Methods and ways to catch a lying cheating spouse

Find out the signs and how to uncover a cheating spouse

By Rebecca jones
Methods and ways to catch a lying cheating spouse

Finding out your partner or other significant other is cheating on you is not an easy feeling to deal with, but even with that, most people prefer to know rather than being in the dark. Dealing with your partner's infidelities and catching them red-handed in the act will require a lot of patience and time, and sometimes that’s why some people prefer to hire the services of experts and professionals like private detectives, retired FBI agents and Private Investigation agencies.

We all know that there are obvious signs that a cheating spouse gives out without even realizing that will convince you that he or she is definitely cheating. Signs like staying late at work more than usual, caring about their outfits, taking more unnecessary business trips and so much more. Discovering one or two of this signs alone can be traumatizing, but it’s advised to not panic but be more vigilant and look out for more obvious signs to be certain that your spouse is definitely cheating.

With that said, I know you are wondering what are those alarming signs that signify your significant other is cheating on you:

Signs of a Cheating Spouse

The first sign you should never ignore when you think your spouse is cheating on you is intuition. There's a reason why we are blessed with intuition, so as to be able to tell when something is right or not. Apart from intuition, the following are some of the obvious signs to look out for in order to uncover if your spouse is  cheating or not:

  • Changing habits
  • Leaving the house early and returning late 
  • Business trips
  • Holiday or family event absences 
  • Excessive overtime
  • Unexplained spending
  • Secret accounts (Instagram, email)
  • Hidden credit card bills
  • Extra grooming 
  • Fragrance of someone else (typical lipstick on the collar)
  • Buying gifts you haven't seen
  • Unexplained items - condoms in the car are a giveaway
  • Joining a gym
  • Missed calls from an unknown number
  • Coded or secretive text messages
  • Less sex
  • Evasiveness or defensiveness 
  • Obvious lies 
  • Prickliness or a short temper 
  • Hate surprise visits

And sometimes your partner might not be exhibiting any of this signs, but you still have a gut feeling that something isn't right, then you can make a conscious decision to seek for a professional help outside your home.

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How to catch a cheating spouse

1. Look out for suspicious behavior

If your spouse is cheating on you, you might start to see them exhibit different behaviors like constantly being on their phone, being unnecessarily defensive, avoiding conversation with you, or not wanting to have sex or be intimate. All this is a sign that there is an underlining problem somewhere that needs to be addressed.

2. Look at their contact and email list

Even though most cheaters tend to feel and act smart, but sometimes even the smartest ones are not above mistake, as to nobody is 100% perfect. Another good way of catching a cheating spouse is to look at their email and text messages. You may know the password in order to check their email account, and if not, you can try to get hold of their email or text prompters surfacing on the screen. Checking text messages is as simple as picking up their cell phone and looking at the inbox. If you see any emails that are flirtatious, either from your partner or from another person to them, you should be suspicious of them cheating.

If there is a sudden change in privacy - like a change in passwords when you both used to be open about it. Text and emails prompts are set to private notification when she used to be on an open notification, these are red alert signs to look out for.

3. Set a trap

If you suspect your spouse is cheating or not being sincere with you regarding your marriage and relationship, then its time to set a trap for him or her in order to find out the truth once and for all and get it over with it.

Tell your partner you are traveling and is going to be out of town for a day or two. Tell then your visiting relatives, family or friends. Come up with something convincing to get out of the house and see how your partner behaves. Monitor his or her movements by seeing where who they visit, or who gets invited into the house. A very inexpensive yet effective way of catching a cheating spouse.

4. Unexpected surprise visits

Nothing beats unexpected visits or surprises, drop by your partners office, place of work unexpectedly without letting them know. Just catch them unaware to see how they react or if they are actually at places they say they're at. Trust me, you might be surprised at what you might discover.

5. Old fashion sleuthing

Is going to cost you less but time to actually snoop around your spouse things like garbage, drawer, pants pockets, car, and so much more to see if you can find something out of place, finding a pack of condom either in the car or trip bag is definitely a No No. All this old fashioned techniques can actually yield good result.

Use of Trackers Apps

1. Couple tracker free

Couple Tracker - Cell phone tracker and monitor for Android

The  Couple tracker app is very helpful as it keeps the partners updated on each other's activities. This cheating spouses spy app allows concerned couples to share their call history, text messages, Facebook likes and comments, and GPS locations with their partners in real time. The entire process of monitoring each other is based on mutual consent. This is one of the best methods to keep one's partner from falling into infidelity or unwanted affair. Couple Tracker is compatible with Android phones only.

