Why Mixing With Bad Friends Are Cool But Not Worth It

At one point or another in our lives, we’ve all had that one (or even more) friend who wasn’t actually what they seemed to be. A so-called bad or fake friend. They made us feel very bad after playing the part of an amazing friend perfectly. They either betrayed us, lied to us or simply showed their true face which wasn’t very pretty. This is a standard definition of an unhealthy friendship with someone who we felt was completely different than they actually were.

However, the positive side in this unfortunately very popular problem is that after getting burnt once or twice, we can definitely spot a bad friend from a distance now. Or, at least, we should. Yes, mixing with these people might seem cool and all, but, in reality, it’s definitely not worth it. In today’s article, we will also explain to you why. Take some notes! You might need them next time you are approached by someone who seems too nice to be true. Usually, they are.

These so-called bad or fake friends usually start by being some of the nicest, kindest people that you ever met. They get close to you and, at first, you don’t exactly realize why. Maybe they simply like you? Not really. Most of the time, these people get close to you because they want something from you. It can either be experience, access to a bigger group of people, knowledge or anything else. It doesn’t even matter as long as their feelings for you are not real.

In order to gain a better understanding of these “bad friends” and their behavior, here are some of their main characteristics:

• They are fake: they will say whatever makes you happy just to keep that “friendship” alive or worse, they will lie straight to your face for their own good.
• For them, everything is a competition: they will approach anything in a friendly manner, but in reality, everything is a competition that they have to win against you.
• Talk time is only for them, not for you: this friend will only talk about themselves and their own problems while leaving you as a listener only. What happens to you is not important because they don’t care.
• Criticism: let’s get real, criticism can be constructive, but blunt critiques spoken at the most inappropriate of times is not really pleasant. A friend should be kind before anything else.
• You are always under stress: a friendship should not be stressful but calming. When you are always under constant stress whenever you meet with this person, they are a bad friend.

This is a very big question when it comes to these types of friendships. The biggest problem nowadays with young people is that they consider these bad friends as being the cool ones. They think that such a group of people will make them look cooler in the eyes of everyone else. However, there is a big problem here: bad friends should never be considered cool friends.

Unfortunately, lots of people fall into this trap nowadays. Coolness attracts them all with false promises of popularity and a big group of people around. However, being popular should not be the biggest accomplishment of one’s life, no matter how young or old they are. Being surrounded by fake people, lies, and betrayals at the cost of a cool-looking group is definitely not worth it. Instead, having fewer people around you but honest ones matters a lot more. Feeling calm and relaxed around those people is the best feeling that you can get from a healthy friendship. Think of this whenever you feel tempted to join a cool group of friends.

In case you are wondering what are some of the clearest signs that you are mixing up with bad friends, we can help you:

1. They only call you when they need something from you: equality in a friendship is the most valuable asset, which is why you should receive as much as you offer. Mutuality matters more than you think and you should think more about what they offer to you and how much you are receiving.

2. They never seem to be happy for you: this bears another name too “ competitive behavior” which is very unhealthy and should not exist in a friendship. If you notice that they never seem to like it whenever you are successful, throw them out of your life.

3. They gossip behind your back: if you find out that your “friend” has said something bad about you behind your back, that’s a clear signal that you have to end it all quickly. This is probably the worse mistake that a “friend” can make. A huge NO-NO!

4. They are a bad influence: again, having friends that make you do things that you are not really comfortable doing, regardless if it’s smoking, drinking, going to dangerous places, or anything else, it’s not a true friendship. Them being a constant bad influence on you might not only get you in trouble, but it’s a clear sign that they are a bad friend.

5. They bail on you frequently: some bad friends bail on you when you need them the most and it should be clear that they should not be part of your life. Good friends will listen to you even in the middle of the night during the weekday because you matter for them.

All in all, it appears that mixing with bad friends might seem like a cool idea in the beginning, but actually being there and going through everything they put you through is not that nice after all. It’s definitely an illusion of greatness, something that we want to achieve but forget that, in reality, we might simply hurt ourselves. So, we can only hope that we have opened your eyes a bit so that you can now spot those bad friends from a distance. They have their own common traits and you can easily recognize and which you should, by all means, avoid. Good luck!