The idea of getting married is one that women praise most of the time because it is like a childhood dream to have the perfect wedding with the perfect man for them.
Not all men have that desire and many times they are the least interested in this aspect, this stage is not always interesting for them. But, sometimes, out of a desire to please their partner, some men can agree on making that important but mostly unwanted step.
When that happens, there are many signs of knowing when a man does not want to marry anymore. After all, he might never want to marry you, or, perhaps, he thought he did but then realized he wasn’t actually ready.
So I ask you; Do you know which ones they are? Do you have any ideas?
If you don’t and you feel quite confused about his new attitude towards marriage, I want to give you some daily signs that show you that it is not the time for him anymore and he might have changed his mind about his proposal. Take note:
1. He never talks about it
Picture this: he proposed, but he never talks about it after. When you try to touch the subject of marriage he is always somewhat nervous and looks for ways to change the subject very quickly, and it looks like he is not even excited to do it anymore.
That is a sign that shows you that he is actually not mentally prepared to have that happen and that he regrets proposing it in the first place. Bummer.
2. He shows no interest
You have wedding magazines on you all day, thinking about your wedding, starting to plan, but he, on the other hand, doesn’t even seem he has thought about it at all. He doesn’t even ask you about it.
The moment you realize that your partner responds to you that way, you should make drastic decisions if possible. He doesn’t want to get married, so don’t make him; I assure you that the marriage will end quite soon.
3. He doesn't seem excited about it
One thing is that he accepts for you and another thing is that he does it for him.
This is something that can be told from any angle and by anyone and can be avoided if you are a mature woman. I mean, any man that really wants to get married is over the top excited about it, so if it’s not your case, then something is wrong.
Never force your partner to marry you, better wait for a little. If your goal is to start a family or is a pressure put by society, I invite you to live your life and let things flow as it should.
4. He gives you hints
Having conversations about how young you are, how much time you still have left to know each other more, how things shouldn’t be rushed is a way men use to communicate in other words: I don’t want to get married anymore. As they can’t actually say those words literally, they look for ways to soften it like these conversation topics.
5. He is distant since the engagement
Everything was nice between the two of you. Then, he proposed, and it felt like the climax of the relationship. But let’s stop right there, it was just for a couple of days. Then, he has distanced himself from you, it’s almost as if the flame lit off in a matter of seconds.
That, my girl, is one of the biggest signs of a man that regrets bringing marriage up. As he feels guilty for having you all excited about it, the only way he feels he can cope with that guilt is distancing himself from you.
6. He dismisses the topic
Every time you talk about the wedding, he dismisses it with phrases like: “let’s not talk about that now” or “we still have time to talk about that”, almost trying to push the wedding forward and wanting it to disappear someday.
This one is one of the main signs that he wants to call it quits on the wedding, so be aware.
7. There is no date for the wedding
I know that choosing the date for your wedding is quite hard and not that fast, but, if months have passed and you still have no idea when it is going to happen because the two of you haven’t been able to choose a date, that is a sign he is not down for it.
Yes, you may have tried to talk about it with him, but again, he dismisses it and you reach no agreement.
8. He hasn't told his family and friends
When you are excited and happy about your wedding, you want to tell it out to the world, you want to let everyone know.
Now, if he isn’t excited to announce it and share the news with his family or friends it means he doesn’t want anyone to know because he isn’t happy about the decision.
9. He doesn't refer to you as his fiance
Yes, I know this one might seem a little over the top and too specific, but details give away huge things that are going on. You go out, you meet people, he introduces you to them, and you are still: “this is Casie, my girlfriend”. It means a lot as it is the way he wants to portray your relationship to the world. If he doesn’t want to call you his fiancé it’s because he doesn’t want to present the decision he regrets to the world because he simply doesn’t want it to happens. It can be quite heartbreaking when we hear that. It is just like the: “ this is Casie, my friend” when you expect to be called his girlfriend.
10. He calls off wedding planning errands
There is so much to do before a wedding: the invitations, cake tasting, dress and suit fittings, rehearsals, speaking to the priest, and many others.
If for any reason, he seems to always call off or try to get out of any of those planning errands, even though you told him to be free that day months ago, it means he is trying to push the wedding as far as possible so it doesn’t happen.
11. He is living wildly
When a man commits themselves to their wives after proposing, the last thing they want to do is go around clubs and bars regularly. They want to stay in and enjoy the beauty of being fiancées. If the first one is your case after you two got engaged, girl, he is trying to evade the reality of what he got himself into the best way of evading reality: partying.
12. He doesn't talk about the future
When two people are getting married, talks about the future happen quite frequently; where are we going to live, what cars are we going to have, are there going to be any kids? Etc. If the future seems in existing between the two of you because he simply doesn’t want to talk about it or never does, it means that he is not picturing a future with you, same as no wedding.
13. He is having a bad attitude
Before the engagement, you loved each other very much, your relationship was perfect, you two were happy, he was an amazing man to you. Now, after the engagement, he is having a bad attitude, he is not the same anymore. That is probably because he is looking to make you call off the wedding and end things with him because he doesn't want to get married.
14. He tells you he doesn't want to get married anymore
Well, this one is the ultimate proof he doesn’t want to get married if it isn’t obvious enough. One day, he says he wants to talk to you and the words: “ I don’t want to get married anymore” come out from him. I guess it’s best he is honest, right?
You should watch out for these signs every day, with the reactions or gesture your partner makes.
Remember, pressure leads to nothing. Sometimes a man is afraid to take this step for many reasons, and that is nobody’s to judge.
If it's your dream, wait. You will find someone that wants just the same as you sooner or later, so never lose hope because of a called off the wedding. You will actually be thankful it happened and you didn’t go through with something that wasn’t going to end up great anyways. Chin up doll!