinking about your plan to make amends, but for now, as the breakup is recent and he is probably at an emotional peak, do it just for you. What do I mean? Well, don't bother him for at least 30 days after your breakup.
 

At this stage, there’s a 0 contact rule; no texts, Instagram likes, retweets. Basically no interaction between you guys whatsoever.
 

In the heat of the moment, people say and do things they don't mean, and just after breakups, we tend to be really heartbroken and probably hate our ex.  So yes, he probably hates you and doesn't want anything to do with you right now. Don’t panic about this, as I said, that’s just when the breakup is recent. There’s no need to talk to him when he feels this way, you’ll just end up arguing and in this way make everything one hundred times harder. Also, this time will be beneficial for you as you will get to cool down and think clearer.
 

Give him time to cool off, miss you, think about you, and he’ll probably realize by himself that he wants you back, too. Also, he’ll see you care enough about him to give him his well-needed space, to let him think and make decisions in a reasonable state of mind. He’ll surely appreciate it.

Why did you break up? Was it because of him? Or because of you? Was it necessary? Just analyze deeply on the source of your breakup for starters.
 

It might be hard, as it means digging into the deepest part of your relationship, but it’s basically the key part in getting back together. If you know when and why everything started to crumble, you’ll know exactly how and where to start by fixing it.

In this case, I’m not going to lie, it’s going to be harder for you to get him back, since you, after all, hurted him. Don’t stress, don’t lose hope, it might be hard, but not impossible.

Let him know you understand his pain, that you screwed up, how sorry you are for that, and most importantly, that you are willing to change.

Take all the blame, put it on yourself, as you were the one that hurt him. Accepting you were awful and full of regret  will make him know that you are compromised with not hurting him again in the future. Again, the most important thing here is showing him you have changed and that you are not capable of doing him wrong again.

The three As is what I like to call affect, attention, and appreciation. You have to practice them daily towards your ex so he knows you really regret the hurt you caused him. He’ll now know how much you appreciate and love him and will put this feeling over bad experiences with you if you really make this genuine.

We have all been there; we love and feel so much that we feel the need to be needy and desperate towards someone that needs the complete opposite. Don’t think it’s over if you were exactly that, you can still fix it.

Alright, you were needy and clingy and just too much for him. Now, as you want him back, show him that you can be respectful of people’s space and time, that you’ve changed.
 

For this, you have to accept it, first.  Most needy people don’t know they are to begin with, so you just got to realize this. When you do, know that neediness is a turn-off, so call it off.
 

Start telling yourself that you don’t need him, sure, yes, you want him, but you don’t need him. This will make you less reliant on him, and you will see how you’ll stop being so needy.

After you are no longer needy, honestly, not just for an act, show him you have changed. How? Don’t say it,  it’s all on the behavior you portray towards him.

There’s nothing more attractive than an independent and self-controlled woman, so be just that. He will sense this change immediately and will see how mature you have become.

Fights, real-life nightmares. Fights can become hard thick walls between you and your partner if a good and truthful reconciliation doesn’t follow. 

Never, ever, let a fight stay unresolved for a longtime. This will just cause more harm and more resentment between you two.

Don’t use the excuse:” he has to apologize first” or “he has to come to me” because its just pure crap. If you really want your relationship to be fixed, take the first step with initiative, don’t fear it.

Apologize if you think you were wrong, for example, in the way you expressed your ideas or in saying something you shouldn't. Talk it out, look for a solution rationally and without getting heated up or angry about his opinions.

It’s very possible that after creating this honest and trustworthy mood he will follow with it.

After solving your fight, and declaring it over, never bring it up again in future discussions. Don’t hold grudges, show that you have the capability to overcome issues and leave them in the past, where they belong.

Slapping him in the face with past fights and problems will make him go crazy, as there is nothing worse than being picked on past mistakes that are supposed to be “over” by now.

Learn to forgive, forget, and move on. Let him know that what happens in the past and is already solved doesn't have any influence in your future.

Of course, you’ve got to contact him the moment you decide you want him back after so much time.

This first contact must be casual, you don’t want him thinking you are still a mess because of him. A simple and convenient way to do this is through a text, as they are private, little invasive, and very effective. Show that you remember him, but you are over him. Don’t treat him awkwardly as an ex, think he is an old friend who you miss.

If you take this stage slowly you might get very good results, and you’ll probably meet up again.

If you do meet up again, and you find your relationship getting stronger, be clear and honest; Tell him that you want to get back together.

Show him that you are willing to build your relationship again with no grudges or fears, as if you were just starting for the first time. Let him see how committed you are to trying again and he will surely trust you.

Now that you have read my 10 tips on how to win your ex back, I assure you, you’ll get back together. Remember, keep your cool, show that you have changed, be honest,  try your best, and he will be glad he took you back, hun. If you do get him back, do your best not to have to repeat these steps