6 Things to Do If My Wife Cheated On Me in the Marriage

Falling out of love is as easier as falling in love. You can fall out of love with your spouse within the first few months of marriage or it can take several years to happen; whenever it does, it leaves you devastated. Infidelity is one of the worst things a person can experience, worser than falling out of love and is the last thing a man expects from his wife. 

No matter how many stories you have heard from your friends and relatives about their wives turning their backs on them and no matter how sure you are that this will not happen to you but believe me when i say it that it can happen and that too at a time when you least expect it. 

So you have found out that she was not spending her evenings with her friends as she said and those gifts were not from colleagues and it is very obvious that she has been cheating. Now what? Should you divorce her? Here are a few things you can do if your wife is found cheating on you
 

You are angry and can’t think straight. You want to go straight to her and the man who stole her from you. You have every right to ask them but not now and definitely not in a state of extreme anger. You might get physical and could end up in jail. Confrontation is not the solution and this is the last thing you should do. Take it slow and analyze the situation. How far she has gone, what is the status of her relationship with the other man and what made her do it are the questions that need to be answered first. The way you react and behave is very crucial in this situation. Confrontation can make the situation worse. Talk to her about her emotions and feelings and how they changed. What made her go astray and how to get her back if you still love her and don’t want to go for a divorce. 

Your life can change overnight if your partner betrays you. No matter what circumstances brought you to this point but now that she has been found involved with someone else you need to reconsider the situation over and over again. How is it going to impact your life and the life of your kids?  Think about how divorcing your wife will affect your children. No matter how angry you are, keep this thing in your mind that she is the mother of your children and your decisions will directly affect your kids. Divorce might seem like the right thing at the moment but in the long run, it’s the kids who are going to suffer. If she’s been a bad wife to you doesn’t mean she’d be a bad mother too. Children should not be put in a position to take sides and since they need you both, the decision should be made keeping their wellbeing in mind.

The worst nightmare has come true. Discovering infidelity in your partner can heighten the negative emotions but do not let those emotions guide you. Neither bury your feelings nor let them explode like a volcano. Controlling your emotions will give you a chance to identify and articulate the intense feelings. Take some time to think and decide. Never make a decision when you are angry, a decision that you will regret later. Many times wives who cheated their husbands come back begging after spending a few months finally to realize that they made a mistake leaving their husbands. 
Being considerate will help you in an easy transition. Put yourself into her shoes and behave in a way you would expect from her if you two changed places.      

Finding that your wife has committed adultery can be very disturbing. If this happens within the first few months of marriage and you still have not planned to start a family, there would be hardly any difficulty in getting detached as there is nothing on stake. If this happens at a time when you have been in this marriage for quite a while and have planned for a life together as a couple and raise a family together the situation can be tricky to handle. 

Falling in love and starting a relationship as a married couple is beautiful and having a baby together is divine. Getting to know that you are going to be a father is the most amazing feeling in the world but what if it comes with a equally bad news. How would you react if one day you find out that you are expecting a baby and the next day you find about your wife’s betrayal.  What would you do? This is what you should do

Love can make you do crazy things and so does pregnancy. A woman goes through a lot while she is pregnant and needs continuous reassurance from her spouse. She can think about cheating her husband if she is not getting enough attention and love. There can be two things: either pregnancy leads to infidelity or infidelity lead to pregnancy. No matter what the reason, you are left with two options: stay in the marriage and wait for the affair to die out or file for a divorce. If you think that it all happened because you could not provide the amount of love and reassurance she requires, you need to evaluate your behavior and act appropriately. Things will get better once the needs are met and desires fulfilled. 

What to do in a situation where your wife is found practicing adultery and is pregnant at the same time depends on the kind of relationship you share. If you have known each other for a while, spent time with each other eventually fallen in love, gotten married, and are going to have a baby, you should give your relationship some time.  Think of all the factors that could have brought you two at the point where despite being pregnant she thought about having a physical relationship with another man. 
If you still love her and want her back in your life, try a few things
 

• There won’t be a room for errors this time around. Try to be more logical and set realistic goals.

• Be honest and loyal this time if you weren’t previously. In most cases, it is tit for tat. You would hear women saying “My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant so I cheated on him while I was pregnant also”. 

• Don’t give up especially if she is carrying your baby. It would not be easy but what isn’t. Licensed marriage therapist Dr. Todd Creager said, “No relationship, whether it’s with your ex or someone new, is going to be easy all the time.” Putting an extra effort may make your wife realize that this relationship is worth giving another chance. 

• Get help from a specialist. There are several online resources, books, audio, and video courses to help save the marriage. No matter how hopeless the situation may seem at the moment, it will get better with a little help.

Divorce should be the last option in any situation and in the worst of circumstances. If you have done everything to convince her and nothing seems to work, opt for divorce even if she is pregnant. She must have given a thought about the unborn child she is carrying and if she wanted to bring him up with you, she wouldn’t have done what she did. Maybe the child isn’t even yours. 

Get some legal help at this time as marital assets and child custody are involved. Understand your legal divorce rights and let the DNA test prove that the child is yours or otherwise. Keeping or letting a child go can be difficult and you should be ready for whatever is coming your way. Be prepared to raise your child single-handedly if it is yours and if you don’t want your child to be raised by an infidel woman and her lover. 

Cheating your spouse is unforgivable. Whether a husband does it or wife commits it, it leaves the other partner devastated. You took vows to be together in ups and downs of life till death and then this happens. But this is life and it unfolds in its own bitter and sweet ways. 

The end note would be: You both are free to live your lives the way you want and nothing should stop you from doing so. Get over the hurtful feelings and start fresh because you deserve that.