15 Tips To Dominate And Discipline Your Man In Bed

Find ways in which you can successfully dominate your man and be in control

By Dagmar Thomson
15 Tips To Dominate And Discipline Your Man In Bed

15 Tips to Dominate and Discipline Your Man in Bed

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In relationships, men take charge when it comes to bedroom matters. It is not a bad thing, although the roles need to change at times. Most women think that being dominant in the bedroom is hard and it is a man’s role. This is not true.

Every woman can learn to dominate in bed as long as you change your attitude. If you are a first timer and you are curious as to how this dominance role goes, it is a high time you change the rules and deal with it. You can learn to dominate your man in the bedroom as long as you change your attitude. Let your man know of your intentions and if he is game, then you two are good to go. Your man would be pleased and surprised that you are taking over his role for sometime. All you need to do is to pay attention to these tips on how to dominate and discipline your man in bed. Mistakes are bound to occur; therefore, be prepared to have some laugh with your man.

1. Relax and Try Not To Force It

When your boyfriend suggests you change roles in the bedroom, try not to judge him. Rather, pay attention as to how your boyfriend wants it to be. Relax and try to get into the game. If you become nervous, take a moment to relax and let go. Your boyfriend will not judge you even if you are doing it the wrong way. Most men are attracted when a woman wants to dominate in bed. This enables them to focus entirely on you and how to please you. However, do not force things to work out if you are not in the mood. It will make the situation a whole lot worse. Be open verbally to your boyfriend instead of forcing yourself.

2. Change Your Attitude

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When it is a first time for a woman to dominate, it can be scary and at the same time exciting. Do not worry if you are not getting into the mood. It is all in the mind and your attitude. Once you tune your mind in learning how to be a dominatrix, then it becomes easy. Dominating in bed is mental even though one can see it physically. If you are having trouble concentrating, verbally ask your man for help.

3. Create Boundaries

If you are a first timer to dominate in bed, let your man know that you want to try it. Sit down with your man and discuss the dos and the don’ts. You can even come up with a code that you can verbally speak out when someone crosses the boundary. Learning to dominate in bed requires both parties to participate.

4. Start Your Dominance

Once the boundaries are set, then you can begin by being in the right mood. Create the right atmosphere that will relax your mind. Ensure your man gets naked while you dress in a sexy outfit. Some alone time is required too. Therefore, ensure there are no visitors at that particular time. When you start dominating in the bedroom, keep in mind never to belittle your man in other aspects of your livelihood. When it comes to bedroom matters this is the only place a man can let go and let you take control for a little while. Try to enjoy as you take charge.

5. Become Bossy

Dominance is all about being bossy. A man is attracted when you boss them around in the bedroom. A man can let you take charge of his sexual gratification as long as he knows that you will not demean him afterwards. Let your man undress as you finish your work. Take your time and let him wait for sometimes while he is in his birth suit. This will make your mans’ mind focus on you. Being bossy does not require you to cater for his needs. It is all about you and your needs.

6. Use a Dominant Technique That Works on Your Man

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People have different taste and style when it comes to dominatrix. If you have no idea which technique your man likes in dominatrix, you can try them all and see which one suits you both. Here are ways you can dominate a man. Discipline: This is similar to bondage but it requires punishment if your man disobeys your rules. If you set certain rules and your man does not follow them, then you get to punish him. There are ways to punish your man.

For example, you can punish your man physically by hitting or striking him with your hands, a cane, or a whisk. You can also use psychological punishment. This is by humiliating your man until he gets angry or by taking control of the things he accesses daily. The choice is yours. Sadism: Sadism is sexual arousal that comes when you are inflicting pain on your man. There are different ways you can use sadism. For example, you can hit your man or flog him. You can also use the humiliation method. Bondage: Bondage refers to restraining your man from accessing the things he wants by tying his hands and legs.

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7. Get Rough to Dominate

After setting the boundaries, it is time to get rough and naughty with your man. If you become too rough, your man has the secret code, which he can communicate verbally to you.

8. Tie Him and Tease Him

A man is at your mercy when you restrain him in bed using straps. You can tease your man by stroking him, riding him then pulling it off when he is almost climaxing or by licking him up until he begs for your mercy. You can do anything to your man and he will not be able to object. Take advantage and explore your man’s body. Know what tickles him up.

9. Explore Your Man’s Fantasies

When you have tied your man down, get him to confess his fantasies. Play around with his fantasies until he begs you to let go. You can get him to do the things you desire if he wants his fantasies fulfilled. Make him be at your mercy. Take advantage and make a deal with him to buy you something you always wanted.

10. Become Naughty By Touching Yourself As He Watches You

Let your man observe you as you touch yourself in a sexy way. Forbid him to touch himself or you. Let him suffer as he imagines what he would do to you. If your man disobeys your rules, do not let him off the hook. Deal with it by disciplining him appropriately. Ensure you do not severely hurt your man. This teaches your man to have discipline and self-control.

11. Declare Yourself the Queen

Let your man know that you are the queen and he will do as the queen says. You can order your man to wash dishes for you or get him to massage your whole body as you wish. The choice is yours. Let your man know that you are in control and if he does not do as told, you will punish him. By declaring yourself the queen, you will dominate him entirely. A woman who knows what she wants attracts a man from afar. Be that kind of a woman when it comes to dominating in the bedroom and you will have your man eating from the palm of your hand.

12. Control Your Mans’ Orgasm

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A man is attracted to a woman who takes control of his sexual gratification. The best way to control your man’s orgasm is by tying him up either on the chair or the bed. Use an authoritative language to let your man know you are in control. Go down on him and when you feel he is about to climax, stop, and take break. This will frustrate him if you repeat it. Your man will beg you to finish it once and for all. Do not give in to his demands. Rather, let him know you are in charge. Repeat it as many times as you wish.

13. Use a Role Play

You can let your man know that you are having an awkward moment being yourself while you are dominating. Use a role-play if you are having a hard time being yourself. You can use a character you and your boyfriend love or pretend to be a dominatrix. Role-playing helps you to get into the mood of dominating in the bedroom. To spice things up, let your man know that he has a dominatrix later on. This will excite him and long to get home after work.

14. Use Dominant Sex Positions

You can use dominant sex positions to overpower your man in bed. An example of a dominant sex position is the cowgirl. If your man tries to take over, stop the sexual act and let him know you are in control. It is a natural thing for a man to take control when it comes to sex. Therefore, let your man know this is your time and he should not spoil it for you. Make sure you choose the dominant sex position you wish. Choose the sex pace and let him follow your move. Let your man know how you like being touched and he should not climax until you do. This will excite your man since you are taking control of the sexual act. Let your man rehearse this until he gets it right. You can offer him a deal; if he gets it right, you will reward him as he wants.

15. Practice Dominance with Someone You Trust

If you want to get in the right mood for dominating, you will have to do with a man you are comfortable with and trust. Dominating needs a man who cannot judge you nor think wrong of you. Do this with a man you trust since there is going to be awkward moments that you will need to laugh about with him. If you are new in dominating, you need a man who can assure you, support you, and let you be yourself. Your man should be able to maintain respect even after your crazy ordeal together. You will enjoy dominating in the bedroom with a man you can trust. 

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Luckily, most women are quick learners and they learn how to dominate a man in the bedroom very fast. In order to dominate, you need the right attitude, an open mind, and a partner in crime. As a woman, you will find that to become a dominatrix is easy, powerful, and exciting to control your man in the bedroom. You and your man will not have to speak verbally to know what the other has in mind. One naughty look at each other and you both get what it means. The minute you apply these tips you will be on your way to become dominant and exciting in bed.

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