The Meaning of Turn Offs
Today we will be talking about everything there is to talk about turn-offs, but first things first: what is a turn-off? Turn offs are basically anything a person can do or say that is found unappealing, disgusting, embarrassing, or uncomfortable. This action will then kill or turn off, hence the name, our existent desire or want for that person. And that is just about it.
Biggest Turn Offs For Girls
Generally, women are easy to attract and light up for men. I mean, there will be one or two that might seem impossible to conquer, but, essentially, it all comes down to personality and how he makes her feel. Also, there are two ways you can be seen by women: you will either be the kind of person who naturally provokes feelings of love, respect and attraction within a woman, or you will not.
Many guys are so so at attracting women, others are great and some are excellent. How about you? Do you have the ability to be able to provoke feelings of attraction within a woman when you interact with her or do you unknowingly turn off many women with weird unappealing actions?
Now, while it is easy to turn on women, it is also easy to turn them off.
Most women are attracted and excited by the way men's behavior, thought, actions, vibes, body language, and personality makes them feel. I mean, a man can be handsome, but if he makes the following classic mistakes, which in this case are turnoffs, women will run away from him immediately. Take some notes and avoid these at all costs if you wish to get any lady:
Turn offs on first dates
It is possible that your conversation flowed amazingly through the dating app in which you matched, you took it to WhatsApp and then planned to meet each other. Nothing would have to go wrong, right? Well, the incredible connection behind a screen is no guarantee that the charm will continue IRL. Appearance, as well as some attitudes, tend to lower the flame of romance or even turn it off completely. Here is a list of some of those things you boys should pay attention or avoid if you want a second date.
1. Getting drunk
When ordering a bottle of wine on a first date, you should always be aware of your resistance to alcohol. If you already know that two glasses is enough for you, adjust yourself and do not drink more than that amount. Nobody likes to be with a man that suddenly transforms into another (even if it is more uninhibited), much less on the first day. If it is embarrassing with friends and family, imagine with someone you hardly know. I mean, drunk men can get annoying quick!
2. Using his phone
Yes, we live glued to the cell phone all the time, but it is not cool to keep doing it whilst being face to face with someone, even worse, your date. It is important that you demonstrate a total interest in the girl you decided to take on a date and that implies respecting their time and presence. There is nothing as unpleasant as talking about what they like or what happened in the day and not being heard for women. I mean, they like attention, so give it to them for a few hours, we know you can!
I think this is an obvious turn off in any situation, not only first dates, but it is worth mentioning. It's very simple ... men need to smell good. In general, people need to smell good. A little deodorant and cologne do not hurt anyone. Come on, don't be the stinky disgusting men in the room!
4. Being a sexual freak
He sees your breasts or any other part of your body for more than 10 min and you keep thinking: "Hello, my face is up here, thank you!" We know that feminine attributes drive men crazy, but please do not be so OBVIOUS ... at least have the decency to look when we are not paying attention!
There is also the type of man that has a creepy and kind of freaky look when he sees your body, and there is nothing more uncomfortable than that.
It is even worse when they start to talk "dirty" (unless it is a very sexual date and you know with certainty that you will end up having sex) Behave, guys, it will make them get out of there!
5. Being arrogant
Arrogant men bother women like no other does. They will want to get the hell out of that date! Never have the "I'm gorgeous, I'm the best, I have this and that, I have the best job, all the women see me, etc. " attitude on the first date. Just DON'T. It is just incredibly annoying and unattractive that she will never want to hear about those things ever again.
While Dating in a Relationship
Who says men don't have turnoffs when they are in a relationship? They do have many, let me tell you. Here are the main five you got to look out for:
6. Being insecure
Nobody wants to have someone who constantly needs to be reminded that they are attractive, that you want them, that you will not leave them, that you do not text anyone else, amongst many other things. Being an insecure man is not "sexy" at all. I would even dare to say that it is one of the biggest turnoffs of the bunch, nobody can really take this for a long time. Before entering into a relationship, work with your insecurities, not to be the most narcissistic, but to be a firmer and happier person with who you are.
7. Talking sh*t about their ex
Women realize everything, including when you are pissed and hurt because your ex-girlfriend left you and now is more beautiful than ever, or anything like that, even after they are with you. Speaking badly about your ex-partner leaves a lot to say about you. Women will begin to think that you are "hater" or just resentful, and can't get over your ex. I mean, move on, dude.
Also, who says they won't be talking this way about you too if you ever end your relationship? Nobody is willing to take that risk. Just don't do it.
8. Being too nice
Yes, I know this seems to go against everything your father or another person of an older generation might have told you about dating, but being too kind is one of the most common turnoffs for women nowadays.
Don't get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a good guy, but in a woman's eyes, there is a fine line between being "good" and being weak or just too much. Women want a "good boy", but they also want him to be strong, powerful, and reserved; a man with genuine self-confidence and a relaxed ability to lead the way in a relationship.
When a boy is too nice, he hesitates to take the initiative and turns everything into a joint decision, which is something women don't actually want, even though they might not say it. Women are attracted to men who have what it takes to make them feel feminine, so putting them in a position of "taking charge" or having to be part of every decision turns them off. Keep that in mind.
9. Tries too hard
Continuing with the above, being too kind can often lead to trying too much. Out of desperation or fear, men can act this way and, contrary to what many movies can make you believe, modern women do not like to be placed on a pedestal and guys who throw themselves to their feet.
For example, a boy who tries too much will give you flowers on every date. This seems to be considered a wonderfully romantic gesture that women love in movies but in the real world, it's another one of those turnoffs men do! Why? Well, women don't like to be spoiled for no reason. It is just too clingy and too much.
Men with genuine self-confidence do not have to work hard for women to like them. They feel comfortable with themselves and that is enough. No need to try more.
10. Bad kissing
This might even seem funny, but what a huge turnoff it is to be a bad kisser. It can even be a reason to end any relationship with him.
I'm sure many of you have had the terrible kissing experience in which you ended up drenched in saliva and nauseous after the kiss.
Women do not want to be kissed like that ... yuck!
These turnoffs shouldn't be an issue for you guys after reading this article. Just avoid them, don't do any of these things on any circumstances or for any reason ever in your life, and women will never feel uncomfortable, disgusted or not attracted to you. It is as easy as that, kind of.