2. Fone monitor

[OFFICIAL] FoneMonitor | iPhone and Android Phone Monitoring Solution

FoneMonitor is the most widely used and trusted iPhone and Android spy apps for cheating spouses. Its success is basically due to the support that it provides for most of the popular social media websites and apps. It supports Facebook, WhatsApp, Skype, messenger, Snapchat, Viber etc. The purpose is to provide the concerned partner with a one-stop solution for monitoring. It is easy to use and the user of the target phone never realizes that their activities are being tracked. FoneMonitor supports Android devices, iPhone and iPad.

3. Spyzie

Mobile Phone Monitoring App and Tracking Solution | Spyzie

Spyzie comes second on our list of best Android spy apps for cheating spouses. This app provides all the necessary services such as access to calls and messages, Facebook, Whatsapp, browser history, etc. It is easy to use: All you need to do is create an account> Activate the software on the Target Phone> Start monitoring from the control panel of the software. Spyzie comes compatible with Android phones and iPhones.

4. Phone spy for iPhone

Best Cell Phone Spy - World's Most Powerful Mobile Spy App

This app allows its users to track their spouse, family members, and kids. With the free version of the app, the users can track the location for the last 24 hours. The paid version can expand the time limit to 72 hours. This app., as the name suggests, is concerned with providing only GPS location. The app is available on iTunes. Phone Tracker For iPhones is compatible with iPhones only.

5. Phone spector

PhoneSpector | iPhone & Android Cell Phone Spy and Tracking Software

The PhoneSpector is by far the best one I have tried. And so, I am using it currently for my monitoring needs. It allows you to gather information from the target phone just like every other spy app. But what makes it really special is that it can also extract deleted files and messages quite easily.

Hiring A Spy

The question is, should you hire an investigator to spy on your spouse whom you suspect is cheating? Well, this is an individual preference, some people actually will prefer to hire spy’s to help them gather and collect evidence that truly shows their significant other is actually cheating. Doing it yourself can have a significant effect on your health, and can leave you in denial.

Some actually get spy’s in order to provide evidence that can be beneficial to them in court and divorce proceedings. Some states will request the aforementioned lover to pay for damages caused if you can prove that your marriage was happy before your spouse’s lover came into the picture.

A prenuptial agreement that contains an infidelity clause can influence how a couple’s assets are divided in the event of divorce. Many prenuptial agreements with these clauses compel the unfaithful spouse to pay a financial penalty to the faithful one, provided that there’s proof of infidelity.

While others will rather do the investigation themselves as hiring an investigator can be very expensive and taxing.

Other Methods

1. GPS

Global Positioning Systems is a way of tracking a device remotely from your pc or laptop. These devices are commonly attached to cars, but recent cellphone spies are so advanced that they have added this functionality to their software.

The commonly found GPS devices will let you monitor the device using Google Maps, which makes it a very very powerful tool. Google Maps even allow you to view webcams located in those areas, and get the complete directions to get to that area, from a chosen area of origin (your home for example). The most solid way of busting the lies told to you by your spouse. No more 5-hours long shopping trips, GPS devices will tell you exactly where they went and for how long. Again, this should never be used to track a car that you do not own. It is illegal to GPS track anything but your own property.

2. Cell phone tracker

Have you ever heard of these? These are programs which you install on your cellphones and have it collect data for you. That data is then sent to a server via the internet which you can access through your home computer or laptop.

After manual installation on your phone, you can then leave these cell phone spies alone and just remotely access the data. Most of these work for all the latest mobile phones and the quality ones are always made to be undetectable. Their price ranges from $10 dollars a month, to $60 dollars per quarter. Very affordable, very effective. A top pick for catching a spouse who always has a mobile phone handy. We will not be talking about remotely activated mobile phones, those are costly and should not be recommended to anyone who is not a professional spy.

It is also illegal to monitor other people’s mobile phones, you should only monitor a phone that you own. What we will talk about are cellphone spies that have text monitoring services as well as GPS trackers. 

3. Video surveillance equipment

Hidden cameras are another effective solution to cheaters who have “visitors” at home while you are away. There are different types of surveillance equipment, and the hidden cameras are a little bit on the expensive side ($100+). What you’ll want to use is something that is small, and motion activated so you do not have to risk running out of storage for capturing video (and audio if you choose). This method has been made famous by a hit TV series called “Cheaters”, with Joey Greco.

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Finding out your significant other is cheating on you is extremely hard. Even though its a traumatizing experience, its important to be calm and not jump into conclusions until you are sure and have gotten all the facts that your spouse is truly cheating on you.

With the latest technology readily available, it’s so easy to catch your cheating spouse in the act. Don’t allow your emotions to get ahead of you by taking drastic actions you might regret later.

Whatever decision you need to make, always take time and ensure you have a clear mind before deciding on any action. When your spouse cheats on you, do not project the blame on yourself. We are all adults and should be solely responsible for our actions. You can seek professional help or talk with closest family and friends that can help you get through it.