Does He Still Love Me: 12 Obvious Signs That Tells

There are many reasons why you might begin asking this kind of question: "How do I know if he loves me?" Are you in doubt of his affections or true feelings? Have you been together for a long time that it feels like your relationship has already become stagnant and monotonous?

Maybe your loved one cheated on you or broke up with you. You find yourself wondering if he still cares for you - if there is still love in his heart. Here are some signs that could give you a peek into what's really going on inside his mind and heart.  

You have been with your loved one for a very long time. Your deep dedication for each other or the bond of marriage have kept you going despite all those long years. However, because of the length of your relationship, everything about it makes it seem so every day, so ordinary. After all this time, how could you still be sure that your partner still loves you - that the fires of your love has not dimmed in him yet?

One of the ways that you can be sure about his devotion is that he treats you like his best friend. He likes spending a lot of time with you and he compromises - maybe you could play that new game he likes and tomorrow, you could watch your favorite chick flick together.

He is not afraid to be himself around you that is confident that you would accept both his good and bad side completely. Most of all, he idoes not hesitate to be honest when it comes to his real thoughts and feelings with no fear of judgment or misunderstandings. 

After all the years that you have been together, it must be impossible that he has not yet seen you at your best and more importantly, your worst. Even if you showered him with dragon fire during that one argument, he still loves you. Even if you constantly nag him about his messy habits, he still understands you completely. 

He understands that like him you also have your flaws and shortcomings. And he knows that this is all part of who you are - of the woman he has chosen to be with after all the years that passed. He also believes and trusts that you would to love and treat him the same way. 

You have been together with your boyfriend or husband for such a long time that everything has become normalized. What is so special about sleeping and waking up with him each day and having almost every meal together? The fact that he stayed with you every day since the beginning is already proof enough that he still loves you. Most people search for years and years to find what you have with him - don't take it for granted!

I know, I know - this still does not excuse him from going big every now and then. He should not forget your anniversary, your birthday or that special date on Valentine's day. Other than going the extra mile on these occasions, he will also try to make every day feel like you are on an adventure. He will make sure that every small daily gesture - every smile, hug, and kiss - will make your heart race. 

You have been together for a long time that sometimes you think back about the person that you were before. You will realize that you have changed and you will also notice that he has changed. Time alters the priorities we have and the kind of values that we put on people. If he still loves you, he will see the changes in himself not as a hindrance but as a sign of growth. 
 
He will value every memory that you made together, every problem and challenge that you overcame. He will cherish the strength and support that he gained from a true partnership with you. He sees you as a blessing in his life, a beacon that has truly led him to become a better person. 

You may or might not be in a long-term relationship, but the difference between you and the situation of the previous section is that your loved one has cheated on you. You suffered through such as devastating pain, betrayal, and heartbreak. Despite all that has happened, you are still in love with him and you want to stay with him. But you find yourself in a dilemma: even if you are in love with him, is he still in love with you?

A sure-fire way for you to know that he loves you after his infidelity is when he stops cheating on you. He gives up the other woman, no questions asked. He never makes contact with her again: no chats, no emails, no texts, and no phone calls. All his attention is on you. 

He does this with or without you asking him to do it. He does it sincerely out of the knowledge that he has done you wrong. He stops the affair because he does not want to lose you and your love.

He has offered you a sincere and whole-hearted apology. However, he does not stop at a simple apology. Every word, action, and gesture that he offers you is a peace offering. Every day that you spend with him and all the activities that you do together give you a sense of love and deep repentance after he has hurt you. 

He might also go the extra mile and maybe take you on an ultra-special romantic date to renew his commitment to you. He might also gift you that one thing that has been a part of your wish list for the longest time - a limited edition collectible or a book signed by your favorite author. However, one of the best gifts that he could offer is a complete attitude makeover when it comes to being a faithful spouse or boyfriend.  

Another way that you can find out if your spouse or boyfriend still loves you after the affair, is that he is honest about his mistake. He has admitted to you all the details of his infidelity. He talks about how he has reflected deeply on how his actions have left a tear in your relationship. 

