10 Tips To Facing Your Intimacy Issues Head On

A lot of couples start off their relationships extremely excited, they love themselves, have a lot of fun time together,  the sex is really fantastic and so on, but with time, things get a bit rough, and all the fun, intimacy and love begins to die down like it never even existed. Meanwhile, for a few relationships, the couples from the start find it a bit challenging to achieve or attain intimacy in their relationship. This could be as a result of so many factors that so many of these couples fail to see.

So many of the factors that contribute to theses intimacy issues are usually unknown to the couples or even known and ignored. Communications issues, past and unresolved issues, emotional issues, stress at work, unfaithfulness, childhood traumas or issues and so on. The list goes on and on. There are a bunch of problems that can bring about a break in intimacy, and the couples have to be conscious about them, take note of them and solve them as quickly as they come to avoid these issues.

Having intimacy issues with your spouse? Are you finding it hard to pick out the cause and also solve it? You have got just the right article. Here we would educate you on all you need to know about intimacy issues, how you can solve them and save your relationship.

You won't recognize intimacy issues if you don’t even have an idea of it. Intimacy is built up or created when you can share and express your emotions and feeling with your partner. When you share and memorable moments, the fun, bad, exciting and thrilling moments together, you can create intimacy. Intimacy issues arise when you are unable to express yourself adequately to your partner or have anything intimate comfortably either because of fear of intimacy, communication issues, past issues, and the likes.

It is emotionally unavailable to your partner. This creates an emotional barrier and distance and makes it hard for your relationship to move smoothly.  You should note that intimacy doesn’t mean sex, but it is very closely related to sex, sex is like an integral part of intimacy but doesn’t encompass it all.

Here are some common and popular intimacy issues that have been the primary cause of broken relationships.

This usually occurs when you expect your partner to remain faithful without making efforts to keep your relationship, like sexual satisfaction, excellent communication, and the likes. This happens mostly in marriages and is also in relationships.

Any feeling unfulfillment in your relationship would definitely result in discord. Being one of the most often causes of intimacy issues in relationships, it is usually caused by tension, past problems, feeling of inadequacy, pressure and so on.

Differences in our definition of intimacy can give rise to intimacy issues. Men generally have a different view or belief of what intimacy, which is mostly physical, while most women have a different perspective which is primarily emotional. If these differences are not adequately ironed out, they could lead to a whole lot of misunderstandings and intimacy issues.

Without intimacy in your relationship, there’s always a feeling of disconnect which keeps you feeling like your partner has built a wall between you both. Intimacy keeps your relationship healthy and helps you overcome issues much more quickly in your relationship. When intimacy issues begin to come up, the bond is weakened and connection also. Here are some common signs that you would notice if your relationship is tilting towards the downside.

When things get a little cranky, and it begins to feel like your partner keeps his/her emotions in and away from you or you begin to feel disconnected. This might just be a sign that you both are beginning to have some intimacy issues.

Communication is one of the significant things that keep a relationship healthy, no matter what kind. Above all, it is a promoter of intimacy, and it strengthens bonds. When it begins to fee or look like communication is dwindling, then you need to be careful. This might be a warning sign.

This is as good as poor communication, only that you two actually communicate but one person limits his/her extent of communication. Just gives little information about his/herself, or her/his day or things happening in his/her life.

Physical touch significantly improves intimacy. When it begins to look like your partner is never in the mood or refuses to touch or hold you outside, and then there might be a bit of an issue there.

Nothing beats presence and spending quality time together making memories that would build and strengthen intimacy. Spending less time together in preference to something else that isn’t of much priority to your partner should be something you should look into. When your partner prefers spending time on something else (that was probably formally unimportant) rather than with you. That may be a sign of intimacy issues.

A bunch of couples faces these issues at least once or twice in their relationships. Sometimes a few people may be able to handle it, while some others may not and this might cause a breakup. For you to solve or avoid these issues, there are a few tips we would give you that would help solve those intimacy issues and keep your relationship healthy as ever.

This should be the first step you should take. The importance of communication in your relationship cannot be overemphasized. Taking out time to sit and talk deeply about the whole of your worries and observations would change things substantially. If it all started out based on a past disagreement or fight, you could resolve it and make things straight.

Be a bit more proud of your lover, would you? Kiss your lover goodnight, cuddle up, hold hands in public, and hug your partner before leaving for work. Make them feel loved and wanted again. These would definitely do the magic for you both and deepen the connection you shared once.

Spending quality time with your partner would no doubt bring back the intimacy you once shared. Have fun together, go to your favorite places, and go see your partner’s favorite movies, travel. Do whatever you used to love doing together, discover new places and so on. Relive old and beautiful moments that have shaped the better part of your relationship.

If the romance died down, then it’s time to bring it back on board. Send your partner texts randomly expressing your love and how much you miss him/her. Surprise your partner, go out on dates, cuddle up in bed on weekends, talk and laugh, cook together and have great and adventurous sex. Explore the romantic options you have and bring back the initial thrills of love you once had.

Sometimes stress can make us a bit too cranky and quite disconnected from our partner. There will be no space for intimacy if all you always think about and do is work. This would make you quite distant and disconnected with your partner. Take a chill pill, find something that makes you relax, it could be anything at all, maybe some exercise, yoga and or something you like. This would help you to be more focused on your partner whenever you are together.

Some of the best and most useful information today has been gotten through books. There is a lot of invaluable information that can be derived through books. These books have almost everything you need to know about intimacy issues and how you can solve them. 

The book “Enduring Desire” by Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy has just the perfect guide as to how you can revive and maintain intimacy in your relationship and keep it lasting for as long as you would be together.

Marcus and Ashley Kusi did an excellent job with the book “Emotional and Sexual Intimacy in Marriage” for married couples. This book doesn’t just guide you on a unique approach to emotional intimacy but also sexual intimacy.

The book “Daring to Trust” by David Richo explains the causes of intimacy issues and how you can tackle them. It is supported on all devices making it easily accessible for you.

Kamala Chambers did an excellent job with her book “Road to Love” explaining how we can practice self-love first and then extend that love and connection to our partners. She tells a lot of vulnerable stories of her life and also gives practical exercises that can help you through intimacy issues.

Intimacy Anorexia written by Douglas Weiss says it all. This is an excellent book for married couples. It discusses sex addiction and a lot of other things that subconsciously steal out on intimacy and also gives solutions to them.

A lot of couples experience intimacy issues married or not, and this in many cases destroys the relationship. It is essential to start tackling these issues when they come up to avoid future complications. Always try to take it slow with your partner and remember that things would not change with the snap of your fingers.