8 Ways To Play Hard To Get With A Guy That Will Win Him Over

If you want to play hard to get, do it carefully by considering your guy. These 8 tactics are very effective if you want his full attention.

By Gerald Matiri
8 Ways To Play Hard To Get With A Guy That Will Win Him Over

How To Win A Guy Over By Playing Hard To Get

Before a woman finds her true love she encounters relationship hurdles, not to mention heartbreaks. In times of desperation, most women turn to their friends or dating advice books. The funny thing about the dating tips is that that they contain the same old relationship advice, which encourage hard to get games. It might sound like total absurdity because what’s the point of making it hard for the guy of your dreams to get you. Honestly, after meeting your soul mate, should you play hard games so as to win him over? There are 8 simple rules of how to play hard to get which can land you on your dream boyfriend and help you maintain a healthy and happy relationship.

1. Show your guy how you enjoy your single status

You are a single lady living a good life, and yes, you are proud of it. You don’t need to do things with him to enjoy life. While he goes out with his boys, have a night out with your girlfriends. The key is doing your own things as a single woman. It is very healthy for you to have your own hobbies because even after you become engaged, there are times which will be difficult to be together. Just like he values his time, show him that yours is equally important. Work hard to improve your own life; a little selfishness will help. If you have a personal issue such as health or fitness, prioritize it and take good care of yourself. A single lady who knows how to take care of herself is attractive. Take selfies in your condo, enjoying life as a single lady and post them on social media. He will notice this and respect you more as his biggest fan.

Love yourself as much as you want to be loved #iloveme #icomefirst #beautiful

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2. Reject him the first time

If he asks to take you out, give him some excuses or just say no. Before you agree to go out with him, let him ask several times. It is true that men love to chase girls, so let him. If you gave him your number today and he sends a text, ignore it until he calls. Tell him you didn’t see the text or something was wrong with your phone. Making him wait should be your aim. Because you know your worth, why would you give yourself away so easily? Let him sweat and he will worship you and value your time together in future. Trust me, if he loves you, he can move mountains just to be with you. The harder you play the game, the more value and respect he will have for you. He will also fight hard to get you. Men are more attracted to women who don’t give themselves so easily.

3. Make him wait for physical intimacy

You are the only one who should decide when to get physical with a guy. Men are always ready for intercourse, even on the very first date. It is therefore up to you to decide when to get to it. You must not succumb to his pressure. Remember that you are not obligated to him and stop having the wrong notion that you’ll hurt him by denying him sexual pleasure. He will just feel a little stressed but he’ll be fine. When he discovers that you don’t entertain nonsense, he will surely respect you. Let him know that physical intimacy is a small aspect of a relationship so it shouldn’t be a big deal. If he acts so needy, it means you’ll be sharing some hollowness with this guy. What if he keeps on insisting? Just tell him you are not ready and do not apologize. Use a very assertive tone to tell him that you require more time before you take the relationship to an intimate level. This will make him see that you are not just looking for a fling but a serious relationship. Of course, he might assume that you are not in love with him. So, what you should do is assure the guy that denying him the pleasure is not lack of love, only that you want the relationship to mature emotionally. Find a way to convince him that he still means something to you. After all, you don’t want him to label you as an easy girl who agrees to sleep with a man the first day of their meeting. He will respect you for making clear boundaries.

I'm gonna be honest, this has probably been the hardest part about being single: no sex. I can handle being lonely or actually living single, but not being physical has been a struggle. Now, don't give me the side eye 👀 lol. I'm saying I miss the intimacy that comes BEFORE sex. See, my love languages are Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation (both were 10) and Quality Time (9) and I miss having that guy to cuddle with, kiss and show affection to. I won't share all my secrets and tricks lol but I miss being affectionate with my guy. I'm excited about catering to my future husband because it brings me joy. Being the one who can make his day, on an intimate level, is something I look forward to. But these are all gifts for my husband....not just any guy. I don't want to awaken love with just any guy. He has to be my husband. Awakening love with the wrong guy will have me giving him gifts that only belong to my husband. So I'm very careful who I allow in my space. Like I said, if I know I'm missing being intimate and sex....then I'm going to guard what I watch, what I listen to, who I hang around and the people I allow in my space. Why flirt with temptation? I can't take any chances with something that I've been abstaining from for about 4 years 😩...lol. What are you struggling with? #nosex #transparency

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4. Play hard with a high value for yourself

If he thinks he can get you easily just because he has a six pack and drives an expensive convertible, he better think twice. You see, he is successful because he puts energy into what he does. Show him that you too are a hard worker. If you are a disciplined woman, you know exactly what you want and you cannot settle for less than you deserve. Be proud of yourself, your ambitions, and your beautiful body. If this is your true value, why should you make him feel like he has won the jackpot the first time he plays the game? Does he even know what you have done to get where you are? You are a great girlfriend, and he should know this.