An even more compelling sign of his love for you is when he also admits that his wrongdoings to other people such as your friends and family. This means that he has fully accepted his mistake and has probably resolved to learn from the experience and never commit the act again. 

In addition to the sweet, romantic gestures, the sincere apology and his honest declaration of what he has done, he has also given you a beautiful promise. He swears that he would never be unfaithful again. He tells you with a conviction that you are the only woman in his life. 

He proves that these promises are not only plain words. He keeps them and every time that he is tempted or is being challenged by a particular situation, he comes to you and tells you about it. He does his best to heal your relationship and prevent himself from hurting you again. 

Your relationship with your spouse or boyfriend ended with a break-up. The circumstance has left you feeling alone and unloved. Even if he and you are over, you know deep in your heart that you still yearn for him. You are still hoping that maybe one day he would realize that you were the one all along and come back to you.

The question is how do you know if he feels the same way? How can you tell if he wants the same thing as you?

Even after the break-up, whether or not he found someone else or not, he still keeps reaching out to you. Despite your agreement that there would be no further contact with each other, he still leaves you the occasional texts and missed calls. His messages express a sense of longing and regret.

When he goes out drinking with his best friends, you might also receive drunken calls from him. He tells you far too much and says things that reveal what is honestly in his heart. He also never fails to remember to greet you at Christmas, on your birthday and maybe even on the date of your previous anniversary.

Maybe he has found someone new but perhaps through the way he desperately tries to reach out to you, you can still feel that he still harbors deep emotions for you. You notice how obviously happy he is to see you or how he makes you feel important and missed. 

He might also try to make you feel jealous by parading his new relationship. It can also be the other way around where he feels envious when you have begun dating someone else. Either way, you can tell that he is still emotionally affected with all things that relate to you. 

Even if your relationship is over your ex-boyfriend still tries so hard to maintain his connection to you. He invites you to eat out with him or maybe to see an installment of a movie series that you both love. He might also ask if you have time for a chat or catch up on each other's lives over a cup of coffee.

Although it might be a little bit awkward, he would hang out with you and your group of friends so you never stay out of touch. He asks you constantly as well about your work, your hobbies, and interests. In fact, he makes sure that even though you are just friends now, he is still interested in knowing you and all the important things about you. 

One last sure sign that your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband is still in love with you is when he says and shows how much he cares about you. Every time that you need some heavy lifting done or if you need to have something in the house fixed, he would readily come to your aid. Every time that you feel sad and need a listener or a shoulder to cry on, he would always make time for you.

In the most important moments of your life such as graduation, birthday or opening up a business, he is present. He will also show this in how concerned he is about your well-being, your job or if you are eating healthy and on time. An important sign of love is when you think about your loved one's welfare more than yours.

Serbian tennis player, Novak Djokovic explains in his quote how being loved can be a source of happiness. Human beings are created as a social creature. We simply cannot live alone. Within us is the constant desire to love and be loved. 

Will Smith's wife and American actress, Jada Pinkett Smith remind us in her quote how true love is not dependent on what is seen on the surface such as your physical appearance. For a person to be truly in love with you, he has to know your entire self: both the good and the bad. He should love you and your whole existence totally and unconditionally. 

Pete Wentz, American singer, and Fall Out Boy member tells us that finding a person that is genuinely in love with us means finding someone who you will be comfortable sharing your whole self to. With the right person, you can be yourself with no pretenses. You can be completely honest about your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs and he would show you nothing but understanding and acceptance. 

As a spiritual teacher, Ram Dass shares his wisdom on life and love in this quote. He makes you more positive and optimistic when it comes to love. He reminds us that even though human beings are imperfect and fallible, we can still be capable of selfless, unconditional love. 

Whatever personal circumstance you might possess when it comes to your love life, know that the signs of true love are those words and actions that are nothing but selfless. As you have noticed in the different signs mentioned above, he who genuinely loves you can lead you only to what is good for you. Authentic love in a person can be described as nothing less than pure and beautiful - it is a love capable of transforming people to be the happiest and best versions of themselves that they can be.