So Near Yet So Far: Get That Guy Nearby To Notice You

It seems like a case of life and death once you want to get the attention of the man of your dreams, but don’t want it to seem too obvious. You’ve been crushing on him for ages, all you want is for him to notice you for once. Although making the first move is easier said than done, it’s important to remember to keep things as simple as possible. All you have to do is to possess a magnetic quality that would attract him towards you, without you having uttered a single word from that pretty mouth of yours.

Sometimes, all a girl wants is the man of his dreams to notice her without her having to face the embarrassment of going up to him and initiating conversation. Some of us are just shy! Here are a few ways you can get a guy to notice you without you even talking to him:

The first thing anyone notices about you would be the way you dress. You need to understand that through your dressing style, a guy will make up his first impression of you. Thus, choose the outfit you’d want to wear in front of him carefully, but at the same time, don’t lose touch with who you are from within.

Makeup isn’t meant to conceal what’s underneath – rather, it’s meant to emphasize the beauty you already possess! Put on the kind of makeup that makes you look approachable, clean, and fresh. Pull off a look that emphasizes your best features. A classic winged eyeliner, a bold red lip, and a touch of baby-pink blush are all it takes for a guy to notice a girl.

All that glitters isn’t gold, but all that glitters gets a person’s attention! Try to match your already eye-catching outfit and glamorous makeup with some elegant jewelry. There are hundreds of shops out there that sell elegant imitation jewelry – a pair of hoops, a necklace, and one or two rings is all you need to finish off a look that’ll make any guy fall head over heels for you!

Have you heard the saying, “you can’t love anyone else unless you’ve learned to love yourself”? Being comfortable in your skin is easier said than done. However, the point is that when a guy observes that a girl is confident being who she is, he views her from a different light. You see, now you don’t need him, he needs you!

Nobody likes a sullen, gloomy goth. Pour in some life into your soul! Not only does pulling off a fun-loving vibe make you seem more approachable, but it also makes a guy hungry for your attention. Everybody wants to be friends with somebody who radiates positive energy. So live, love, and laugh out loud! Be comfortable with yourself and those around you. That’s one of the most effortless ways to get a guy’s attention without having to talk to him.

Try to avoid extremes. Most girls either play hard-to-get or end up seeming too desperate for a guy’s attention. Try to stay in the middle ground. If you end up making eye contact with your future man, don’t make things awkward by either cutting it all off quickly and neither make things creepy by staring at him for more than a few seconds. It’ll be wiser to give off a little smile and slowly shift your gaze way. That way, you’ll seem approachable but not hopelessly desperate for his attention. Plus, it’s a great way to get him to notice you!

Like we discussed earlier, radiating a positive vibe is very important. Try to seem approachable, but not desperate – you don’t want to scare him off or creep him out! If and when he finally builds up the courage to come over to talk to you, don’t give off a vibe that makes you seem like a moody drama queen, rather, just go with the flow and smile as much as you can!

I mean, why not? In this day and age, technology allows us to know about people easily and far quickly then it would’ve taken otherwise. If you have mutual friends with the guy you’ve been drooling over, just ask for his Instagram username. If you’re lucky, he’ll surely notice you followed him – and who knows? Maybe he’ll follow you back!

Recall cheesy coming-of-age films – a girl bumps into the man of his dreams, her books fall down and while he’s helping her pick them up, they can’t seem to let their eyes off of each other! It’s either that or perhaps researching a bit more about him and making sure you’re at the same coffee shop he goes over to during lunch break.

Part of not seeming to be too desperate and all-the-while staying in touch with you are from within is to keep yourself busy. Don’t forget to stay in touch with all the things you consider important in your life. A guy will look up to you more if you’re a strong, independent woman!

Once you’ve finally decided to break off your silence and talk to him, it’s important to take things one step at a time, all-the-while keeping your cool and making him feel comfortable around you. Here are 5 ways you can break the ice and finally talk to the man of your dreams:

Before you start, it’s important to observe and analyze the kind of guy he is. Each individual is unique – try to make out if he’s a shy kind of a more extroverted kind of guy. Choose what you’d like to talk to him about accordingly.

When you’re finally ready to take off, it’ll be wise to start with a general topic that both of you have some knowledge about. Try discussing recent trends, music releases, or perhaps the launch of the new iPhone – anything that’ll kickstart the convo!

Remember that how you carry yourself has a direct influence on comfortable the person will be with you. Try to remain calm, confident, and approachable. If you show signs of confusion or nervousness, it might make him uncomfortable and confused too. Remember, this is as exciting (but awkward) for him as it is for you so just go with the flow and let fate do its thing!

I mean, who doesn’t like to be complimented? A good way to start a convo is to compliment him – perhaps his hairstyle is super cute, or maybe his shoes suit him. Whatsoever the case might be, remember that people find you a million times more attractive if you appreciate them! Plus, this is an excellent way to start a conversation.

Although we recommended started off the convo with a general topic, don’t forget to improvise with your touch of humor and wittiness just to keep him engaged. Nobody likes someone who prefers keeping conversations dry and boring.  Try to make yourself sound jovial and fun-loving!

Once both of you finally get to know each other, it’s important to take things slowly to the next level. If he’s comfortable with it, exchange numbers and talks over the phone sometimes! Try to get to know each other a bit more before your subsequent meetup. And remember, part of not seeming too clingy is to remain patient – respect the fact that he has a life outside the four walls of the building where you initially met him. Things take time – just go wherever the wind takes you!

In conclusion, it can be said that whatever you do, the key to attracting the man of your dreams and getting him to notice you is to simply be yourself! When you’re comfortable in your own skin, confident in your approach and generally welcoming, it’s inevitable that everybody, including the guy you’ve been crushing on, would die to get closer to you! Oh – and being yourself doesn’t require you to talk to or listen to anyone (other than your own heart).