How to Let Go Of Someone You Love Who Doesn't Love You Back
Everyone wants to get a return on the love they put in. Rarely is the love for someone that’s family truly unconditional. If you’re still putting in effort on someone that doesn’t love you back, it’s probably not because you want nothing in return, but that you’re still waiting, hoping one day he will change his mind and love you back.
This is a very dangerous thought. You’re allowing yourself to devote your time and love to someone that will never give back, and you’re telling yourself maybe one day it will change.
You need to tell yourself that he will never change, he will never give you what you want because he is just not interested in you. Then it will be easier to let go because you’re no longer waiting for something that will never happen.
As much as you would like to see him everyone, it’s time to take a step back and don’t stay in contact for a while so your mind and soul can heal. It takes time, you can’t just snap your fingers and your feelings will be gone. Give it some time and just work on yourself, without him.
How to Let Go Of Someone You Love Who Doesn't Love You Anymore
Love can change. You were once so in love with someone but now you are in love with someone else. It may not be anyone’s fault. Time changes, so does love. If your partner doesn’t love you anymore, you can only choose to move on.
A fresh start is always good. Looking at your old photo albums or the bed that you used to sleep on together could be very hard. You don’t necessarily have to throw everything away. But definitely keep them out of sight for a while. Take those photos and put them in a folder away in the back of the closet for a while. Get a new bed. Make a difference in the house so it won’t remind you so much of him.
Make a difference on yourself too. Go get your hair dyed into a crazy glowing pink or super bright blue, why not? Just have fun so you feel you’re different! Feeling fresh and new help you move on!
You once spent so much time with the person that also loved you. Memories are a thing that you can’t erase, and there’s no reason for you to. Those will forever be beautiful memories in your life, just that it’s now time to put those memories aside so you can create new ones.
Don’t confuse letting go and forgetting. Letting go doesn’t mean you should forget everything you’ve ever done with that person. It means that you need to take a step back for yourself until you feel comfortable enough to look back at your old memories and only smile upon them.
How to Let Go Of Someone You Love After A Breakup
A lot of people keep their exes on social medias like Facebook and Instagram just to be civil, or in hopes that one day the circumstances will change and they will be together again. Just remember, there’s nothing wrong with deleting your ex off your social medias if you don’t feel you want them in your life every again. It doesn’t make you a bad person. Definitely don’t keep them on social medias if you’re just hoping that you would get back together with them one day.
Things would be more complicated if you share the same friendship group. That usually happens if you met in high school or university. In that case, you would wonder what you should do, does a breakup between you two means you need to let go of your friends too?
While you should take some time for yourself, it’s also important to understand that your friends didn’t do anything wrong. They should never have to choose sides between you two. You can kindly ask your friends to hang out but without your ex. Seeing your ex won’t make it any easier to move on. If your friends are good to you, they should see that and will respect you.
Don’t linger on. If you don’t want to delete all the photos on your phone once and for all, at least transfer them to a hard drive so you can delete the copies on your phone. Keeping your old photos is never a good way to let go.
How to Let Go Of Someone You Love You Love Who is Toxic
You know he is toxic, but you still want to stay. The only way to break out of the circle and to let go is to figure out why you’re still around if you know it yourself that he is toxic for you. Is it because you think he can change? Or because you’re scared you won’t find someone else to love?
Every human has self-love and self-respect to a certain extent that they will leave someone once they realise the person is too toxic for them. It’s just a self-defence mechanism. If you aren’t doing that, you need to ask yourself why. Why are you still around? If you’re just afraid of not being able to find love again, you need to know that nothing is worse than being with a toxic person. This isn’t love, not even close.
Maybe you have some personal issues that you need to work on. You may feel overwhelmed by all the emotions you’re feeling and don’t know how to deal with them. The good thing is you know you need to stay away from him. He may be abusive towards you. In that case, you should go to a support group or a doctor if you find yourself too weak to let him go, so someone else can take actions for you.
For a lot of people, being around someone toxic has become the new normal for them that they just don’t know how to let go anymore. Talking to a therapist is a very good solution. Finding support from friends and family will also get you through a lot. Don’t be ashamed of your situation. The good thing is you know you need to let go, you just don’t know how to. So why not let someone help you? Asking for help is never wrong because it’s easier to solve the problem once you feel the courage and support from all the people that love and care about you.
How to Let Go Of Someone You Love You Love But Can't Have
There are many reasons why you can’t have someone. Maybe they aren’t available, maybe they are too far away or maybe they already passed away. Whatever the reason is, it’s not healthy to linger on. You should never forget them if you don’t want to. After all, they could once be in the best part of your life.
Many people have to let go of their partner after their death. It’s one of the most painful thing to go through in the world. The struggle between not wanting to let them go and knowing they won’t come back no matter what you do so you just have to move on and live a good life as the best way of remembering them.
Writing a book is surprisingly helpful. Write down every moment you shared with the person and end it by how you’re going to make your life wonderful so they don’t have to worry about you. To let go, you must let out. All those sad and negative emotions must be gone so you can only remember the best parts together.
You may have beautiful memories together, but now it just won’t continue anymore, it’s the sad truth. You can only choose to carry on on your own and live the best life possible so one day you can tell the person all about your adventures when you meet again, in heaven or in dreams.
Letting go of someone has never been easy, but unfortunately, often enough, it is necessary. You can’t open up the new chapter of your life if you can’t let go. Don’t ever confuse letting go to forgetting. Letting go of someone means you’re ready to have a new chapter of your life, no love and no hate for the people in your past. Forgetting means you simply just plan on not acknowledging that one person once existed in your life. Don’t erase your past. Accept it and learn from it.
You don’t have to erase any memories to let go. Just be grateful of what you’ve learnt from it.