Causes, Symptoms And Treatments For Obsessive Love Disorder

The Netflix new hit 'You' has got many people discussing about obsessive love disorder and how destructive it can be for both sides. While the TV show can be a bit of an exaggeration of how obsessive love disorder works (or maybe not for some extreme cases), you should still learn more about it so you know when to get help if it sounds like you or your partner has got it!

Obsessive love disorder means one feels an overwhelming need to posses and protect someone they love. One would feel the need to stop one's love from doing things they don't approve of, even if one has to take extreme measures to do so.

Suffering from obsessive love disorder will cause you to be overly jealous of every tiny little thing and is considered a mental health problem. It's not healthy for the patient and people around him/her, read this article to find out more about this disorder and how to deal with it.

If your girlfriend is jealous of you going out with another girl for drinks, don't worry, then she's just like the rest of the 75% of girls. However, if your girlfriend is jealous of you hanging out with your own family (mom, sister etc), or even upset at you wanting a little bit of alone time, that's a major red flag.

She has a strong desire to have you at all times and is not happy that you are giving your time to anyone else. She wants you to be only hers. You're not a barbie doll. It's one thing to be jealous when you hang out with other girls, it's another thing to want to have control over you completely.

You feel the need to stalk the one you love 24/7, making sure you know what they're up to. If you lose track for a few hours, you get anxious and upset and don't know what to do. We're all FBI agents sometimes when we're curious about someone, but you know you're taking it too far when it physically makes you nauseous when you can't get a hold of their activity.

A typical move by people with this disorder. They will most likely make fake accounts to harass people they see as a treat that stand between them and you. Or worse, they will stalk people around you in hope that they can know you better by knowing them better.

If he hits you just because you didn't listen to something he said and he pulls out a lot list of 'evidence' to accuse you of something you did, he may be just too into you, in a really bad way. He is stalking you, compulsive and dominance. They will think you have to listen to them, both because it's the best for you and for them, but it's not. It will only suck for them because they just don't want to share with you.

You need to call someone for help if this ever happens to you. Don't think you can change the other person with love and respect. They need love and respect, yes, but also immediate assistance from professionals so they don't pose as a threat, to you or anyone else. Don't give them a chance to hurt you physically. If you see a red flag, act on it.

Obsessive love disorder is considered a mental health problem. It's hard to generalise the psychology for every patient but there're usually a few typical ones. You should look into the situation case by case for a better analysis and take this as your reference.

They may have been told they're not enough their whole life and never felt their worth. So they start to develop the need to completely control someone's life just to feel that they can too, be powerful and worth something. That's a big reason for the insane jealousy. They want to know that they can stop you from doing something if they want to boost their self-esteem.

Another common psychology behind the obsessive love disorder. They never had a healthy relationship with their family growing up and never felt empowered to be a part of something. That's why when they fall in love with someone, they tend to hold on to it, even if that means doing something destructive. They're scared of losing you, that's why they will do everything they can to make you stay, even by hurting you or people around you.

They think that they love you so much and will do everything for you but you're not doing the same in return. The more they feel that way, the more they want to control you, to feel you're their puppet. They have strong imbalanced feelings for you. At the end it may not even be about you. They're doing what they do probably not because they love you, but because they love themselves and feel that they should have what they want.

The first step to solving any mental illness is to admit that you have a problem. To be fair, a lot of times people suffering from different mental illness know that they have a problem deep down, they just don't want to face it so they pretend everything is fine until they can't control it anymore.

If you feel that something is no longer right about you, don't hesitate to ask for help. If you still want to have a healthy relationship but are struggling to piece your thoughts together, go to someone.

If you think someone around you has got obsessive love disorder, encourage them to get help by being there for them. Telling them a good relationship will only come if they're willing to make it healthy.

Since this is a mental illness, there's nothing better than going to a professional and let all your thoughts out so someone knows how exactly to treat it. It's important to let your psychotherapist know why you feel the way you feel so the right treatment can be given.

Very often proper medication has to be given to control some of the emotional symptoms. Don't be alarmed if you find out you have to take a lot of medication, it's part of the getting better process.

A lot of times people suffering from obsessive love disorder just can't devote themselves to another passion other than having another person completely. Encourage yourself or peple you know with the disorder to go out, spend some time in nature, to distant themselves from the others.

Nature is a magical healing tool. Go camping in the wild for a few days, you could easily find a new perspective of life.

Go to a psychotherapist to recommend you some certified support group meetings for others like you suffering from the same disorder. There you will find no judgement but love. You can finally let go of all the thoughts you've been holding up, even if those thoughts scare you.

A support group is great because you will find people going through the same thing as you, so you don't have to worry about being judged for your actions and thoughts. It's easier to break out of the uneasy thoughts you're having, together with someone that understands you, that encourages you to be a better person.

Some problems come from a deep rooted issue that you may not even realise was there. Simply by curbing your desire to posses someone may not be enough if the core issue roots from somewhere else. Identifying the core problem is the only way to make sure it doesn't happen again.

It could be something that you went through in your childhood, or it may not even be something that happened to you, just something that you once witnessed happened to someone. Again, the best way to identify the core issue is to talk to a certified psychologist/doctor.

Having obsessive love disorder is dangerous for both the patient and people around the patient. You could be hurting people you love without truly realising the consequences of your actions. If you see the symptoms mentioned above describe you or someone you know, please try your best to look for help.

Again, everything here is just the most common features of obsessive love disorder, go to a professional doctor or psychologist for a proper diagnose or treatment. You will, just like anyone else, find a beautiful and loving relationship when you, yourself, feel good and healthy about it.