As a usual saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder. But it is certainly not true in a long-distance relationship. You might be in different cities, or maybe in different countries separated by varied time zones due to personal or professional commitments, which may make it hard for you to spend time with each other.
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Long-distance relationships are a tricky affair and need the utmost commitment from both sides to make it work. Since it is easy to get distracted by many factors in a long-distance relationship, it is difficult to maintain a spark in it. Most of us would have been in a long-distance relationship at some point in our lives. Some might have had a happy ending while others would not have been fortunate enough to sustain it in the long run.
Most of the long-distance relationships fail due to lack of commitment and communication. One might tend to feel lonely over time due to the sake of physical touch and intimacy which may ruin the relationship gradually. Are you worried or paranoid that you boyfriend might get bored with the long-distance relationship and you desperately need to do something to make him want you? Here are a few tips and tricks you can follow to make your boyfriend in a long distance relationship miss you like crazy.
1. Avoid excessive communication to make him miss you
The first step crucial for every relationship is to stop communicating excessively with your boyfriend. If you are the type of girlfriend who texts or calls him excessively, you may come across as a possessive or a clingy person. Communicating with your boyfriend 24/7 is not necessary to keep the relationship going. Most couples in long-distance relationships tend to communicate more to make up for all the lost time in their relationship but doing this often might lead to both of you getting tired and running out of things to say to each other. Remember to keep it short and sweet to make him miss talking to you.
2. Don’t reply to his texts or calls immediately
When we miss someone, we usually tend to jump at any chances to communicate with them and tend to come across as the eager one. If you want your boyfriend to miss you, stop replying to his texts and calls immediately and create a sense of longing before you reply to him. Create an impression that you are busy and tell him that you missed replying to his calls and messages because of your work. This will make him wonder what you are doing without him and make him long for your calls and messages.
3. Quit being active on social media
Social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat tend to be good to keep you closer to your family and friends where they can constantly be updated about your activities. If you are active on social media, your boyfriend might be updated about your activities from time-to-time, and this takes the essence out of the long-distance relationship. To make him miss you like crazy, quit updating about yourself frequently to make him think more about you. It won’t take long for you to hear from him saying that he misses you very much.
4. Hang up the call first
Girls, make it a point to be the first one to hang up after a call or ending the text conversation, especially if you are the one who is the last to say goodbye. By being the first one to end the conversation, he will be incessantly thinking about you and when you will talk to him next. The longing factor will make him want to communicate more with you and make him miss you like crazy.
5. Wait for him to call you first in a long-distance relationship
Have you always been the one to initiate a text or call during a long-distance relationship with your boyfriend? If the answer is yes, now it is time to take a step back and wait for him to initiate the call. Being the first one to initiate a call will make him stop thinking about you since you will always make time to communicate with him. When you stop calling or texting him, he will start to wonder why you are not calling him and make him miss you more.
6. Send him pictures to make him miss you
Send him sweet pictures of you to make him think about you. There might be certain kinds of clothes that he may want to see you in. Indulge in his fantasies and tease him by sending raunchy pictures of you in various costumes to make him go crazy and to miss you. But be sure that you really trust your boyfriend before doing this. Only do so if you are comfortable enough and not because of compulsion.
7. Remind him with gifts when in a long-distance relationship
The olfactory sense is a unique sensory function of a human being and it is usually associated with memories. You get a whiff of a smell and get instantly reminded of the person or a certain memory etched in your mind. So what can be a better way that sending him gifts or a scent to make him think about you and make him miss you? You can send him a perfume that you use, or a t-shirt that smells of you that he can cuddle up in while missing and be reminded of you at the same time.
8. Cybersex can spice up a long-distance relationship
Long distance can always take a toll on your relationship due to lack of physical intimacy. So, an interesting way to spice up your sex life and bring you guys closer is to indulge in phone or cybersex with your better half. Both can look forward to it, enjoy the intimacy which comes with it and in turn, spice up your sex life. So, fix up a time, create a romantic setting and start building up the pressure by sending him seductive messages to make him go crazy with lust. This, in turn, will make him look forward to spending more time with you.
9. Surprise him by planning activities that you can do together
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Everyone likes to be surprised by their loved ones since it gives them assurance that you are thinking about them. So, plan some activities that both of you can do together though you might be in different places. Pick up a place or an activity which both of you like doing. It can be trekking, a quiet walk in the park,or exploring a new place, and both of you can send pictures or talk through Skype. Try experiencing the world through the other person’s eyes. It brings a novelty factor in your long-distance relationship and makes him miss you about the times which you guys spent together.
10. Stay involved in his life and listen to him
Though they might come across as a person who is in control, men do need assurance from time to time. Let him know that you are always there for him no matter how far he is and you will always support him. Talk to him about his life, such as his study, work or family stress that might be affecting his state of mind. Just be there and listen to him talk so that he can be reassured that you are there for him always. Let him know that you love him and miss him. Hearing you say these words will only make him miss you more.
11. Send him thoughtful gifts
Take time to make handmade gifts to make him understand the effort you have taken to make it. You could try making a playlist or a CD loaded with both of your favourite songs or videos. Or else you think of all the things you like about him such as a memory that is dear to both of you, or a favourite movie quote that makes him know how you feel about him, and write them into tiny rollups. Then load them into a jar. Each day he can pick up a rollup and read it, which in turn will definitely make him love you more and miss you harder.
12. Communicate via letters in a long-distance relationship
Instead of communicating via a mobile or through an email, try writing letters to each other. Mail each other postcards and handwritten letters from time-to-time. Writing a traditional letter will make you express more and you can customize your letter by leaving a lip-mark or spraying your perfume on it. By doing this, the letter will have a personal touch which will make him miss you more than ever and will make him look forward to your letter.
13. Get yourself a makeover to make him miss you
Getting a makeover will do wonders to your relationship and make him know the things he is missing out on. Get yourself a new haircut with a colour, or revamp your wardrobe by exploring bold styles. By doing this, you will not only feel good about yourself, it will also drive your boyfriend in a long-distance relationship go crazy and make him miss you more by not being able to see you in person.
14. Spend time with your friends and share your adventures
When you are apart from your boyfriend, share your adventures with him. It is necessary to make him know that you can have fun without him, though this might make your man happy for some time, he might also feel jealous of you having fun without him. It will make him miss you and want to spend more time with you.
15. Be honest and stay positive
Finally, whatever the situation might be, try to be honest with yourself and with your partner. By being honest, your partner will definitely trust and love you. Try to be positive and make the best of your long-distance relationship by communicating openly, motivating, caring for each other and finally taking the effort to spend time with one another. Be patient, give him space, who knows he might genuinely miss you and no sooner you may both have your happy ending.
The most special thing about a long-distance relationship, as proven by various studies, is that the couples in these relationships feel more love for each other and appreciate their partners better than those in a normal relationship. The couples in a long-distance relationship tend to idealize their partner and their behaviours to a great extent which leads to a greater sense of intimacy.
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Long-distance relationship might not have worked for everyone. That doesn’t mean it will not work for you. Shun the haters and the people who might try to demotivate you. Many of the long distance relationships work in the long run if commitment and trust are given by the couples. The time spent apart usually strengthens your relationship and makes them fall in love more with each other. So be happy and embrace your other half and ultimately hope for your happy ending.