5. Play with his psychology

First, do not hide; let him see you. Let him notice that you are still around. Smile when you meet and if you are single, flirt with other guys. Use your best body language signs to flirt with him and lure him into your rollercoaster of seduction. Even as you play hard to get, create some form of attraction so he can desire you. The game should not be all about rejecting him- show him your sweet side once in a while but do not go overboard. Sell your image by showcasing your friendly side but make it clear that you are not up to playing any games. Remember that the first impression last forever, so you shouldn’t come across as a snobbish or rude woman. In other words, behave with some kind of class. Once you have established an attraction platform by flirting and all that, it is time disappear a little. If you are having a conversation, excuse yourself by acting like you’re busy or start talking to another guy. When he asks for your cell phone number, be reluctant and so you don’t appear desperate. The field is all yours, so play the game wisely. He will start wondering whether you have a boyfriend or if he is not that special to you. Sometimes, you will be required to act like you don’t care and believe it or not, he will find you irresistible.

6. Play hard but don’t kill the chase

Men love to be challenged when it comes to relationship matters. While they don’t like tedious and unreasonably hard challenges, they prefer to work a bit harder to achieve their goals. This is what defines a man- overcoming a challenge and accomplishing something. The moment you accept him, he will not put extra effort because he has already reached his goal. No way will he run around the bases when he has crossed home already! So, please do not accord him the diploma before he attends all your classes. You need to know that in as much as he likes to chase you and going extra miles, he wants to see some advancement. When he buys you those sweet chocolates or sends you beautiful flowers, the least you can do is reciprocate with a smile, a thank you text, or a hug. He actually wants to see you happy not defensive. Please don’t make him feel like he has an obligation to do the nice things he does to you. He wants to excite you so that his efforts come naturally. If you don’t reciprocate, he will think of you as a piece of work and resent you- which is the opposite of what you want. If you reject him too many times, you could kill his ego, which is the greatest insult a guy can get from a girlfriend. Think about it, you are an awesome woman but how will your boyfriend know if you are not giving him a chance to discover who you are? Encourage him and show him that he has a chance of getting a girlfriend.

7. Don’t put the guy before you

He should work around your schedule and not the vice versa. The life of your potential boyfriend must not come before yours. If he asks you over text if you are available for an event on Saturday that conflict with an important schedule you have on the same day, just say no. Let the guy see how important your time is. He should make an effort if he wants to be your boyfriend. This, however, should not mean that he must be on his toes all the time. Don’t make hi tired of seeking your attention every now and then; he is human and humans get tired. Don’t play the game alone but engage him as well. If he works hard for you, do the same. And do not try anything overboard, only a little pressure to keep the game up. You will realize that making a potential boyfriend work for you is like seducing him.

8. Show him affection but don’t open the door fully

Take caution when letting him in. Show some affection, one at a time. You may open the door but you cannot allow him to jump through. The reason you decided to play hard to get is that you need a boyfriend you can have a long-term relationship with. Then, you have to approach every stage slowly and with caution. Before you send him an explicitly dirty text message, consider starting with a subtle flirty text. You can hug him when you say goodbye but take your time before making out. The idea is to know him slowly. It is fun to take things slow. You might want to spend some alone time with him every day but take your space. Let him miss you by spending time apart. And when you meet, give him a subtle kiss. Whether you want to make love to him is entirely your decision because you are a grown woman. But it would be more exciting and intense if you make him wait. It is better to do it later.

Final Words

As you can see, the tricks and tactics of playing hard to get can make you more desirable as a potential girlfriend. Besides, you will be able to test the degree of interest your boyfriend has on you. However, you need to time your game properly and ensure the right balance.